As the finishing touches are being put into place and the fresh paint is just about dry, there’s a buzz in the air about a new space opening in the heart of Crown Heights. Dedicated and caring members of the community have stepped forward to meet a very important need in a serious, practical and impactful way.
These days most people will follow the word Shidduch with the word crisis. Everyone is well aware of the situation at large and the need to face this challenge head on. Enter the “Shidduch House”, an antidote and proactive solution to make a real difference and bring positive change to this challenging reality. A new word to associate with the word shidduch. Reminiscent to the days in the shtetl where it all happened under the roof of the Shadchinte’s home.
With its modern and tasteful décor and warm and inviting space designed by Tamara Teplow, The Shidduch House will be a welcoming haven for singles, parents and shadchonim alike where everything related to making shidduchim will take place. With a common goal, where everyone is on the same page, eager and optimistic to make shidduchim, The Shidduch House will be the center of energy where it will all happen.
The Shidduch House will offer a free and available space for Shadchonim to meet singles in a very comfortable and professional setting, for shadchonim to meet and network together, as well as meet with parents. The first of its kind, a space for Shadchanim to do their holy work in a relaxed atmosphere conducive to getting the job done. Without any outside distractions, shadchanim can be totally focused on the task at hand while being surrounded and supported by all the resources necessary to meet with success. Shadchanim are at the heart of every marriage in our community. Our mission is to provide a beautiful space to facilitate the process of shidduchim for all those involved. A place where our shadchanim can be effective advocates for our children and friends. A space to make meaningful connections, ultimately leading to successful matches. A home for shidduchim.
Singles will have the opportunity to be heard and seen in a meaningful way. They will have the option to present their profile or book an appointment for a more in depth conversation with one of our warm and caring shadchanim, who will take the time to get to know them to be able to better help them. A list of Shadchanim appears on the Shidduch House website. All activities and meetings with the shadchonim and singles will take place confidentially through the online scheduling program ensuring utmost privacy to this very delicate and sensitive area.
The Shidduch House will also feature workshops and educational events to better equip our singles on how to more effectively navigate this journey they are on as well as informative talks for the shadchonim and parents. Additionally, assistance with putting together a well-presented resume and the opportunity to have professional photos taken will be offered free of charge.
Along with many dedicated shadchanim, Esther Berkowitz will be joining the team in the effort to make this dream a reality.
“When I was approached with this concept, I was immediately excited for the opportunity to help and give back. As someone whose journey through shidduchim was not easy and someone who got married at an older age, the idea of being involved in such a project was extremely inviting. I feel very passionately about shidduchim and look forward to seeing the tremendous success of the Shidduch House,” Berkowitz says. As a dating coach herself, Esther will bring her expertise to the center as well.
The Shidduch House would like to see some other benefits that will come as a result of the work being done. One of the ideas initiated will be that after a couple gets married, they will be able to offer the staff at the Shidduch House suggestions for their single friends as a Hachlata Tova.
The Shidduch House will also reach out and advocate for singles that perhaps don’t have anyone networking on their behalf. “We will work tirelessly to see to it that every effort is made to represent them and make successful shidduchim,” Berkowitz says.
With Covid still an issue and options for dating venues still being limited, The Shidduch House will also be offering singles a space to meet in a beautiful and private setting.
With the doors just about ready to open, the Shidduch House is getting ready to make great changes and impact the world of shidduchim in a very real way.
“The Shidduch House can be your house, your friend’s house and your neighbor’s house. We invite all shadchanim to take advantage of this resource, we invite all singles to come in and meet them. We encourage you to be a part of this revolution and look forward to welcoming you in!” organizers said.
For more information please visit our website www.shidduchhouse.com
To make a donation or sponsor an upcoming event please email us at [email protected]
Hatzlacha to the organizers. Wishing all singles to be happily married by the end of next wedding season!!
It’s something very good
Can ppl go on dates there too? It would help save a lot of money
It also “offers a place for singles to meet in a beautiful and private setting.”
Privacy is important but then how would yichud be avoided?
I feel the Shidduch crisis every day. That said, what am I missing here? How is this going to help anyone in a practical way?
PS a dating house, where couples can meet, would be awesome. That’s the only part of this article that made sense to me. But for that we don’t need a house, only some welcoming families willing to host for 2-3-4 hours at a time, like they do in other communities.
Thank you for stating it so clearly
What we really need are kosher and tznius events for girls and boys to meet
If you would like a place to date
Email me I know some welcoming people with beautiful homes and apartments
[email protected]
Maybe start with Shadchonim judging families less and not stoping shidduchim that can happen. They put in their own opinion on family status when maybe the single would actually be interested but the shadchen won’t even bring it up. Many shadchonim will only look at you if you are Gezh or bought your way to status.
Those will get you shidduchim
A hundred percent correct
“Many shadchonim will only look at you if you are Gezh or… ” That’s probably true. And that’s a problem. But there are many OTHER shadchonim that cater to everyone else. Reach out to them. They’re out there. Believe me.
Focus on the solution instead of the problem.
Hatzlacha Rabbah!
And they are….?
