The video was created for the North American Shidduch Initiative of the Kof-K Kosher Supervision/Vaad L’Mishmeres Kashrus.
Directed by Yankee Teitelbaum
She’s Older Than Me. So What?
Tu B'Av: Frum men (and shaddchanim) speak openly about marrying someone their age or even older than them. Video
Tu B'Av: Frum men (and shaddchanim) speak openly about marrying someone their age or even older than them. Video
Read comment #24 …Start COMMITTING to the idea (and being sure) that less-than-ideal is actually GOOD. Less-than-ideal is more than just “pretty cool”/pretty ok – it’s how Hashem made us. Look at yourself – none of us are “ideal.” We all have work to do. If this wasn’t true, we’d be Hashem. And actually the whole point of marriage is to WORK to build, do teshuvah, and turn a mundane, seemingly impossible arrangement (a man and a woman bonding) into a kiddush Hashem and into a potential that we cannot achieve by being alone. Marriage is not some arrangement for… Read more »
altough i’m not sure the video made me feel better about it, or worse
well written!!!!
Guys, remember one important thing…OLD AGE HOMES ARE ALMOST ALL WOMEN….so. If you want to live as long as your wife, she must be statistically several years older than you! Bravo for posting this video.
alot of girls want an older and taller guyy
The joke is on you. Thank G-d for wise people.
Yasher Koach
I ditto #6
The individual must be
1) Humble (able to admit not knowing an answer, an able to refer u to a more qualified expert)
2) Compassionate (cares deeply about the anguish of others)
3) Kind-Giver (Generous with ones time, effort, and resources)
These 3 qualities + expertise (good track record in the field)
being consulted renders one a fitting Guide/mentor to be followed
……
The Rebbe assures that a (Proper) Yedid Mavin will have sayaata daaya in channelling the Rebbe’s answer (bracha and Haskama)
Very wel said!!
Insightful and useful Thank you!!
I agree. You make the most sense.
Don’t miss this site. Amazing! My sister got engaged with them.
MyShidduch.net
BRILLIANT!!!
I could not stop laughing!!! This is a pathetic video and a lame attempt to get people to ignore age… It doesn’t touch upon any important things!
Well said!
Maybe some advice to finding theYedid Mavin.
הלואי…….
Yes #14 She was and it wasn’t an issue.
Some perspective to you on your words from someone who is married, thank G-d, and who is concerned for you: Don’t “hope” the shidduch will work. Go in with the ATTITUDE that it WILL work. Like the Rebbe warned, don’t be complacent, especially towards building your life! Also, what would Avraham, Yitzhak, and Yaakov say? Make a commitment to the ATTITUDE of “YES” (affirmative) and “IT’S GOOD” Be like the beis din. In the beis din, there’s no “Uh, maybe” or “We hope…” At 28 years old, choose YES, you’re not going to get any better staying single. Choose “YES,… Read more »
Sometimes it’s girls that want someone older, not just the boys that reject girls because of the age
But, I agree with those who commented that your bashert IS your bashert, G-d chose it for you, do you can reject till tomorrow but the person who is ment to be spending the rest of his life with you will eventually get to you iyh (wow that sounds scary :D)
But yeah so just go for it
hatzlacha to everyone me included iyh 🙂
These were the shadchanim mentioned on this article.
R Tzodek Katz.
R PD Roth
R Aaron Mueller
Not heard about them, can ne 1 give their tel.no if they happy to help in shidduchim.
let me explayn how #5 does make sense.
By saying ”more than three and less than 4 years…”, meaning to say, 3 years is ok, 4 you ask a rov and 5 you should not marry.
cuestion: didn’t the rebe sayd 10 years?
Very nice!
It helps to be the type of person eho seeks out guidence and direction from those who deserve the title “yedid mavin”
As in someone who is themselves a living example of a happy jew (in their marriage, family etc) to consut a carring chossid, who has a clear personal track record of success in the area being consulted
Davka through consulting a mashpia/mentor (who fits the Rebbe’s criteria to be a mentor) is the way to stop making mistakes and start attracting the brachah hashem has for us
IKARIM vs TFELIM
Yiras Shomayim and Middos Tovos! As well as mental and physical health (each case determined by a Rov if there’s a question)Once the couple meet, they must both discover hamshochas halev, (mutual attraction)That’s the Rebbe’s guidance summed up.
you said it all soo well…….i understand what your saying we are both 28 (hahahahaha) well all i can say i really hope tomorrow nite works out…im iyh taking her to a really beautiful garden! do u thimk that is a good place to date?
the right person is the right person. end of story. age, height, weight, don’t matter. if you don’t figure that out at some point you’ll be a sorry alter kaker.
The only issue I see is that often the girls are more mature than the boys to begin with.
cant believe this is on collive. I am dating a nice guy who is, nebach, divorced. he is 27, yet we share the same values. If we were to get engaged, (i hope we do) nothing would be wrong at all. I mean, if its beshert, its beshert. age wont be stopping me from settling down.
i am 28 year old bochur…….i have been through everything in the shiduch world ! finally from guidance from a mashpia and parents i am goimg out tommoroow night…..and a =m really davening it goes well
shimmy b
I have a son of 25 and we are open to older girls.
It is so totally silly to reject someone b/c of age.
its not the way to go.
You can be like me… continue to find excuses not to listen to your mashpia , and be a bochur into your 30’s, G-d forbid, because “I know better.” The result: many wasted years and suffering.
Eventually, thank G-d, I got “smart”/bittul and listened to my mashpia. Only now – with my kallah and impending kinder from Hashamayim, please G-d – is my life’s potential being realized!
Do not delay.
You’re answer makes no sense in the English language
True age is nothing now, but when you are in your 50s it may become an issue for the woman if she ages faster then her husband…
Enough of these pathetic “shidduch crisis” op eds and articles about the crisis
Its time to reestablish the tu b’av the way it used to be with the girls going out on the street and the bochurim finding the right one an aishes chayol and that’s will take away the “crisis” u never hear of shidduch crisis in the times of the gemara y because they weren’t so picky
The Rebbe says even three years older and more than three and less than 4 years one needs to ask a rav.
What about a few years older?
The day after you are married, age means nothing. This is so true.
Amazing
Its true age is just a number.