Dear COLlive readers,
I am the biological mother of the boy in the article titled “An Orphan With 2 Mothers.”
While I appreciate the concern this man had for my son, he took it too far.
What he failed to mention is that my son suffers from 4 rare medical conditions. The woman with him was not his nanny because we don’t have the financial means to have a nanny. Raising a medically fragile child is costly and we get no state benefits.
She was my son’s home health-care aide. Not only did she tell him that, she also showed him her badge from the agency that she works for. He then pulled out his iPad and took a picture of them.
I confirmed with my son about the events. He is almost 6 year-old and not 4, as this man assumed. My son said that the aide told the man that she was working with him and that he was no more than 5-feet from her side, not behind her.
I have a Jewish baby sitter for when I do leave the house (according to law, the aide cannot babysit my son). My husband and I are very hurt by what his person wrote and the comments that followed which just proves that people should not judge others until they have walked a mile in my shoes.
Thank you,
The mother (full name was given to COLlive)
There are two different stories
You collive comments make my day! u guys are hysterical
where do u get the idea that we might possibly be jealous that your children are being cared for by some incompetent low-life? we feel bad for them actually, and worse for you cuz you may never find out what really happened.
It was already mentioned (several times) that the author didn’t write that. COL editors added that in.
good point
you should be embarrassed by the way you’re thanking this man.
To all those defending the author,
While his points may have been valid, his tone was out of line. there is a big difference between saying “mothers, be careful…” to saying “this kid has 2 mothers” or calling the child an orphan.
By over-dramatizing, you have encouraged the negative comments, and hurt the mother and family of this child, who as we now know have enough hardship to deal with.
חכמים הזהרו בדבריכם.
To the mother,
You have my blessing for easy raising, and don’t let anything get you down.
I am an 18 year old girl from CH looking for a babysitting job. Please contact me: (718) 555-7839. Looking to hear from you asap!
NO ONE is begrudging you your dear nanny.
But why not a nice Jewish one, instead?! Like a nice Russian Bubby… be honest with yourself… is it cuz its so much cheaper to have a 2-in-1 housekeeper and cleaner?
DO you have any idea what music, songs, language, converstaions and food your dear neshama is exposed to on a daily basis/.
THAT weighs a milllllllllion times more than your much-needed manicure.
Will you stop judging the next mother in Lefferts Park who has her nanny with the baby so she is out at work? the next mother who is home with 5 others and has 2 babies who desperately need air with the nanny at the park? will you hate the woman who knows that she should go to work so that she can have sanity? are you seething with so much jealousy for the hardworking women who want to train their children to be self sufficient one day? will you still hate the woman who is wise enough to take… Read more »
i would think you as a mother would wright a articale to thank this man instead your bashing him he was only looking out for your child
I’m so glad I left this community years ago. Leiby’s killer is Jewish and looked frum. He took the poor kid to a wedding in Monsey and noone had the foresight to see that there was anything wrong. Instead the lesson learned is if the colors do not match, let’s become parnoid and throw a hissy fit. When I see more responsible frum parents watching their kids then I will start to look for more areas of how we can protect our kids better. In the meantime look in your community and see: How many irresponsible parents are watching your… Read more »
Remember this article.
https://collive.com/show_news.rtx?id=15456&hl=Mind+your+own+business
this should be left to the marents to deal with not the whole world
-there is a lot of neglect going on…and mothers will always rather believe their nanny’s cuz its too scary otherwise…im not talking just abt this story but in general…
Just imagine what kind of challenges this mother faces daily, yes this man took the correct action, but how he then went about
PUBLICLY humiliating the mother is shameful.
Please think BEFORE you speak/write.
As if you know if it’s real. 5 y.o. doen’t want to get in trouble for not staying with caregiver…. you can’t really take him at his word. Or those details may not be important to him, so he wouldn’t remember. It’s also possible the kid wanted to protect the caregiver (they’re probably somewhat close), so he misstated facts. What’s the problem with taking a picture? Perhaps he thought he may need some kind of evidence in the future. I don’t see how he took it too far. Also, if #24 (passerby) really was there, he/she doesn’t seem to be… Read more »
Judgment is the mother of ensuring safety…just saying.
I was there.
– the child was walking BEHIND the woman.
– the woman VOLUNTEERED information saying that she’s the mother.
