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    My Family Dream Came True

    From the COLlive inbox: The doctor told me I can't have more than 2 children. With tears, I started writing to the Rebbe. Full Story

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    Beautiful
    Guest
    Beautiful

    Thats a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing

    Wow
    Guest
    Wow

    I have tears in my eyes. And I’m a man.

    Thank you for this Kiddush Hashem Chizuk article!
    Guest
    Thank you for this Kiddush Hashem Chizuk article!

    Memenu Yiru Vechain Yashu! May people see from her and learn to follow this lesson with the Rebbe’s Brachos!

    amazing
    Guest
    amazing

    be matzliach

    wow!
    Guest
    wow!

    so inspiring! thank you for sharing!! May Hashem bless you with a lot of chassidishe nachas from all of them , u should all be healthy and happy!

    Incredible story
    Guest
    Incredible story

    I am moved by this – wow! So much faith. I wish we could talk to the rebbe so directly these days.

    Two
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    Two

    With u on this one! Beautiful story!

    i got the chils!!!
    Guest
    i got the chils!!!

    when will moshiach come, when will we again be able to see the Rebbe with our eyes!!!

    feeling touched.
    Guest
    feeling touched.

    Thank for for sharing, as a women in Crown heights and going through a hard pregnancy my dream is also to IYH have a large family which my parents have blessed me with. I hope IYH with The Rebbes brochos my husband and I will be able to grow a big beautiful family as well 🙂

    at least you have children BH
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    at least you have children BH

    many people are in my shoes and wait years and still dont know when their first will be born and wait for brachas from the rebbe..and just wait and wait..i wish I could be in your shoes! Even one would make me happy..but my dream has also always been a big family…people in my shoes shed tears every time they come home from shul or an event where everyone there is present with children besides for themselves.

    To #10
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    To #10

    IY”H you will have a beautiful family!! Amen!!

    In general, we all have nisyanos and to each person their nisayon is a challenge that is hard to overcome. I’m sure the author didn’t want c’v in any way anyone to be hurt by her article.

    all my respect
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    all my respect

    It is a beautiful story.
    Not everyone has a minyan in the house.
    If you dont or not even close please remember that there is nothing wrong with you but that H’ is in charge!!!!!
    Just a reminder.

    Very Inspiring.
    Guest
    Very Inspiring.

    Thank You #12.

    malca b
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    malca b

    tobi – you’re an amazing women and thanks for sharing. i too wanted a large family however it was not meant to be, as i had different problems then just a first born c-section. my other 2 were also normal births along with 2 miscarriaged and thats all.

    i count my blessings and those the Rebbe gave as at 17 i was told my chances of having any children were slim to none

    again, thank you for sharing

    what if i must give birth via section!
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    what if i must give birth via section!

    What is bc of a previous section (vertical) you MUST have csection?? there is no one to tell us now whther we should risk it (goes up every time) or not!! I want a clear answer!!!

    shabbos table
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    shabbos table

    i have been by that shabbso table that rebetzin leider dreamed of and i can tel you first hand its exactly how she dreamed, long many guests etc. dreams do come true!!

    beautiful
    Guest
    beautiful

    beautiful story. thank you for sharing.
    just cried while reading.
    to #10. i feel you so much. i went true the same thing waiting for years to hold a baby in my harm. and b”h Hashem listened to our prayers. don’t be discourage.
    don’t wait for the years to pass by. just do something about it. go to doctors to get help.
    sometimes we need to make a keli for the brocho to come down.
    May Hashem listen to your tfilos and make your heart happy.

    to # 10
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    to # 10

    “((hug))”

    beautiful
    Guest
    beautiful

    thank you for posting great story

    Toby replies
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    Toby replies

    Something to think about
    I once said to my kids
    “Imagine if our bubbly winter,s mother decided NOT to have her,where would all of us be? I mean hundreds and hundreds of people are in this world,frum,doing what hashem wants,all because of her mother having her!”
    Just one soul,one Neshama can accomplish soooooooo much
    It’s incredible! We are talking close to thousands of people alive and contributing to society today because of my bubbly,s mom,s decision!

