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True but
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True but

True for girls. Girls think. Girls give chances. Guys don’t. If they don’t see what they like in the first few minutes, it’s over in their head. Maybe guys should be taught to take the time to get to know someone as well?

This sounds very generic
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This sounds very generic

It seems like all shidduchim articles nowadays carry identical themes…

a jew in mexico
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a jew in mexico

awesome article

Response
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Response

Why should I figure out who I am when the guy who I’m dating can do it for me?

Amazing article
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Amazing article

Great article…just a little surprised..”based on the teachings of Rabbi Simon Jacobson” I would thought that this organization is based on the teachings of The Rebbe?

Number 3
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Number 3

Made a friend with someone you dated? Not in lubavitch

...and maybe you have made a friend???
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...and maybe you have made a friend???

…and maybe you have made a friend???
This does not seem in line with our hashkafas. If you go out with somone and it doesn’t work out, I don’t think you are supposed to be friends. Our torah believes in the separation of the genders. In fact, the only exception is shiduchim where you have to meet to decide if you are going to marry. After that, i don’t know of any exceptions.

Thats not the Rebbes approach!
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Thats not the Rebbes approach!

The chabad approach is to strictly date for marriage (without dragging it out over periods of months

Nice!
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Nice!

Very well written article! Nice to see.

Thnk u

Breakthrough Dating
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Breakthrough Dating

New on the scene, Breakthrough Dating is a wonderful approach to dating. And the proof: since its inception 33 people found their shidduch.. The organization doesn’t set you up with anyone. It teaches you how to date. Strange but true. 33 in two years. It was started by Shira Strassman Teichman. Great new service.

to number 4
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to number 4

lol that warrants the’ like ‘ button!

Some people are not allowed to say what they like
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Some people are not allowed to say what they like

Because it is not considered tznius. If a person cannot be attracted without that feature being just right. Sure people can criticize and say they are focusing on the wrong things, but that does not change the fact that for a marriage to be solid the couple has to like each other, and that includes physically as we learn from (at least one of) the Avos who looked at his wife and make sure she was physically appealing, before he married her. And also, I remember being taught that you can’t ask questions on a Tiyva. Someone might be coerced… Read more »

The Art of the Date
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The Art of the Date

Read the book and many of your questions will go away.

The Art of the Date Hardcover
by Ruki D. Renov

...and maybe you have made a friend???
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...and maybe you have made a friend???

…and maybe you have made a friend???
This does not seem in line with our hashkafas. If you go out with somone and it doesn’t work out, I don’t think you are supposed to be friends. Our torah believes in the separation of the genders. In fact, the only exception is shiduchim where you have to meet to decide if you are going to marry. After that, i don’t know of any exceptions.

Ylg
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Ylg

Well we are all still out there

Ideas for dating.
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Ideas for dating.

1. Stop looking for Mr. or Mrs. (picture) perfect. “The only people with no problems are the ones you don’t know very well”.

2. Don’t believe all all the lashon hara you hear about others. There are many marriages which would not happen if people listened to the lies and gossip that unfortunately goes around these days..

To #1 -
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To #1 -

I’m a guy – I give almost every girl I am suggest a chance – even if I am not right off the bat attracted to them. I feel that it’s the opposite – it’s the women who don’t give chances at all. I try to approach many women – but get rejected for very external reasons. So I’m not sure whether or not your comment is accurate.

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