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Crown Heights is Getting a ‘Shidduch House’

The Shidduch House, set to open on President Street in Crown Heights, will be a working space for shadchanim to make calls, interview singles and parents and solve the crisis one shidduch at a time. Full Story

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Finally!!
March 21, 2022 4:29 pm

Hatzlacha to the organizers. Wishing all singles to be happily married by the end of next wedding season!!

Much needed
March 21, 2022 4:31 pm

It’s something very good

Looks pretty!!
March 21, 2022 4:36 pm

Can ppl go on dates there too? It would help save a lot of money

Yes!
Reply to  Looks pretty!!
March 21, 2022 8:44 pm

It also “offers a place for singles to meet in a beautiful and private setting.”

How do the technicality
Reply to  Yes!
March 21, 2022 11:56 pm

Privacy is important but then how would yichud be avoided?

Honestly
March 21, 2022 4:46 pm

I feel the Shidduch crisis every day. That said, what am I missing here? How is this going to help anyone in a practical way?

PS a dating house, where couples can meet, would be awesome. That’s the only part of this article that made sense to me. But for that we don’t need a house, only some welcoming families willing to host for 2-3-4 hours at a time, like they do in other communities.

Agreed
Reply to  Honestly
March 21, 2022 5:29 pm

Thank you for stating it so clearly

Agreed
Reply to  Honestly
March 21, 2022 11:07 pm

What we really need are kosher and tznius events for girls and boys to meet

Shadchan
Reply to  Honestly
March 21, 2022 11:47 pm

If you would like a place to date
Email me I know some welcoming people with beautiful homes and apartments
[email protected]

Family status is what’s stoping Shidduchim!
March 21, 2022 4:58 pm

Maybe start with Shadchonim judging families less and not stoping shidduchim that can happen. They put in their own opinion on family status when maybe the single would actually be interested but the shadchen won’t even bring it up. Many shadchonim will only look at you if you are Gezh or bought your way to status.

Money or big name
Reply to  Family status is what’s stoping Shidduchim!
March 21, 2022 5:09 pm

Those will get you shidduchim

Your right
Reply to  Family status is what’s stoping Shidduchim!
March 21, 2022 5:48 pm

A hundred percent correct

"Many shadchonim"...
Reply to  Family status is what’s stoping Shidduchim!
March 21, 2022 8:15 pm

“Many shadchonim will only look at you if you are Gezh or… ” That’s probably true. And that’s a problem. But there are many OTHER shadchonim that cater to everyone else. Reach out to them. They’re out there. Believe me.
Focus on the solution instead of the problem.

Hatzlacha Rabbah!

Info please
Reply to  "Many shadchonim"...
March 22, 2022 9:15 am

And they are….?

So needed
March 21, 2022 5:02 pm

🙈

#1 Reason we have Shidduch Crisis
March 21, 2022 5:07 pm

Mothers, they refuse to accept their kids being different then them and don’t accept until kids are too old that they need something different. Mothers stop being stubborn and short sighted, let your kids go out with people that you wouldn’t, what is wrong with you? Also nosy older siblings can screw up shidduchim. Tatties are the only ones who get a free pass but that is because most of them do nothing, lol.

this
Reply to  #1 Reason we have Shidduch Crisis
March 21, 2022 8:24 pm

is my favorite comment

Amazing
Reply to  #1 Reason we have Shidduch Crisis
March 22, 2022 10:32 am

Amazing!!

Nice in theory
March 21, 2022 6:05 pm

In a community such as ours many questions arise. Such as- How does the house facilitate privacy if open to “everyone”?
While this idea seems nice in theory I’m not sure it was thought out well enough.

It would be nice
March 21, 2022 7:34 pm

It would be nice if they would have a place to meet also it might be nice just to go out without having to rent a car etc.

עוד ישמע בהרי יהודה וירושלים קול ששון וקול שמחה
March 21, 2022 8:12 pm

Kol hakavod and big yeshar coach for this amazing idea and offer
I am sure b’h you will have hatzlacha rabba and will be a lot of Jewish homes build very soon with H’s help לבנין עדי עד באושר ועושר ושלום
ברכת ה׳ עליכם
תלכו מחיל אל חיל
הגיע הזמן ב׳ה

Thank you.
March 21, 2022 8:24 pm

The attitude of the community should be positive and encouraging for everyone who is trying to help in anyway for this important issue. You guys are amazing you are working hours ,night and day , trying to build one more Jewish home at a time. No one can pay or be thankful enough for what you are doing, only G-OD can/will pay you back in bundles of goods. Keep up the good work and don’t let anyone put you down. You are all amazing ,

Ty to the shadchanim!!
March 21, 2022 8:59 pm

Who are selflessly navigating this process for so many tired and stressed out singles and parents. We appreciate you and are so grateful that you have taken your assistance to the next level. May you see much success!

Free - l’shem mitzvah
March 21, 2022 9:08 pm

Does this mean as well that the Shadchan I’m will be doing this for the mitzvah- without their usual exorbitant fees attached?! Where the couple involved can give what they can afford without having to make a loan just to pay the shafchen.

