By Rochie Levin – Kensington, Brooklyn, NY
I understand Rabbi Motti Gurary of Bnos Menachem for caring and wanting to make a change in the community. I believe he has the right to set a standard for his school and ask that parents cooperate.
I understand Chaya Sara Waldman for feeling uneasy about specific things.
I understand Sruli Schochet’s point that if the peel is rotten, we lost our shame.
I am not disagreeing with any of the other articles, I just want to share a general approach I think we need to have towards those struggling within our community.
Yes, people have lost their shame, but it’s time we understand that a speech about halachic standards is not what is going to inspire these people to change. A speech about halacha won’t inspire someone who doesn’t care about halacha. Go to a non-frum person in the street and tell him, ‘Hey, you have to wear Tzitzis because it says that in halacha’ and see what he does.
We all know the only way to inspire those people is to invite them for a Shabbos meal or the like and show them what yiddishkeit is about. Showing them the beauty first-hand is the way to make them love it and be inspired to connect to Hashem.
Yes, I know there is a difference here because these Lubavitchers have been through the system and did learn a lot. But it’s time we realize they might have not experienced yiddishkeit and chassidus with the same beauty and positivity we show the non-frum world.
The judgemental way we deal with the teens in our community is what turns them into adults who simply do not care about halacha or tznius.
I ask every mechanech and teacher in Crown Heights: Do you invite your high school students over for a Shabbos meal? Do you create a positive relationship with them outside of school? What was your reaction when you saw them walk into school with bright red nail polish? What was your reaction when you found out the bochur owned an iPad?
They are human beings just like those non-frum people in Texas or Thailand. Why are we so loving and accepting and patient when it comes to shlichus but when we deal with our own we are not?
It is time that we look at our own community as a Shlichus. Chabad of Crown Heights. These people do not need halacha speeches. They need love, positivity, and education. Inspire them to care.