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Tishrei: Best Time for Shidduchim

From the COLlive inbox: From talking with friends, I learned that this coming few weeks are prime-time for making shidduchim. Full Story

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AGREE!
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AGREE!

Everyone ,young and old should be involved in Shidduchim! make an effort! What goes around comes around! help make shidduchim!

The Elephant in the room
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The Elephant in the room

That’s a great idea but what if, instead of it being a great time to meet people who might bring up in conversation that they may know someone who might possibly be someone you might be interested in. Then, they’ll have to do all the ground work of “selling” the shiduch to both parties and making arrangements. What if yom tov was a great time for people to invite various friends whom they know to their tables including single bochurim and young ladies. Then they may meet someone they’d be interested in dating. And, if it’s not for them they… Read more »

#2 is right
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#2 is right

And why at 31 im single and will never marry chabad.

So maybe this works for chasidish etc people.. but with the many articles being posted, apparently it does not.

The article about the guy picking up the girls is really the foundation to this, that the first dates are ridiculous because the most odd and random matches are attempted.

to #2
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to #2

For the bochur, the yomim tovim are a time for growth and inspiration to take oneself throughout the whole year. While shiduchim are very important to bring a bunch of bochrim and girls together by a meal is really an unnecessary distraction.

Yehuda  l g
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Yehuda l g

All I can say is good luck in this avoyda sweet new year.

  Number 2
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Number 2

Spot on !!!
שכל

To #4
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To #4

Inspiring to what? Distraction from what?

If you are aspiring to be a munk then yes. If your goal is to raise a family and be a part of a frum society how is celebrating yom tov with other like minded frum Jews a distraction?

– #2

Bottom Line
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Bottom Line

Get it straight, this article is about bringing a awareness to you, don’t get stuck in the details DO SOMETHING – ANYTHING to bring a single closer to marriage.

Thank you Devorah K for going out there to help and make a difference.

With Love!
A single who u inspired.

to #2 (7) and #4
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to #2 (7) and #4

Just if I may throw in my own two cents as a recent Bochur by many of these very settings of Yom Tov meals with girls there as well – not getting into whether it’s right or wrong, etc – but one thing common sense that the host\hostess should tell the boys and girls before that there will be of the other gender there. Lots of boys and girls are uncomfortable in such a setting ESPECIALLY when they weren’t told about it before. Please be considerate to your guests…

To #3
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To #3

I am not aware of all the issues, but with regard to the article you mentioned about picking up the girl:
Any arrangements you agree on are fine, I was struck by the fact that the girl was upset, and his reaction was to roll his eyes, and write an article. Not sensitive to her feelings, whether she was justified or not

Meet ups
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Meet ups

I have to agree with #9
For those young people that are ok with it, well they are. But we should be considerate to bochurim and girls that may NOT be, and should notify them beforehand

Mendel P
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Mendel P

I am a single 24 yr old bochur, while I do enjoy the yom tov festivities every year, i feel that my non-chabad bal tshuva background has left me at a disadvantage towards other bochurim my age from more prominent CH families.

Number 9
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Number 9

Is that not a sad state of affairs
Where are we heading to
When each gender perceive the other
With “uncomfort”

To 9
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To 9

I agree with your point, hosts should be considerate of their guests and not make them uncomfortable. Having said that, as someone a bit older I would say it’s time to grow up. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. As an adult in the real world you’ll learn that women are people too and you’ll need to get used to it.

duh
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duh

this method of making shidduchim is literally the second most common way of matchmaking (second the the common shadchan way) so being that there are more people in new york for tishray it makes most arithmetical sense that tishray is the best time for shidduchim. im not sure what the authors objective of this article is.

#13
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#13

You mean to say it’s a bad thing that single bochurim and single girls feel it’s inappropriate to mingle in a non date setting?
Hayetochen, those are the ones keeping Lubavitch alive today and give us all the strength and emuna to believe it is not all lost.

to 14
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to 14

To get used to women is not the problem. To be out in a ” trap” to choose a partner for life is NOT CONSIDERATE if not told in advance.

to 13 and 14#
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to 13 and 14#

While you may not be aware, but your statements go directly against gemoros rishoinim and the shulchan oruch.
Of considireable interest, it would be more proper to check the following sources before you spout your comments:

see siman chof alef in even ho’zer.

Levi C
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Levi C

to #12
I feel the tribulations you are going through, I myself come form a prominent so-called ‘gezsh’ family and can say first hand that we both suffer from the same problem regardless of our backgrounds, but now is not the time to feel sad or helpless. Now is the time of year to daven for everything you need.

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