Melbourne, Monsey, Ottawa, Montreal, Bal Harbor, Sunny Isles Beach, Worcester, Pittsburgh, Chicago, Ann Arbor, Atlanta, Kensington and of course, Crown Heights.
From these locations and more, came 40 delegates to our International Shidduch Group Network Shabbaton this past weekend, Cheshvan 10-12/October 23-25, Parshas Lech Lecha.
The V.I.P. Invitation Only Shabbaton took place in Crown Heights to unite Chapter leaders and shadchanim and strengthen their resolve to work together to enable our singles to get to the chuppah, incorporating the directives of the Rebbe.
Together, they learned, farbrenged, and networked, inspired by guest speakers, hosts and hostesses. Friendships were renewed and strengthened, infusing all with a feeling of empowerment as we strive to help one another, friends and neighbors to make shidduchim.
The weekend kicked-off with a royal catered Shabbos dinner at the home of Choula and Leibish Nash. Rabbi Nash gave a dvar Torah, and regaled us with a story of the legendary shadchan Shimshon Stock who made many matches in Crown Heights a few decades ago. Sara Tova Best spoke about the power of Hakhel Year. “According to the Rebbe, by taking advantage of every opportunity to make Hakhel gatherings, we can ‘upgrade’ from Golus to Geula,” she told us.
Rebbetzin Toby Leider, of Melbourne, led our whole group in giving brachos to one another enthusiastically—for refuahs and yeshuas and for shidduchim for the singles in our lives. Tears were flowing as hearts opened in shared requests. It was a magical experience that surely will be remembered by all who were there. We hope that those heartfelt requests will be speedily answered, in the merit of our achdus and Ahavas Yisroel.
Ayala Moshiach (and family) were our gracious hosts for a gourmet Shabbos lunch. Ayala leads a large Shidduch Group in Crown Heights for mostly Hebrew-speaking ladies. They meet every Tuesday night, learn many inyanim of the Rebbe regarding shidduchim, and give regularly as a group to Hachnossas Kallah.
Our Shabbaton reconvened for the afternoon session at the home of Shaindy Gutnick. Dr. Elka Pinson–therapist, shidduch coach, and shadchan–gave a seminar on “Shidduchim: Past, Present and Future,” openly dealing with several pertinent issues in shidduchim. Sara Tova Best, a personal coach and EFT therapist, spoke about how to get successfully “unstuck” in relationships, especially singles who seem to be “blocked” reaching their goal of getting married.
On Motzoei Shabbos, we were feted with a delectable Melave Malka meal, prepared by Mindy Lokeinsky and Raizy Brownstein, at Rayim Ahuvim shul. Thanks go to Chapter Leader Chavi Katzman, whose husband is the Shul gabbai, for hosting.
The program for the evening was musical entertainment by singer Rivkah Eilfort , followed by a “Q&A: Ask the Shadchan” panel discussion. Moderator Leah Bergovoy interviewed the panel of experienced shadchanim, consisting of Chana Miriam Hubener, Toby Lieder, Fayge Rapp and Shandel Malka Blasberg.
The Shabbaton concluded at the home of Sharona Sternbach on Sunday morning, with a delicious brunch, sponsored by Tamar Stone’s Crown Heights Shidduch Group.
Shoshana Lerner of “Chabad Shidduch” fame led a grand networking/profile-sharing session. Shoshana hosts a monthly Chabad Profile Sharing Meeting at Chabad of Midwood which attracts participants from the tri-state area. Her knack for efficiently leading a roundtable networking session, interspersed with a sprinkling of shidduch jokes, has led to many matches being made. Our event was no exception! Names were “flying” around the table as participants put on their “shidduch antennae” and compared notes to suggest shidduchim to one another. We understand “from the grapevine” that shidduch dating resulting from this session is already underway!