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Mothers, they refuse to accept their kids being different then them and don’t accept until kids are too old that they need something different. Mothers stop being stubborn and short sighted, let your kids go out with people that you wouldn’t, what is wrong with you? Also nosy older siblings can screw up shidduchim. Tatties are the only ones who get a free pass but that is because most of them do nothing, lol.
is my favorite comment
Amazing!!
In a community such as ours many questions arise. Such as- How does the house facilitate privacy if open to “everyone”?
While this idea seems nice in theory I’m not sure it was thought out well enough.
It would be nice if they would have a place to meet also it might be nice just to go out without having to rent a car etc.
Kol hakavod and big yeshar coach for this amazing idea and offer
I am sure b’h you will have hatzlacha rabba and will be a lot of Jewish homes build very soon with H’s help לבנין עדי עד באושר ועושר ושלום
ברכת ה׳ עליכם
תלכו מחיל אל חיל
הגיע הזמן ב׳ה
The attitude of the community should be positive and encouraging for everyone who is trying to help in anyway for this important issue. You guys are amazing you are working hours ,night and day , trying to build one more Jewish home at a time. No one can pay or be thankful enough for what you are doing, only G-OD can/will pay you back in bundles of goods. Keep up the good work and don’t let anyone put you down. You are all amazing ,
Who are selflessly navigating this process for so many tired and stressed out singles and parents. We appreciate you and are so grateful that you have taken your assistance to the next level. May you see much success!
Does this mean as well that the Shadchan I’m will be doing this for the mitzvah- without their usual exorbitant fees attached?! Where the couple involved can give what they can afford without having to make a loan just to pay the shafchen.
Do you also ask a plumber or an electrician to fix your problem for free?
Sorry but you have got this very wrong! Once upon a time Shadchans made Shidduchim because it was their Mitzvah that they wanted to do just like some people take on Bikur Cholim, Hatzolah, Chevra Kadisha … the list goes on and on . Yes there is a concept of paying Shadchonis , it should be up to the couple or their parents to decide how much they can or would like to give . From the Shadchan’s perspective it would be nice if they did it for the right reasons such as the Mitzvah! Remember the concept of doing… Read more »
Maybe you should decide what mitzvos you want to do, instead of dictating what mitzvos others should be doing.
There is actually an inyan in paying shadchanim for their time. And it should not be whatever you decide you want. It should be whatever their going fees are.
Diferent shadchanim work differently so you can always find one that you feel is fair.
Paying the shadchan along the way, is part of your hishtadlus in finding your child a shidduch. And paying a shadchan when they make a shidduch is important for the future of the new couple!
so it should be thousands of dollars?? everyone has value but most people cant afford a few hundred dollars for this
What a nice initiative. May you go mchayil el choyil bgur! Farbrengut
What we really need nowadays with so many single boys and girls is an event for them to all meet/speed date/become acquainted for a few minutes. This way you can move through possibilities faster. It can be done in a kosher way.
Like young single struggling moms wanting to find a healthy shidduch?
Suggestions please where a divorcee can turn to for help with finding a shidduch. Which shadchanim specializes in this area?
Go to chabad match, they list shachonim.
Or call someone who deals with shidduchim ask for a reference.
AMAZING!! May this bring to many Simchos and happy marriages bzh!!
Incredible gorgeous room!
Much hatzalcha! I think it is wonderful that they are also offering a dating space!
The rebbe asked a mother before her child’s wedding if she paid shadchones gelt ? No it’s not a mitzva to get a free Shidduch Done for you , on the contrary it is a big mitzva to pay a shadchan. that should be first before making a fancy vort , make a small lechaim at home and pay your shadchan on time , do simple flowers at your wedding and pay a shadchan the amount of work he or she did for you . You might say it went easy but how many time they work to make a… Read more »
everyone wants to pay for it, but not the prices they want
Wow that space is gorgeous!!! Teplow Interiors is so talented. I hope to see more of her work throughout the Jewish world!
https://www.teplowinteriors.com/
the biggest reason for this crisis is,(im not coming form a chassidishe perspective) that most of the boys and girls mingle with each other at almost any party or event, there’s nothing special in a real formal date, everyone knows each other, no excitement, they are like acquaintances getting together. i know this is true as i have brought this up to many of these boys and girls and they said there’s major truth to it. i dont want to make it sound like , that fireworks and love needs to happen, but some excitement with meeting someone new. i… Read more »
Mothers do not be picky and let your sons date with girls that they will choose with out looking if the girl is from different background, different country, with out yihus or from different mentality. She can have better midos and more shayach.
Bsd I think whoever wishes to be helped by this wonderful organisation should pay a membership fee. It could be $5 a month. It could be $100 a year. It should be something substantial, but there shouldn’t be pressure to pay a lot. It is absolutely ridiculous to expect shadchanim to care and to invest thought and effort and time for no payment and no compensation Payment to the Shadchanim does a few things: a- it awards the Shadchan B- it shows hakaras hatov C- it makes the shadchan responsible to provide a service D- it gives the families the… Read more »
Would love to see round tables vs rectangles to create a more friendly and comfortable environment. Desks and rectangle tables suggests that this is a business environment while round tables would foster more open communication and honest conversation.