By COLlive reporter
Dvora Schulman, Vice President of the International Shidduch Group Network, has launched a Chabad version of the popular matchmaking website SawYouAtSinai (SYAS).
Schulman’s idea was to modify the technology and approach that SawYouAtSinai implemented over the past 13 years, to better service the Chabad singles. With over 2,800 people married, SYAS has had tremendous success in the Yeshivish, Modern Orthodox and secular Jewish population.
After spending the past year molding the proper system, she launched a beta version of FindYourBashert.com (FYB), a website where Shadchanim are able to make shidduchim more efficiently, while also giving the shadchanim the opportunity to make more money in the process.
The new website has Chabad friendly search algorithms, extensive privacy levels, shadchan organizational tools, a clean database of information and offers monthly payments to its shadchanim.
Dedicated shadchanim will still focus on their relationships with the singles, but now they will also have search algorithms which will allow them to quickly search and sort through the hundreds of potential match ideas, she says.
“A single’s Shidduch resume will not just be thrown into a database, waiting to be ‘found’.” says Schulman. “The system we’ve set in place offers a solution for those serious about shidduchim. It gives you the certainty that when you sign up, there’s a whole team ready to help you.”
Parents or singles can enter a profile and decide which shadchan would be able to view the information. The website will only be accessed by preapproved shadchanim who have been vetted by Schulman. These features are made to reduce unwanted exposure to single’s information.
Profile details and suggested matches are shown by the computer algorithms to the Shadchanim to increase efficiency, as well as cut down on duplicate match offers. “This saves a tremendous amount of time for both the Shadchanim and those seeking shidduchim,” Schulman says.
Shdchanim who were consulted in the creation of the website are Leah Lipszyc, Chana Miriam Huebner and Yocheved Lerner.
Searches include the basic demographics like location, age, and height, and also based on levels of Chassidishkeit and personality. (I.e. learning Chitas and Rambam, beard, Shlichus/work, tznius level, music and entertainment etc…).
The site also has a comprehensive ‘chat like’ communication platform to allow for easy communication between the Shadchan and the parents.
Schulman says that the daily work and effort that Shadchanim do before a couple gets engaged should not go unrecognized or unpaid. The site has a monthly payment model to compesntae Shadchanim for their ongoing efforts.
With a public launch on Gimmel Tammuz, the website began signing up Chabad Shadchanim in different communities. Shadchanim joining in the last week alone are Yosef Keller, Atarah Guez, Eliezer Zalmanov and Rivkah Lerner.
Singles, parents and shadchanim are welcome to visit FindYourBashert.com.
It is not a crime to be single. These numerous shadchanim websites only encourage desperation, and consequent feelings of worthlessness, if they fail to fulfil.
I agree! It’s wonderful that others have had such success on other sites but obviously they don’t work for everyone or there wouldn’t be so many singles out there. FindYourBashert is doing a great job at helping the community and expanding the reach and capability that Shadchanim have to help others.
Can you guarantee your site will work for everyone and has all the options and choices for individuality and matching up individuals based on their precise traits?
I doubt you can guarantee all that, no one can give guarantees of a match.
But this site offers more choices, which means a greater chance for someone who could not find their bashert through the previously existing choices.
Chabadmatch is already providing this service for chabad singles, why is there a need for another databases for the same singles that charges a monthly fee?? Two of my kids got engaged via chabadmatch and all they charge is a one time registration fee.
I think this is a great idea and it fits with the Rebbes wishes of having shidduchim be private. Some of the other sites just blast everyone’s shidduch resumes out to everyone and it’s a little uncomfortable, to be honest. This site seems so much more private and efficent.
Thank you so much for the questions comments! It’s always nice to see people appreciate one’s efforts. In regards to the concerns we’ve heard recently: What makes us different than Chabadmatch is the way in which our computer system works in addition to paying our Shadchanim for the work they do based on the rating given to them by their members. Our algorithms let Shadchanim do so many things more than just find 2 names who look like they might fit well together. Shadchanim can search for detailed traits about a person as well as be tracked by the system… Read more »
Not-fully-observant Lubavitch
More information is needed… Who are the shaddchanim? Can you choose one you are already dealing with? Can you guarantee you will be contacted & reasonable ideas will be suggested? There are wonderful shaddchanim in the business already & yes they have every right to be compensated for the time and effort they put into their work. What will 170.00$ a year do better then $180 we already give the shaddchanim for taking our phone calls? Would be great if every shaddchan would be upfront about their fees and expectations. Some want payment to talk to you. Others want payment… Read more »
In general this a good idea but its a little overpriced. I was already a member of Sawyouatsinai (you can identify as chabad) and a Chabad shadchan told to sign up with this website so I gave it a try. SYAS (same price as this one) would send several matches per week and this one sent several matches a month and I got the same one three times( someone I already met) I dont see why this cant be part of Syas itself and just use these algorithms and extra questions for people who are Chabad? Still a step in… Read more »
Is their a slider for level of Chassidishkeit?
Over the past year, when Find Your Bashert was in beta testing, my daughter signed up for the site. Matchmaker Leah Lipszyc was very helpful and got to know my daughter very well. It’s such a mechayeh to have a matchmaker get to know their singles!
So true! There are lots of different classifications in Chabad itself. What are other options they should be using? “Chabad Lite”, “Modern Chabad”, “Modern Orthodox”? What would modern Chabad people want to be classified as?
unfortunely some of the shadchonim now are more out there to make another buck! i had too many bad experiences, to list, 1 had one ask for $1, 000 up front and a few page resume! another said oh, you have such a wonderful son, what about this girl for him? he had just landed 2 days prior from being away getting his semicha. this shadchan knew my son like a hole in the wall! just tried to put 2 names together on a piece of paper. come on, you dont even know him! ive heard pple. asking tremendous amount… Read more »
Mazel tov on this new site. hopefully, you will be zochen to bring alot of good people together. HOWEVER, PLEASE add the following you ask the candidate what is his/her religious orientation? Chassidic Lubavitch What about modern, friend of chabad, other? as you know there are so many categories nowadays within Chabad, nothing is black and white. so many of these singles are great kids, out of the box and don’t quite fit into either category. Perhaps you are doing a disservice to categorize people into two little boxes. it can turn people off, as it does me, and I… Read more »
What is wrong with our Community
Some one devises a way to help others
All we do is knock it
There is no end to “better״
Got to start somewhere
Give credit where credit is due
Let’s be less critical
There’s a reason for the halocho that a shadchan should be paid. Yes, halocho doesn’t view it as a chesed, rather a job
I had a free site like this a few years ago, ChabadSingles.con
Chabad uses technology to help people – we don’t live in a vacuum. I am passing this info on to my friends whose children are in need of shidduchim. #2 the reality is, with so many singles out there a parent wants to put his/her child in a favorable light. You really think saying my daughter is high maintenance and loves shoes, or my son likes to play pool every night is going to be a positive draw? These are things that can easily be changed & dropped, so why mention it? But smoking can be a problem for some… Read more »
anybody else working on a better system? think there should be an ideal system figure out
I disagree with this mentality. Although it sounds like a nice idea, I don’t think that parents have to sell their kids in order to get them married. If a shadchan is doing this for the money and making this into a business, that is not a real shadchan. Thats my personal humble opinion. Feel free to disagree.
How is this different from the website you had last year? How is this different from chabadmatch?