By Rochel Duchman – ICT Certified – Dating Coach
In a world where negativity often permeates discussions about relationships and dating, and those in the position to help our young men and women, it’s refreshing to encounter individuals who choose a different path. This sentiment echoes loudly in the words of those who, like myself, have opted to breathe new life into the dating scene.
Reflecting on my journey, I recall a pivotal moment twelve years ago when I made a conscious decision to diverge from the prevalent culture of complaint and cynicism.. Bad mouthing and blaming- instead of succumbing to the temptation of dwelling on what was wrong with the world, I asked myself, What positive contribution can I make?” This introspective question propelled me into the realm of matchmaking.
Initially, my foray into matchmaking was modest. I did -with the help of G-d- make a few Shidduchim, yet it planted the seeds of a deeper calling. Recognizing the potential to broaden my impact, I embarked on a journey of personal and professional development. I immersed myself in coaching courses, honing my skills to become a beacon of guidance in the tumultuous seas of dating. With my coaching certification in hand, and a few more advanced coaching courses, I moved forward.
Drawing from a rich tapestry of teachings, including insights from revered mentors, and specific Hoaros, guidelines and direction from our Rebbe, I realized the power I held to prepare individuals for Shidduchim. I put all my time and energy into creating tailored courses for parents, young women, and young men, I endeavored to equip them with the tools necessary to navigate this terrain with confidence, purpose and success!
Moreover, my dedication extended beyond group sessions to encompass individual coaching, where I witnessed firsthand the transformative power of personalized guidance. Miraculous outcomes became a testament to the efficacy of this approach, reinforcing my belief in the inherent capacity to service others with LOVE and CARE for each individual- helping them get where THEY want to go.
Yet, amidst the success stories, I am extremely aware of the need for more individuals to heed the call to action. My challenge to others is simple: stand up and be counted among those who are ready and willing to extend a hand of support and guidance in matters of the heart.
To those young men and women who may be hesitant or doubtful to use a coach, I say with certainty: “HINAINI” – here I am, ready to serve you with love. Together, let us usher in a new era of positivity and empowerment in the dating scene.
To get in touch with Rochel Duchman for a private session or speaking engagements, call or WhatsApp 323-620-3618
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Your service sounds wholesome and caring.
Perhaps you could indicate how many shidduchim actually resulted ,over what time period and how much you charge for your sessions?
Could you give more details about the useful changes you observed using your approach?
In general us as yidden should have ahavas yisroel on our mind, and that includes speaking positively about others. Thank you for writing this as we need more positivity. As an older single I choose to stay positive and upbeat, I chose to let the people that maybe aren’t so positive slide by (instead of talking about them) I choose to go in the ways of Hashem, I choose to create light not darkness. I believe “tracht gut vet zein gut” the same way a mother isn’t blamed for not being able to conceive, a single shouldn’t be blamed for… Read more »
is for someone to match them with the correct soul. We need people who can help the right souls find their right other halves.
The article states that Mrs. Duchman is a dating coach not a Shadchan. Her services are greatly needed and appreciated.
But need to get a date first
isn’t this also kind of playing the blame game too in a sense though because you are blaming singles for being single as if they did something wrong, or aren’t doing something right, as if they have something they need to fix, instead of the fact that maybe in some or most cases they just haven’t been matched with the correct soul yet or perhaps some other external block that has nothing to do with this single?
Reach out to her!! She is completely on your side with your best interests in mind. A positive encouraging voice. Priceless!!
She really is a breath of fresh air in the parsha. Different than most