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The Challenges Teens Are Facing

From the COLlive inbox: A 16-year-old Chabad bochur in Yeshiva writes an emotional letter to fellow teens who are struggling. Full Story

R’ Chatzkel Shpringer, 94, OBM

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So true
December 29, 2018 6:33 pm

I can totally relate

Beautiful writing
December 27, 2018 4:17 pm

Thank you for sharing

December 26, 2018 1:54 am

im pretty sure Judaism is about serving g-d. not about getting married and having diplomas etc. etc. (maybe try learning some chasiddus).

You are not alone
December 23, 2018 10:39 pm

There are so many going through the same thing as you. It will get better. Sadly, so many teens are struggling. Parents, please look out out for signs that your child is suffering and give them the support and love they need!

I'm a teen too
December 23, 2018 2:55 pm

Dear writer,
The little bit that I read and what I understood, makes my heart grow warm. You are so special. You are special for being able to share your feelings with so many people, brave enough to do your thing, without listening to others scorn. I think you’re so special. Wow, I can’t get over it. Continue spreading your light, and just being you!
Love, me

#27 agreed!
December 23, 2018 2:28 pm

Was about to say something along those lines, you are a good friend, and what you said is truth.

To the author, you ARE an amazing young man, I bet you become aware of that fact now, mamesh and go from strength to strength .

This post must also be actually a PSA to all the #25’s in our circles!

A 16 year old girl....
December 23, 2018 1:25 pm

This poem really hit me hard. It’s one of the many thoughts I battle on an every day basis. As a crown heights born and raised teenager, I have to shamefully say that as parents, friends, schools, teachers, as a community, we are very good at reaching out to help others, but we lack to help those sitting right next to us.

December 23, 2018 1:11 pm

The young man shows not just above average intellect, but strength in the ability to question and choose his own path. There is strength in being an individual and listening to advice but choosing one’s path. How many of the Machers in town, sell out the community? How many others do not have the strength to call out the corrupt with their conflict of interests that turns into greed and corruption? There is a reason no one runs for CHJCC. They are scared of the economic and social consequences for disagreeing with the Machers. How many speak out against those… Read more »

16 year old girl
December 23, 2018 10:53 am

thats amazing 🙂
I also write to express certain feelings and I think this is almost an answering/reflection poem to one of mine
thank u

A very close friend and reply to #25
December 23, 2018 10:46 am

I know him personally and I can testify that he DOES have a Mashpiah who he is very close to and speaks with on a constant basis.
#25 The problem is that you see expressing oneself and being honest as a sign of weakness and a need for help. Perhaps you should consider where you stand and begin to be honest with YOURself.

You're an extremely talented writer
December 23, 2018 8:23 am

I would have never guessed that someone your age could do such a
superb job. Just make sure that you align yourself with your Neshamah – the real you, through qualified Mashpiim, role-models, and anyone with expertise to get you to where you’ll truly be happy and real to your purpose in life

A cry for help
December 23, 2018 8:00 am

This sounds like a serious cry for help. Why does it sound like trying to be yourself is a contradiction of how you have been raised. Maybe you are not in touch with your true and inner self. Dear writer, find yourself some professsional help, and perhaps you will see that being at one with your soul will bring you inner peace and the ability to be your true self.

December 23, 2018 7:23 am

Lubavitch Bochurim have no goals of what they are to accomplish in Yeshiva and when they are to enter the world of action.

Non-Lubavitchers have goals in Yeshiva as to finish a Maseches, get accredited as a Rav or Dayan. etc.

Non-Lubavitchers enter the world of action by marrying at the age of 18.

Lowering the age of marriage in Chabad, and setting goals of learning with true diplomas will change the sadness in warming the bench in Yeshiva by Bochurim for a decade!