By the time 1 PM came and the Shabbaton came to a close, every delegate left feeling inspired and empowered, ready to reconnect with her local Shidduch Group and get back to the work of learning the Rebbe’s directives for shidduchim and putting them into practice; networking locally and internationally with ISGN members to make matches; davening for one another, and much more.
At the conclusion of the Shabbaton, International Shidduch Group Network President Elana Bergovoy made a plea to the group for tax-deductible donations to be made to the Network, a 501(C) 3 non-profit organization. “Please help us to help you,” she said. “We can only continue this important work with your help.”
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I have gone to many Shadchanim who just take my profile and never hear from them again
Then when I contact them they tell me don’t call me I’ll call you
I found that Toby was there with a smile every time I needed her
She takes each Shidduch very seriously and always gets back to me within 24 hrs!
Just saying…
Our ‘new age’ very successful, dedicated shadchan, Mrs Toby Lieder is available for skype interviews from anywhere around the world! she puts her heart n soul into helping you find your shidduch.
I found her to be very insightful,dedicated, patient, and deeply interested.
You may contact her at [email protected]
A great choice for a meaningful and productive evening! She is fabulous performer!
CORRECTION: The Sunday brunch was sponsored by Chavi Katzman’s Shidduch Group. May the group be showered with brachos and celebrate many engagements!
Muma Leiba is very special shadchenta but not everybody gets her help. May you have many wonderful years together
Could you include a list of experienced shadchanim and their telephone numbers?
advisors/moderators/etc, or just a subsection on existing sites.
And/or Shadchanim should have reviews/feedback/likes, just like Amazon/eBay/Facebook, like any other vendor of products or services. We need ACCOUNTABILITY in our modern-shtetl, like yesterday!
I am not a shadchen but have made four shiduchim, for the sake of helping these people, not for the dollar sign attached, and all are Boruch Hashem blissfully happy marriages. when shadchonus becomes a business it’s bad news. To add to # 5, I was once told by a so called shadchen, when she heard the girl interested was a divorced woman with more than six children, I was told flat out ”OH, FORGET ABOUT IT”.
I find much better luck with the frum online dating sites.
please go to meetings and if from out of town send in your child’s profile or friend’s child.
יגעת ומצאת
I have to sadly admit that #1, #4 and #5 are apsolutely correct. This reality we find ourselves in today does not come with easy answers and much needed chessed should be applied first for the sake of all single frum people who would like to find their besheret. More real compassion also for the women who are having to humble themselves while asking for help which is difficult on it’s own. No needed attitude, judgement or look how important one is with what seems is some power or leverage. Shatchanim must come with a pure heart and humble before… Read more »
What a fabulous organization! They should have continued hatzlacha in all that they do for the klal!
Wishing them all much success.
There are so many singles that cannot even get passed the first stage of receiving a single suggestion…would it be possible that the shadchanim that attended these events
a. list their names and contact info
b. be very generous in giving suggestions and resumes.
If you have a database of singles it shouldn’t be that hard to match names even if you simply put them in 3 basic categories. The flow of information will only hasten the process.
Its a practical suggestion that will make a world of a difference.
Its so nice to see people trying to make a difference.
I have two children, one has not received even one suggestion in over six month and my other has not received a suggestion in over two years. (I am not referring to a date, just suggestions.) This has been going on for years. And I know of other singles that are in the same situation. It begs to wonder.
I hope the work of special people will bear fruit.
I found my wife without a shadchan.
They make you chase after them, you get set up with the most far out matches, oh yeah, if your baall teshuva, points off, black or latino, another point off, adopted, another point off, not connected to some “big mashpia”, can’t even get in the front door.
Pathetic System
Thank Hashemi I found the love of my life with Hashemi help only!!!!!!!
Can you plz post the questions/answers?
The networking and advice from shadchanim and parents of those in the dating scene were very helpful and well spoken ! Yasher koach!
I have no idea what they do together because when it comes to making a match nobody seems to be able to get things done