By Yitzi Zilber
Camps are starting next week. The Rebbe’s yahrtzeit is just a few days later.
A shame? Who’s to blame?
The mashpiyim?
Growing up, I would always hear the mashpiyim describe the loyalty of Binyamin, Yaakov avinu’s youngest son.
But to be honest, it seems that unfortunately, Chabad has been mimicking Binyomin just a little too much.
Let’s be honest, Binyomin does seem like the devoted brother, a chossid par excellence, one whom we should all follow.
As Yosef’s younger brother, Binyomin took Yosef’s absence extremely painfully. Not having a part in the sale, he grew up without his dear brother, but little Binyamin never stopped longing to be back together and reunited with Yosef.
When they were finally reunited, Yosef inquired as to Binyomin’s family.
Binyomin went off to list his children, as each one of his ten sons were named after Yosef, a telling tale of the intense longing Binyomin experienced.
“Achi” – “my older brother”. “Chupim” – “he did not attend my chupah and I did not attend his.”
Binyamin went on to enumerate the names of each of his sons. As Yosef listened to his brother speak, his emotions overcame him and became hard to conceal. “Nichmeru Rachamov,” the passuk tells us, Yosef’s emotions burst forth, causing him to retreat to his room where he broke down in tears. The strong connection expressed by his brother had melted him to pieces.
Hard it is, to find a Lubavitcher family today without the names “Menachem Mendel” and “Chaya Mushka” belonging to the children.
These names are staples of every Chabad home, and inspiring it is that 25 years after Gimmel Tammuz, the Rebbe is so much a part of us and is the name of so many of our children. Many families go on to name their other children after the Rebbe’s family members as well, a strong, passionate expression of just how much the Rebbe is part of our conscience.
Last week, in Parshas Nasso, we learned about the korbanos that the nesi’im brought. The Midrash teaches that these korbanos were an atonement for the sale of their brother Yosef.
But why did Binyomin bring a korbon? He was no traitor… he wasn’t part of the sale, he wasn’t even there when it took place! He was an exemplary brother.. the one who longed for and missed Yosef so much… the one who named each one of his ten children after Yosef.. the one that while standing at his chupa couldn’t stop thinking about his brother…?!
The question is an obvious one. The answer is a painful one.
And it seems to me that history might be repeating itself.
“Perhaps the answer is,” says the Rebbe to the above question, “that he did not search for his brother.”
Yup, you got it. Binyomin – the devoted brother that didn’t stop thinking about Yosef, somehow managed to sit comfortably for a full twenty-two years (!), without even once searching for this dear brother he so missed. And for that, says the Rebbe, his descendants would bring a korbon as an atonement.
That sounds so crazy. It doesn’t seem to register. Didn’t Binyomin miss Yosef so much? Didn’t he name all his sons after Yosef? For Heaven’s sake, even at his own chupah, his mind was on his brother, and yet, somehow, he couldn’t get himself to go on a little search for this dear brother of his who was sitting a mere two hundred miles away…
Crazy it is. But current nonetheless.
It seems like history has repeated itself.
We can name all of our children after the Rebbe, and at the same time not have ‘searched’ for him even once.
We can talk and say we miss the Rebbe, and at the same time rest comfortably in the Catskills on Shabbos Gimmel Tammuz…
We can print albums featuring our children who bear the Rebbe’s name, and yet at the same time sleep comfortably while our brother is in Egypt..
Yes, we’ve been emulating Binyomin just a little too much.
Let’s learn from his mistakes. Let’s not be guilty of sitting for twenty-five years, sitting comfortably on the couch, while the Rebbe is still not with us physically.
Binyomin was a tzaddik, and I feel rather wrong writing about him in this manner.
But if one more person will make the trip from the Catskills to the Ohel this Gimmel Tammuz, or if one more bungalow colony will arrange a farbrengen, then I’m sure Binyomin will forgive me.