To the precious teen
December 22, 2018 11:44 pm

Your feelings are very well expressed! Your a light Just starting to shine!!! I would like to remind you to please allow yourself to be loved and to enjoy the ride! Also remember that after the intense emotions of teenage years…you will gain more and more insight into yourself and the world and the intensity will fade….there is MUCH light at the end of the tunnel…A happy loving and bright future awaits you! So breath deep and try to dance as often as you can!

Proud friend
December 22, 2018 10:50 pm

I know who wrote this and I just want to say that you have an amazing talent and I’m so happy you decided to share this with people! Keep being the incredible, real person you are!!

Can relate
December 22, 2018 10:26 pm

That’s pretty much my life…though when ppl don’t give you a place to be who you are ..it’s quite tough

Perfectly expressed
December 22, 2018 10:10 pm

Every single word is bold and accurate. Thank you for sharing!

December 22, 2018 9:30 pm

Deer teen, that’s very very inspiring and i respect you for expressing yourself you have the talents to inspire others – continue growing you will be a fantastic Shliach of the Rebbe!

So true!
December 22, 2018 9:25 pm


positive vibes
December 22, 2018 8:47 pm

you sir, need a mashpia….practically speaking, none of this actually helps a given situation. just saying be yourself doesnt mean anything, because it doesnt provide the required help. Seems as though, that posting these things online are like putting a bandaid on a cut that needs stitches. Better would be to speak to someone and not pose as someone trying to show other people how to be real.

As a Teen
December 22, 2018 7:47 pm

As a teen, I also feel what you felt. Thank you so much for your letter. It really inspired me to live life being who I AM and not someone else. Thank you for showing me the reality and for showing me the better path.

So inspirational
December 22, 2018 6:50 pm

…and I am not 16!! I have to read this every day and I am s mom with a big family !!

Very Powerful!
December 22, 2018 6:50 pm

Wow! That was so well written. Kudos to you for expressing yourself in such an honest and creative way. The points you make are true and very inspiring!
Please continue to use your special poetic talents for more and more holy causes!

love it!
December 22, 2018 6:39 pm

Very intense but love the way it is expressed!

17 year old
December 22, 2018 6:23 pm

Wow. Incredibly written!!

December 22, 2018 5:51 pm

You are a very talented truthful young man and wise beyond your years. Keep growing and inspiring yourself and others!!! Hatzlochoh Rabboh you can
And will reach great heights iyh!

Nicely done and I have no idea if I can relate
December 22, 2018 5:50 pm


This is a real skill to write like this but it lacks real vulnerability. The writer didn’t sign his name but I am sure, that those who do know who wrote this and even the writer himself knows that he didn’t really share his struggles.

Dear writer: You are loved and can be loved even more deeply. Open up to those who you can trust and trust a few more people than you currently do.

December 22, 2018 5:32 pm

Perhaps every mashpia ever rov. Every community leader every activist. Should read and reread this. Stop the BS stop the ambiguity stop the faking. Stop the political falshkiet. Let’s get real. Every parent every R’H every mashpia should vision this as one and every single of theirs No exceptions.

Thank you young man whoever you are. That was powerful message which was very needed for us olders/elders. Bless you sir for your courage despite your discretion.

I Am Blown Away
December 22, 2018 5:28 pm

Intense. Painful. Painfully true.

December 22, 2018 5:20 pm

So well expressed!! Wishing you — and all of us — much hatzlacha at the most important thing: just being yourself!!

Amazing amazing
December 22, 2018 5:19 pm

Just a piece of advice get a Mashpia.

December 22, 2018 5:06 pm

That is so true so honest and really relatable I’m sure this will help many whoever this 16 year old is you have a real talent and keep it up don’t stop writing it’s a gift from Hashem that you can write your emotions down into words

December 22, 2018 4:47 pm

this is so powerful. thank you for sharing

December 22, 2018 4:43 pm

Try to rap the article over a 3/4 beat. You’d be pleasantly surprised how good it sounds

December 22, 2018 11:29 am

So vulnerable and honest! Thanks for sharing

100% correct
December 21, 2018 6:32 pm

Yasher Koach