To - free
Reply to  Free - l’shem mitzvah
March 21, 2022 11:14 pm

Do you also ask a plumber or an electrician to fix your problem for free?

Absolutely ridiculous!
Reply to  To - free
March 22, 2022 3:57 pm

Sorry but you have got this very wrong! Once upon a time Shadchans made Shidduchim because it was their Mitzvah that they wanted to do just like some people take on Bikur Cholim, Hatzolah, Chevra Kadisha … the list goes on and on . Yes there is a concept of paying Shadchonis , it should be up to the couple or their parents to decide how much they can or would like to give . From the Shadchan’s perspective it would be nice if they did it for the right reasons such as the Mitzvah! Remember the concept of doing… Read more »

You get what you pay for...
Reply to  Absolutely ridiculous!
March 22, 2022 8:51 pm

Maybe you should decide what mitzvos you want to do, instead of dictating what mitzvos others should be doing.
There is actually an inyan in paying shadchanim for their time. And it should not be whatever you decide you want. It should be whatever their going fees are.
Diferent shadchanim work differently so you can always find one that you feel is fair.
Paying the shadchan along the way, is part of your hishtadlus in finding your child a shidduch. And paying a shadchan when they make a shidduch is important for the future of the new couple!

shadchan
Reply to  You get what you pay for...
March 23, 2022 11:15 am

so it should be thousands of dollars?? everyone has value but most people cant afford a few hundred dollars for this

Zeyer Shein
March 21, 2022 10:27 pm

What a nice initiative. May you go mchayil el choyil bgur! Farbrengut

Agreed
March 21, 2022 11:09 pm

What we really need nowadays with so many single boys and girls is an event for them to all meet/speed date/become acquainted for a few minutes. This way you can move through possibilities faster. It can be done in a kosher way.

Do you cater to second marriages?
March 21, 2022 11:39 pm

Like young single struggling moms wanting to find a healthy shidduch?
Suggestions please where a divorcee can turn to for help with finding a shidduch. Which shadchanim specializes in this area?

Nechoma Cohen(@smile)
Reply to  Do you cater to second marriages?
March 24, 2022 10:21 pm

Go to chabad match, they list shachonim.
Or call someone who deals with shidduchim ask for a reference.

👏👏👏
March 22, 2022 2:17 am

AMAZING!! May this bring to many Simchos and happy marriages bzh!!

Designed by Teplowinteriors.com
March 22, 2022 10:34 am

Incredible gorgeous room!

Beautiful idea!
March 22, 2022 11:13 am

Much hatzalcha! I think it is wonderful that they are also offering a dating space!

Shadchan pay
March 22, 2022 11:22 am

The rebbe asked a mother before her child’s wedding if she paid shadchones gelt ? No it’s not a mitzva to get a free Shidduch Done for you , on the contrary it is a big mitzva to pay a shadchan. that should be first before making a fancy vort , make a small lechaim at home and pay your shadchan on time , do simple flowers at your wedding and pay a shadchan the amount of work he or she did for you . You might say it went easy but how many time they work to make a… Read more »

shadchan
Reply to  Shadchan pay
March 23, 2022 11:16 am

everyone wants to pay for it, but not the prices they want

Amazing Design!!! For such a great cause!
March 22, 2022 11:33 am

Wow that space is gorgeous!!! Teplow Interiors is so talented. I hope to see more of her work throughout the Jewish world!

https://www.teplowinteriors.com/

biggest reason
March 22, 2022 1:28 pm

the biggest reason for this crisis is,(im not coming form a chassidishe perspective) that most of the boys and girls mingle with each other at almost any party or event, there’s nothing special in a real formal date, everyone knows each other, no excitement, they are like acquaintances getting together. i know this is true as i have brought this up to many of these boys and girls and they said there’s major truth to it. i dont want to make it sound like , that fireworks and love needs to happen, but some excitement with meeting someone new. i… Read more »

Open minded
March 22, 2022 7:56 pm

Mothers do not be picky and let your sons date with girls that they will choose with out looking if the girl is from different background, different country, with out yihus or from different mentality. She can have better midos and more shayach.

Payment
March 22, 2022 11:57 pm

Bsd I think whoever wishes to be helped by this wonderful organisation should pay a membership fee. It could be $5 a month. It could be $100 a year. It should be something substantial, but there shouldn’t be pressure to pay a lot. It is absolutely ridiculous to expect shadchanim to care and to invest thought and effort and time for no payment and no compensation Payment to the Shadchanim does a few things: a- it awards the Shadchan B- it shows hakaras hatov C- it makes the shadchan responsible to provide a service D- it gives the families the… Read more »

Round Tables
March 23, 2022 9:58 pm

Would love to see round tables vs rectangles to create a more friendly and comfortable environment. Desks and rectangle tables suggests that this is a business environment while round tables would foster more open communication and honest conversation.

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