Last month, the COLlive inbox received letters describing frustration with the local Shidduch scene.
One writer mentions reaching out to Shadchanim and not receiving a proper response.
For a decade, ChabadMatch has been organizing Meet Shadchanim events. At these events, Shadchanim are prepared and focused on investing many hours of their time in meeting directly with singles. That focus enables them to give singles attention, and often, to come up with good suggestions. At the last event, 7 singles got engaged thanks to suggestions that were made after having these one-on-one, personal meetings.
This Sunday’s event will have more than 20 Shadchanim including Elana Bergovoy, Shandel Blasberg, Rochel Bryski, Libby Chein, Chaya Cohen, Chumy Delevkowitz, Raizy Edelman, Rivky Fellig, Leah Gansburg, Mashie Greenberg, Cipi Junik, Faige Lobel, Yocheved Miller, Yael Michelashvili, Akiva Perl, Chani Raksin, Miriam Raksin, Sara Leah Rubenstein, Laya Slavin, Bayla Spalter, and Channa Weisz.
Rabbi Yossi Ives will also be speaking on: “What I wish someone would have told me earlier?”
Make a “Keli”, and register for the event at: www.chabadmatch.com/register
What about male singles?
Bochurim are from 8:00pm-10:00pm
Not kosher
Bochurim hours are from 8-10pm
Some of the same people who don’t bother answering or are busy “ thinking of a name “ for the past year …. Now sitting together so what’s the point ?
My son is in shidduchim and so many times a shadchan has sent a resume to a girl’s mother and THEY are the ones who ignore. Instead of saying no, they just ghost the shadchan. It works both ways
The shadchan needs to follow up. If no one follows up people assume there’s no need to respond.
Also when a shadchan actually follows up, it often results in people taking a second look and maybe deciding its worth a shot.
I agree, I am talking about the shadchan actually following up and the person just ignoring them. Trust me, it happens all the time
There are 20+ Shadchanim, if you weren’t satisfied with the ones you met last time, this is an opportunity to meet new ones. One never knows who will come up with an idea.
This is wonderful.. can we make one also for a little older and the second time scene
I don’t see mention of an age frame or restriction for only first time marriage, for this event
in the small print it says Open to singles under 35
Thank you!
Can there more explanation of what ChabadMatch does, and how it works.
Are there any experts (Rabbi Ives?) involved? Can THEY encourage more use of this system?
Are there any Rabbonim involved?
Every good deed to help in Shidduchim is greatly appreciated.
Much Hatzlacha!
It’s a database with 3000 profiles of Chabad singles. There is an algorithm that makes suggestions based on the details in the profile. Shadchanim use it to find ideas, and parents/singles can do limited searches. Last month 17 couples got engaged via the site.
They tell u that now mothers have to suggest a name and then the shadchin can help you.
How much are you willing to pay a Shadchan?
Are you willing to pay by the hour?
Where is Rebitzin Leibowitz? Why would I go to an event without the most dynamic Shadchan there. We should hear besuros tovos
stop complaining and blaming get on the phone and suggest a shidduch for someone else
Who are some good contacts in our community who help match up more modern singles? My friend is baalei teshuva, went to Chabad yeshiva and is very close with Chabad, but is a bit more modern/laid back. Thank you!