Wow! So powerful! I will BeZ”H make a Farbrengen for Gimmel Tammuz, and make sure that even before that, Moshiach is revealed to us, and we will actually be reunited with our Rebbe!
Who said the Rebbe would rather we be 1 in a thousand at the ohel and not 1 in ten farbrenging with our families and communities??
He said by the ohel or to make a farbrengen
The point was and is that we should all do something on Gimmel Tammuz. Whatever it is.
Written so well, and taking to heart!
When yud shevat fell out on shabbos the Rebbe gave a horoa (5717-1957) to go friday. Not shabbos!
Thanks
The intention is not specifically about shabbos at all. The title was written by COL.
Thank you for the article and for bringing an awareness ! To number 4: It seems you have missed the point . It’s not just about going to the ohel as a “check it off your checklist “ kind of thing and then go on from there to your vacation destination. The writer was expressing that there is lacking the proper MINDSET that every chassid should be feeling about Gimmel Tammuz – an “insider mindset “ – that being a Chossid of the Rebbe is my identity ….. And because of this I’m not just looking to be “yotze” with… Read more »
Because the Rebbe was in 770. Today we must go out of our hagbolos to connect. If it means going to the Ohel for Shabbos, so be it.
“Reb Avrohom, azoi is tzu shver, m’darf zehn arupbrengen dem rebbe’n duh lematah” (“Reb Avrohom, this way is just too difficult, we must see to bring the Rebbe back down here…”) –The Rebbe to Reb Avrohom Pariz.
I don’t think the rebbe said specifically to NOT GO on shabbos, the rebbe only said TO GO on Friday, which everyone going for shabbos will obviously be doing anyway.
Honestly being in camp for Gimmel Tammuz is most probebly the best place for a child to be on ג’ תמוז. As a Shliach, I can truthfully say that the base for my Hiskashrus to the Rebbe was given to me in camp. In camp they can do a proper Hachono, write a pan erev shabbos and have a Farbreingen in camp for them is better than them hanging around in Crown Heights without a program that will give them the opportunity to connect to this holy and special day. ונזכה זעהן זיך מיט’ן רבי’ן דאָ למטה אין אַ גוף… Read more »
The leaders in my community all go to the Ohel on Gimmel Tammuz. I understand why they want to be there, but they abandon their anash when we need them the most. Not everyone can go to the Ohel for Gimmel Tammuz. I’m all for making a farbrengen or special event on Gimmel Tammuz in our community. We usually do, but without our leaders. A week or two later, there is a big community event commemorating Gimmel Tammuz. Fine. But we can do that any time after Gimmel Tammuz.
“Camps are starting next week. The Rebbe’s yahrtzeit is just a few days later”
Just want to note, CGI Detroit is starting like every year after Gimmel Tammuz.
Wow that’s amazing!
All camps should copy Detroit!
I willsend my kids to detroit
It’s probably better for is to be in the atmosphere of camp, with the chassidishe staff etc and hachonos rather than hanging around
So true!
Inspired, thanks for writing this.
When there is no מעשה בפועל it’s worth nothing
What is the source of the שיחה regarding בנימין that you are quoting?
חלק ח פרשת נשא ובהערה
If all yidden wait for after 3 weeks to go vacation…and all wait for after sefirah…weddings..
And all start Yaakov holach ledarko…after Tishrei
Then why shouldn’t camps start after Gimel Tamuz????
It’s only basic minimum kovad for our Rebbe….!!!
It is a ridiculous to make such assumptions that it would be bekovodik for the rebbe that camps should be delayed so that all kids can go gimmel tammuz to the ohel. I find that notion totally absurd. The rebbe does not want children roaming the streets for 2 weeks, so that they can go to the ohel. Every day that a kid is in camp is a day that he lives in a chasidic environment. And when gimmel tammuz falls out during camp season, that is the best opportunity to educate our children on the meaning of gimmel tammuz… Read more »