    to 10
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    to 10

    BH i cant feel ur pain cuz im not in ur shoes, but the table full of guest might make u happier!!!
    wanna share ur name so we can daven for you

    Kol hakovod
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    Kol hakovod

    These are the things that I want to read on col
    Thank you. The thing that make the rebbe proud

    We are so fortunate to have the Lieders in Melborne
    Guest
    We are so fortunate to have the Lieders in Melborne

    The Lieders have brought so much to our community.
    My son is finally enjoying learning with Rabbi Lieder as his Rebbi and Toby spoke so passionately about how to enrich our relationships in our marriage.
    They are true Shluchim of our Rebbe.

    Well written article
    Guest
    Well written article

    Miracouls! Wow, loved it!! Hope you write more… EEAW

    Very inspiring
    Guest
    Very inspiring

    Thankyou for sharing!

    To Rebbetzin Toby Lieder, and to #10
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    To Rebbetzin Toby Lieder, and to #10

    Dear Rebbetzin Toby and Rabbi Yankel Lieder, When I was a small child, you had me over at your house for a couple of nights whilst my parents were on a trip. Until today I remember your hospitality and that long never-ending shabbos table full of guests and family. Now as a father of a few kids of my own I appreciate it ten-fold. May Hashem grant you nachas (be-einei bosor) from your children and grandchildren and great grand children ad sof kol hadoros. May you always be able to be Machnis Orach mitoch Oisher Vechavod! #10, I feel for… Read more »

    go the lieders!!!
    Guest
    go the lieders!!!

    An amazing family, with the most generous heart and spirit. May Hashem bless you 10 fold and more – from what you have given to others and continue to give. Only brochos and nachas from all the children & grandchildren.

    anon
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    anon

    I have bh 10 brothers and sisters and we all brought home friends. BH, our table also just “expanded” it was a wonderful time…..

    Go Rabbi Lieder!! Talented man!
    Guest
    Go Rabbi Lieder!! Talented man!

    You make learning so. ntersting!! My son loves you. Thank you for making a diference in his life. Lots of success!
    CS

    to #23 writing from Sydney- You just scratched the surface!!
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    to #23 writing from Sydney- You just scratched the surface!!

    Melbourne YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT SPECIAL PEOPLE THE LIEDERS ARE. YOU HAVE JUST SCRATCHED THE SURFACE. You guys are LUCKY!! Cherish them!!
    Toby and Yankel and Chaim WE MISS YOU!!

    To 23
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    To 23

    Sydney is not the same without the Lieders.

    #26
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    #26

    Amen!

    to #26
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    to #26

    thanks for sharing amen v’amen

    #11
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    #11

    I echo your brochah!

     I am jealous....
    Guest
    I am jealous....

    ..not in a bad way…you are blessed with such a beautiful family and blessing but mostly that you have the right attitude as to what is precious in life…all I can say is woooowwww !!

    may we all be blessed as you are and to have the MONEY as well to be able to provide baharchava..

    Eliyahu from canada

    mommy of 2 C
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    mommy of 2 C

    I want to thanks you for sharing your letter. I have the same dream as you did, and I had 2 C’s . your letter gave a new hope for my dreaming coming thrue.

    wowww
    Guest
    wowww

    wow amazing!!!!! your rlly inspiring!!

    Only Child
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    Only Child

    Beautiful story! As an only child, from generations of only children, I hope and pray that I will merit the family that I never had.

    To # 10
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    To # 10

    I can relate to you via someone close to me who had B’H a baby after several years. They were basically told by doctors to forget it. But this is from Hashem and He is Hakol Yachol. I sincerely wish you simchas bekarov mamosh.

    to #6
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    to #6

    who says you can’t?
    even my goyishe cleaning lady learned to stand in front of the Rebbe’s picture in my house and she tells the Rebbe all her troubles!
    she actually witnessed many yeshuos!
    have faith in the Rebbe!

