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    Mashpia Writes to 13-Year-Old

    From the COLlive Inbox: Some pearls of wisdom from Mashpia Rabbi Yossi Paltiel to a boy at his bar Mitzvah, on core questions in life. Full Story

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    amazing
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    amazing

    Thank you so much Rabbi Paltiel
    Thank you COL for posting- please post more things of this sort

    wow
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    wow

    exceptionally beautiful and on target.
    Thank you for sharing positive and good quality pieces COL.

    So meaningful
    Guest
    So meaningful

    Thank you or posting so down to earth and so much to think about. Thank you col for posting these meaningful articles.

    brilliant!
    Guest
    brilliant!

    straight to the point
    so deep yet so clear!

    with the old breed
    Guest
    with the old breed

    oh boy… at 13 you want it all…just go for emes one step at a time and ask the boss for help.. it is not easy but it is worth it…

    nittel nacht
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    nittel nacht

    1) Three times a day, 2) In a Shul, 3) with a Minyan 4) that doesn’t go too fast 5) or too slow. 6) You should have a regular place where you stand 7) and you should not pace while you daven 8) you should look in the siddur, 9) and you should slowly learn the meaning of the words, so that over the course of a few years you can know enough to daven with pirush hamilos. what’s wrong with davening “too slow[ly]”? Davening is not a race. If it helps him to pace while davening, it’s fine (except… Read more »

    i am a fan
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    i am a fan

    I listen to Rabbi Paltiel on the radio a lot. I consider him my teacher.

    true!
    Guest
    true!

    agree 100%
    very well answered
    but this should not only be for a 13yr old it should be for all chassidim
    I really answer number 5, unfortunately in todays age lots of
    bochorim and girls are too into fashion and they dont even realize something is wrong with it—poor values

    How does one contact this esteemed Rabbi if one has questions
    Guest
    How does one contact this esteemed Rabbi if one has questions

    I have never seen such clarity and realistic Chassidishkiet

    how can I be in touch with him ?

    Chassidishe nachas
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    Chassidishe nachas

    What a beautiful challenge to have these questions asked to relatives and mashpiim before your son became bar mitzvah such a meaningful way of preparing for the big day, something to learn from:) Chassidishe nachas!

    thank you col
    Guest
    thank you col

    you really gave me clarity please post more of this sort

    Beautiful!
    Guest
    Beautiful!

    This was so inspiring, practical, and informative. As someone who did not have a family member mashpiah on that level, it is awesome to hear this advice. Through this short article I feel like I get a lot of the points that have NEVER been explained to me clearly before.

    T.T. of the Capital District Alum
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    T.T. of the Capital District Alum

    Rabbi Paltiel always knew how to build a bochur up without tearing him down… The good people in chinuch never change. Yasher Koach, Rabbi Paltiel!

    Thanks or posting
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    Thanks or posting

    So refreshing reading such meaningful articles like this that can help us raise and educate our children with direction and clarity. Keep up such articles. Maybe a weekly post from a mashpia on Chinuch, hiskashrus would be great!

    wow
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    wow

    can we please have more of this? this is so refreshing

    What about some clarity for my teen age daughter
    Guest
    What about some clarity for my teen age daughter

    Its such a wonderful and confusing age – and she is trying so hard- who can I ask these sort of questions to ..

    What is the daily learning /davening that is expected from a girl
    etc

    anyone ?

    Disagree with a couple of points
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    Disagree with a couple of points

    1.I have seen with my own eyes kids that are old and still try to convince themselves that they say the words. I am thirteen and I daven slowly because I know if I do them normal pace for adults-I am not saying every syllable properly.
    2. It’s obvious from chassidushe sources that a young brochure should not Dave bearish us however I personally find my davening to be empty and full of either non related thoughts or machos have zoros r”l. I daven with the tzivos Hashem siddur and read every word I can until I would be late.

    a mother
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    a mother

    kol hakavod well explained!

    a bachur who wants more help
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    a bachur who wants more help

    Dear rabbi Paltiel can u plz do. A weekly essay ??

    what about a farbrengen once in a while
    Guest
    what about a farbrengen once in a while

    For bochrim of different ages like mesivtah, zal, by rabbi Paltiel on collive?

    Saved to my hard drive    :)
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    Saved to my hard drive :)

    Rabbi Paltiel’s advice is not only applicable to bar mitzvah boys, I am an old lady and there is a lot in there that can help me too, I am saving it to my hard drive so I can reread it regularly.

