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Live: Rabbi Feigelstock Addresses Gett Abuse

Watch: Renowned halachic posek Rabbi Yosef Feigelstock of Argentina joins the second episode of Get Abuse, an honest discussion based on halacha and hashkafa. He will be joined by Rabbi Avraham Kahan. Video

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Beis Din issues
July 13, 2021 3:09 pm

This is much needed discussion.

Also very important is BEIS DIN CORRUPTION-

Hearing from many women that Beis Din is biased and often corrupt- especially leaning towards men.

Can we work to have oversight – maybe a 2 teir system-

I think it says that in time of Moshiach the judges /B.D. Will be corrupt
Moshiach Now!

Rabonim
July 13, 2021 9:50 pm

Rabbis need training

They are not skilled in relationships, communication and ABC’s of mental health.
Until that happens,it’s an uphill battle.

The sad truth is I agree about lack of training
Reply to  Rabonim
July 13, 2021 11:26 pm

I saw it all up close & personal. These examples all sound like two lovely erlich people that just somehow couldn’t get along … Abusers are World Class manipulators – their public image and their behavior behind closed doors can be like night and day. I sincerely feel that all Rabbonim and Mashpiim should be required to take (at least) a one day seminar on abuse and abusers. My dream was that Rabbi Avraham Twerski AH could have organized and spoken. For starters, everyone in a position of influence should read his powerful book ” The Shame Born in Silence.”… Read more »

Change is needed
July 13, 2021 9:53 pm

Doesn’t make sense that halacha should allow one party to decide if the marriage should be terminated or not.

Should not be up to the man to be the one to sign and force a relationship that is nullified and void

???
Reply to  Change is needed
July 14, 2021 3:05 pm

Unfortunately Halacha disagrees with you.

Rabbi Kahan
July 13, 2021 9:58 pm

He stated last time that these refusers really want to do what’s right and one should tell them to focus on doing the “right thing”

That’s simply not true.

The last thing abusive men care about Is halacha!

The rabbis must study domestic violence before they get involved in cases of abuse.

Laws need looking into
July 13, 2021 10:02 pm

Abusers should be treated differently according to halacha.

If a man is deemed to be abusive then he should not have the power of signing ANY documents.

Nor be the one to decide when the marriage ends.

This needs much looking into

Stop enabling
July 13, 2021 11:31 pm

CH must stop enabling get refusers.
Period.
Disengage with them.

Think about what they are doing to these women.

Truth about Halacha
July 13, 2021 11:56 pm

The comments above about men having the control are utterly ridiculous. All the pressure is put on men. Men are pressured, put in Cherem, excluded from minyanim, taken to court, and often even beaten up. Women get no pressure at all, and can therefore make all the demands they want with impunity.

Well I'm a woman
Reply to  Truth about Halacha
July 14, 2021 12:33 pm

My ex husband took me to court and was unsuccessful because he lied to the court out of revenge. It’s very sad when men like that actually win and get away with abuse by twisting everything around. This shouldn’t turn into men against woman anyway.

It already is
Reply to  Well I'm a woman
July 15, 2021 12:02 pm

About women against men.
Every article about any kind if abuse in marriage always focuses exclusively on the men.
Perhaps there might in some cases, be a passing reference to how abuse can go both ways, but not usually, and it’s never elaborated on, nor are such examples ever given.

Agunim
July 14, 2021 3:10 am

The issue of agunim is one that really troubles me. Women who abuse their power by refusing to accept a get unless they take control of the children and/or property. Thank God the Beit Din in Jerusalem cracked down on such a woman with a weekly fine of NIS 1,250 a week, which was approved by Chief Rabbi Dovid Lau and also received the legal approval of Supreme Court Chief Justice Esther Hayut. After a review of the proceedings and piskei din by the Beis Din HaGadol, a decision was made to impose sanctions and court-ordered restrictions on the recalcitrant… Read more »

It sounds like you hate woman
Reply to  Agunim
July 14, 2021 12:35 pm

Unless you see it two ways from both sides,it sounds like you’re part of the anti woman club.

More cancell cuture
Reply to  It sounds like you hate woman
July 15, 2021 3:18 pm

If you dare to post examples of women being abusive, then you will be accused of hating women.

So much time wasted on details
July 14, 2021 12:40 pm

I’m my opinion, this matter should be treated in a simple way. One spouse wants a gett,that it.marriage over.rabbanim are needed because two people are in a fight and hate each other or one is abusive to the other so the rabbanim have to intervene. This is complete neglect from the rabbanim. The answer that it’s not so simple is wrong and sounds cowardly. The rabbanim are not showing respect to woman or care for abused woman.

Those that make posts like yours
Reply to  So much time wasted on details
July 15, 2021 12:09 pm

Are not showing respect or any concern for men, who are abused by women, who refuse to accept a gett, in order to blackmail the men.

Chabad
July 14, 2021 5:34 pm

Does anyone know if the Lubavitcher rebbe ever addressed the issue of the differences between husband and wife ?

sholom bayis
Reply to  Chabad
July 20, 2021 2:56 pm

Many times. In sichos and in igros. For english, you can start with eternal joy volume 3

Anonymous
July 15, 2021 5:30 pm

And what about the parents who don’t give child support, that people is considered abuse too?

Yes
Reply to  Anonymous
July 15, 2021 9:58 pm

Because it is THEIR child – they were one of the partners to create that child – and NOW they simply walk away leaving the other parent to cover all expenses?!?

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