I witnessed the story and details as it was written in the original article.
hi mom – (i know you)
you could have been me when my son was your sons ages and all the comments i got as well —
am sorry for this inconsiderate fool for not fining out what was going on and proud of you for sticking up for the aide
hugs to you, both your beautiful sons and to the caring aid
You’re challenging the details of a story in which you were not present, simply on the basis that the guilty party told you it didn’t happen that way, coupled with the testimony of a very confused 5 yr. old.
…did she say she was his mother? Why?
That the mother pointed out the truth behind the facts that we we read in the other article. 1) the child was close to his health aide, who was watching him! 2) the aide showed her ID, and knowing health aides- she probably had her ID around her neck or clipped to her shirt. 3) Most Health aides wear shirts that resemble hospital scrubs 4) the author of the article implied that the mother was galavanting around the Atlantic mall while her children were hefker with a “nanny”.. 5) Shame on all of the nasty commenters above! This mother wanted… Read more »
You read it wrong. I am thankful, I just felt that it was taken to far and that the article was not needed and that all of the nasty comments were uncalled for when the readers did not have the whole truth. Even the aide said she was thankful but that it just went to far.
No good deed goes unpunished.
I am not sure why we are comparing every time we see a nanny or aide to the Jewish guy who killed leiby? I also think that if any if you mothers were in this mother shoes you would withhold your comments. I have a special needs son and life is very difficult sometimes to fully care for him and my other children. I do need help and the Jewish girls who are suppose to come for friendship circle or for res hab seem to think that it is couch or texting times. The goyim at least help us take… Read more »
the point is not if the kid has issues or wtvt, the point is that the nanny left him alone!
yes we shouldnt judge, i dont think the man was judging the mother, if what he described is true, he is right. BH nothing bad happend but if chas veshalom it would. i think he was right and wouldnt be upset at him, maybe just with the title.
You were not present, yet other people saw the whole thing.
I’m not sure why it makes a difference if a 4 yr. old is left unattended or if a 5 yr. old is left unattended. Factoring another few months into his age doesn’t make him any safer. Leiby Kletzky was 9. Your child’s health-care aide was spotted (not just by the author) walking several feet ahead of your son with her back turned.
The kid with no supervision could of been ………….
This man stopped to think about the safety of your child. You owe him a thank you! The way you respond to this in such negative tone, gives the entire community a very cold message about being concerned for another child and asking those questions which might end up saving lives. We’ve all learned a lesson from Leiby Kletzky. Why are you undo-ing it just to save your dignity?
I did not read anything offensive in the article itself (comments notwithstanding). I would appreciate any person (of any color) taking an interest and paying attention to these things. I was on Kingston Avenue yesterday and noticed a nanny with 3 children (1 in the stroller) 2 kids playing very close to an open cellar door. I politely pointed out to the nanny that the door was open, as I would have pointed it out to a parent/sibling. Should we keep our eyes closed, and CH’V hear about tragedies after they happen? The issue of non-Jewish babysitters is separate and… Read more »
I dont understand this at all, why did the lady say she was the mother, obviously if someone says she the mother and does not look like it at all of course the person will be concerned, and be thankful for someone having there eyes open and being concerned
Today it was the aid tommorow …. Who knows???? Who’s ganna be with your son
Thank you for clarifying your side of the story. HOWEVER, you should have a bit more gratitude to this man. Remember Leiby Kletzky. He was only only acting in you son’s best interest, and that should be touching to you. Better make yourself look like a fool then be sorry.
I think the parents are foolish into being “offended” in this case. The passerby was merely concerned for the well being of the child, who was obviously not being careful about the safety of the child and not doing her job properly. Its irrelevant whether it was an aide or a nanny. the parents should have been appreciative of the passerby for giving a darn about their child and doing what they could to help! In my opinion the parents are missing the point there. the point was not to blame the parents. it was to alert them to the… Read more »
POWER TO YOU FOR STANDING UP.
if I was the kid’s parents…. just from reading the title!
This article is a happy ending and we are glad your child is safe.
However I believe is applaudibile that other person notice something strange and brought that to our attention no with the idea of judgement but crime prevention.
May lot’s of people be like the gentelman that “hurt you” because can save lives that way thinking.
May Hashem grant you all support needed to raise your child well and safe
Ouch! Powerful lesson!! Don’t judge and don’t assume!!
I figured he was over reacting. Many jewish kids have not jewish babysitters, the jewish ones are too expensive and dont clean. My “nanny” is a wonderful women from Mexico that loves my children and is a kind aidle person.