    I second the suggestion of #19, a weekly essay would be fantastic! (And completely in keeping with the saying, if you need something done, ask a busy person!!!)

    Meanwhile, for anyone who might not know, Rabbi Paltiel gives many shiurim on theyeshiva.net and they are archived there, you can pretty much pick what you want to learn about.

    FOR MORE OF RABBI YOSSI PALTIEL'S
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    FOR MORE OF RABBI YOSSI PALTIEL'S

    special brand of clarity…

    insidechassidus.org

    insidechassidus.org
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    insidechassidus.org

    you can hear, and read, Rabbi Paltiel whenever you have a chance!
    i agree COL please feature him more

    wonderful
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    wonderful

    Thank You !

    Proud M .P.

    So to the point
    Guest
    So to the point

    Great thoughts to think about and to the point this is really for all ages and a lot of good reading for all ages girls and boys . Thanks for posting this, clear to the point inspiration

    A Lubavitch 'Dear Abby'
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    A Lubavitch 'Dear Abby'

    In light of the incredible response from the entire spectrum of Lubavitch (men, women young and told, Shluchim and Baalei Battim etc. ) there is obviously a thirst for such clarity in the modern age. Perhaps COL can publish it weekly column in the spirit of Dear Abby that can address the many questions are all facing now days. Granted not answer apply to everyone however it will generally very good conversations. Do you perhaps the panel of mashpiam (both rabbis and rebbitzens).

    Yehudis Bluming for Teenage Girls
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    Yehudis Bluming for Teenage Girls

    #16

    I would contact her-

    She understands their heart and really connects and relates to them

    Chassidish yet with it

    wow
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    wow

    wow. i esp. loves the first question. thank u rabbi paltiel!

    Thank you!
    Guest
    Thank you!

    …From a Bubby who also gained from this piece, and who hopes to spread the knowledge to others IYH.

    to #19 who wants a weekly essay
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    to #19 who wants a weekly essay

    R’ Paltiel did just that for a very long time. The essays, on Chassidus, were published in Beis Moshiach. I have copies of them in a binder. They are excellent. I asked him years ago when he’s publishing it as a book. Got an ambiguous answer about the work it will take. Those who know him, nudge him and offer to help!

    Just read
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    Just read

    Finally got a chance to read great meaningful content that is so needed today. We need as much inspiration we can to raise the youth today. Keep up such articles.
    Thank you for sharing

    JUSTCONSIDER
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    JUSTCONSIDER

    Rabbi paltiel is 100% right about davening longer. Sometimes boys get the impression taught by certain yeshivos that it’s ‘chassidish’ to open up a sefer chassidus smack in middle of davening, or that is important to either fake it or really self lament in middle of davening I.E. Shuckling with your eyes closed thinking about who knows what – that is what rabbi paltiel is saying. Usually these acts are empty- I clearly remember that stage of my mesivta life, and many of my peers admitted to me they don’t know why they do it or what they are doing… Read more »

    Hakaras HaTov
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    Hakaras HaTov

    R’ Paltiel wows us again. Yasher koach.

    Thank you COL for posting this article.
    Guest
    Thank you COL for posting this article.

    This article brought up 30 plus comments on chassidus! Thank you col for bringing it up.

    Was so priviledge to have Rabbi Paltiel as a teacher...
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    Was so priviledge to have Rabbi Paltiel as a teacher...

    This is absolutely amazing and Emes. It’s well written and thought out. I miss Rabbi Paltiel and his amazing classes.
    I will print this and put it on my fridge to remind us of what our true goals are.

    so inspiring!
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    so inspiring!

    first of all, the father who suggested this as a hachana to his son’s becoming a bar-mitzvah is doing something right with regard his child’s chinuch; hats off to him. second, i don’t know what other answers the bar-hamitzvah received , but it’s gratifying to know that he recognized this answer as one so special and inspiring he decided to share it with us. how good is that! third, thank you, rabbi paltiel for taking this young bochur’s request seriously and putting so much thought and effort into answering him. look at the deep response it has generated from the… Read more »

    THANK YOU
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    THANK YOU

    This is perfect! So important and inspiring!

    Truth
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    Truth

    Rabbi Paltiel breathes and lives all of these ideas, you can only begin to imagine the kind of thought and preparation he would have put into this – his ideas come from the heart and hence reach our hearts, in a very pure place. I encourage you to seek him out as a religious leader. And find your own practise that is real and within reach for you all! Chag Sameach

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