Should Parents Pay Kids to Unplug?
Question of the Week: Should parents offer money as an incentive for kids to limit their screen time or is that the wrong approach? Comments
Question of the Week: Should parents offer money as an incentive for kids to limit their screen time or is that the wrong approach? Comments
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Sorry, but you know it
kids have to learn themselves. They will realize that they don’t need it. It can take a while, but you don’t need filters, you don’t need to only give them 30 minutes. Set basic standards, don’t limit it, but no devices at supper/dinner, encourage them to do other things. On that note, if you want them to do other things, you have to make those available.
Don’t say you don’t need filters.
I know people who did need.
So don’t.
Thank you.
Of course you should restrict completely inappropriate content. It is quite easy to do on your own now a days. You can do it. You don’t need a filtering company to do it, slow down your devices, and watch everything you/your child is doing.
If you can afford this incentive,than why not. Its like giving an allowance for a good behavior. Parents have always done that.
Shouldn’t you be with your kids?
In this generation the only way is to buy with money. And For certain children it still wouldnt work – the outsmarting parents went over the top.
Old schooling was discipline with a meaningful sincerity that left a everlasting impression on the child which that value would stay with them for life.
There was no buying with money at all:
a. They didn’t have and b. Values were more valuable back then.
Today its live and let live
The old school discipline was petch not sure what sincerity you’re talking about
In the fact that the parents didnt give petch to beat the kid but to teach the kid a lesson for life. Which those children were brought up more decent and mannered and not Hefker velt kind of mode. As much as people will say the Rebbe disapproved of petch however Rabbi JJ Hecht Obm was a very big fan of it. My saying is: words can help but when you have a narssasitic character (which signs show already in preschool btw) if you dont petch, you will find yourself twirled Around the finger of the narssasit and then what?… Read more »
Yes, I am sure if you sincerely hit your kid, they will learn to do the right thing. I am sure there is no chance that they will learn to solve their problems by hitting them. There is definitely no chance they will hit their younger siblings. /s
On what planet do you have Rabbi JJ Hecht’s opinion on par with what the Rebbe said?
U do u
Just like parents shouldn’t pay their kids to do anything else.
Parents should stay off their phones instead. Lead by example. Reach out for connection with your children. Play a game, learn a dance, play football, build a fort.
Your children will 100% rather connect with you than watch a video.
You will never ever regret the time you invest in your kids.
If he is young enough, that it wouldn’t cause a whole scene, inforce it without money, that’s how healthy parents should conduct their childrens education and basic mental health
If he is older, to an extent that it would cause a scene by telling him to minimize or stop screen time,
money is definitely not the solution but rather education aka therapy, which does exist for these things
i guess if a kid doesn’t cooperate it means he needs therapy? Is that what you’re getting at? Listen to the child. Work it out with them. Come to a decision that both of you are happy with.
Don’t get harsh, and don’t go to useless therapy. Have tried it before for similar things.. was a waste of money and I was more successful just being softer and empathizing.
Are parents available to spend time with their kids instead of having them on screen time?
Parents are really tired nowadays
It’s hard to balance everything. Both mothers and fathers are working just to pay for the basics which are extremely expensive.
Transactions. If you give up x, I will give you y. I will give you money, a toy, a treat, a trip, or a privilege (e.g. stay up late). Sure, you can simply lay down the law of the land (house rules), but the kids will resent the tyranny (No Kings!). If all fails and the incentives are rejected, you might not have a choice but to invoke the rules of the domain, after all, you are the Master of the House, but just like with learning Torah, a child is offered shelo lishma – treats and sweets as incentives… Read more »
Wasn’t something the Rebbe said, about what what the Rambam writes on chinuch,that you give rewards etc according to age, that in our generation it shouldn’t be that way?
Huh? You really think the Rebbe said that a halacha in Ramabam does not apply nowadays?! Wow!
Because at some point you cant catch up
Wow! I’m glad this came up
The Rebbe obviously said halacha is forever
Only children changed and can do better
Today children can do it for best reason
It’s too much for me to
If only I remember the source
A sichanin vayera or 20 cheshvan in likutei sichos
seriously. in my generation NO KIDS had phones or ipads or laptops. the first time we had phones was maybe 7. 8 or 9th grade and it was some dumbo phone like a flip razor. and that was only the really rich elite people because it was like hundreds of dollars. then in high school the 1st iphone came out but it was soooo dumb compared to the version that exists now. seriously don’t give your kids technology.
The technology just, as you mentioned, didn’t exist.
and not logical.
Parents get off your phones and don’t give your kids technology. Play ball, build Lego , bake , learn, read. LIVE LIFE. Don’t waste precious time and teach your children the same. Your time with them is limited. Don’t waste it with both of you being on your technology. ( while you’re at it. Tell their teachers , babysitters, therapists etc the same )
Than done
That’s life. Most worthwhile things are hard.🤷
Easy to say, than done
Should we pay the parents to get off their own phones and actually behave as a role model?!
100 percent! How many times I walk down the road and people are walking towards me with their heads down?! It’s pathetic and sad! I purposefully walk in front of them to tell them pick your head up! And I get the look like I am strange for not avoiding them?’?’ Wake up!
The cover image of this article is AI….
wow! You must be so so smart!!
Your parents should give you more iPad time just for this
I am old enough to be your grandfather
Hey that funny cuz I am a elter zaidy
Lol
The friedike rebbe got money from his father to learn mishnayus by heart. Learn from the rabbeim. We have no screens in the house. Playing games is a treat. When they learn tanya by heart they get money like the rabbeim did. Then they are too busy to go on the screen. Call bikur cholim, or other organizations and cook meals and your kids can help you cook. Invite guests to your shabboss table and go shopping with your kids. I am very grateful to the teachers and friends who allow me to bring then food on erev shabboss or… Read more »
Is it a way of chinuch?
What does the Rebbe say about such dynamics with your kids?
Sounds absurd to me, especially when is about giving just Cash
Doesn’t G-d offer us rain and parnosa for keeping the mitzvos (as we say in Paragrapgh 2 of Shema – V’haya)?! We are G-d’s children and it is transactional. What’s wrong with that?!
It doesn’t need to be money, but in addition to emotional reinforcement, physical reinforcement can be helpful. You have to remember that using an Ipad is a powerful reinforcer for the child, so competing with it might require something equally as stimulating. I do find it ironic that this picture actually has the child using Scratch, which is a tool for learning to code that is actually pretty educational.
Even worse
Is driving with their head down looking at your phone?!
What in the world are you thinking?!
It’s stupid
Foolish
And dangerous
To bribe children to do what you want, in hopes they will grow to do it without the incentive. What would you like your child to do instead? Encourage that. I think if parents are honest, we want them on the screens. It’s a crutch for US. That’s why we gave them their first screen exposure. If we truly want to get rid of screens, it’s very simple. We just need to find the resolve within ourselves.