    So Valuable and Timely!!!!
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    So Valuable and Timely!!!!

    Reading Tobi’s article brings out the emes mamesh!!! Tobi’s story echoes mine!!!!!!!!!!!! How I cherish every moment with each and every one of our children, B”H! Her hiskashrus to the Rebbe is so very wonderful! Thank you Tobi for sharing. May you continue to experience true nachus, simchas, excellent parnoso, gezunt, and through your inspiration, may we greet the Rebbe NOW!

    COUSIN FROM THE WINTER SIDE...
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    COUSIN FROM THE WINTER SIDE...

    TOBY, YOU COULD NOT HAVE SAID BETTER!!! THE DOCTORS ARE THERE TO GUIDE/HELP US, NOT TELL US WHAT TO DO… AS THE REBBE POINTED OUT TO YOU: “Many people gave birth natural after caesarean, speak to your doctor about it!”

    THANKS A TON FOR POSTING THIS!!! -IT WILL SURELY SAVE MANY WOMAN FROM UNNECESSARY CAESAREAN!!!

    We miss you, Lieders... ;(
    Guest
    We miss you, Lieders... ;(

    That table is in Sydney…. Come back!!

    thanks for sharing...
    Guest
    thanks for sharing...

    i just printed this to share w/someone w/turners syndrome and Dr.’s predict no children…

    Breath of fresh air
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    Breath of fresh air

    So nice to see someone praising the inyan of a large family. At times it seems that these notions are not the given attitude amongst all Lubavitchers. I am sometimes shocked at people’s comments and outlook towards large families. Especially amongst the younger generation. We need to support each other and the Rebbe’s outlook on family size and bring to light the tremendous bracha and joy that goes hand in hand with staying in line with the Rebbe’s great vision and directives.

    wow
    Guest
    wow

    such an optimistic woman, and with all the right values, kol hakavod, beautifull

    I wish
    Guest
    I wish

    I have been to the lieders countless times on many yomim Tovim and I always felt the love and the warmth and feeling accepted .. I now live in Jerusalem israel and I wish I could see some more of this kind of hachnosis orchim here. I sometimes spend shabbosim alone because I don’t get invited out or feel comfortable as I used to at the Lieders! They Are a one of a kind family and I wish them all the Brochos in the world!

    Thanks for sharing!
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    Thanks for sharing!

    I too have received a bracha from the Rebbe and was zoche to have a child after the doctors told me my chances were slim. There is G-d in the world who ultimately decides on that and we just have to do out part! Try and believe and daven.

    Please listen to your doctors!!!
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    Please listen to your doctors!!!

    Please ladies listen to your doctor. Toby’s doctor agreed & she had the Rebbe’s Brocha.
    Shop around, get different opinions but DO NOT RISK your life & that of your child.

    School tuition
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    School tuition

    How does one afford tuition pray tell? Why are the administration of yeshivos & schools not sharing these values???

    To #15 and Toby Lieder, Inspiration
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    To #15 and Toby Lieder, Inspiration

    In Yechiidus, we were told we would have many children, but when I had one csarean after the other, I, too, wondered how I could realize this Bracha. Toby, I read about you 25 years ago, after having 4 c/sections (vertical outside, horizontal inside). The Rebbe gave me a Bracha to “share good news!” during my 5th pregnancy and I went on to have two natural in the hospital and SIX successful home births!! and yes, I also consulted with doctors who were heads of hospitals before doing this. You probably never realized what powers you held when you wrote… Read more »

    "Sniffling and tears"
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    "Sniffling and tears"

    That is my dream of having a big family that I have been waiting over 10 years and I finally got one baby girl. Then I found out that I was pregnant again and I was thrilled. All the suddenly, my baby went heaven. It broke my heart and I really pray for more miracles: more babies; I pray for unexpect miracles as triplets, quad, or quad triplets. Anything is possible. i need more prayers. Thank you for sharing your stories. God bless you and you have beautiful children that make me smile and give me more faith and hope… Read more »

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