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    Protect Children NOT Abusers
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    Protect Children NOT Abusers

    When “leadership” recognizes that it pays more to protect Jewish children than Judaism then most of our problems will become solvable.

    Upset
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    Upset

    What I don’t like is how people say that the abuser nebach has a sickness and if they have a beard they will let him go to shull or give him a job saying, “will tell our children to stay away.” No I feel that people who sympathize with abusers are showing the abusers that it is ok what they did.

    Too many false accusations
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    Too many false accusations

    At the same time I believe there are too many false accusations .I am a morah and a 4yr old boy told his mother that i hit him and nothing was further from the truth. I had never been alone with him . I had always treated him like my own and it was then and now beyond my understanding and hurtful that she just believed him and attempted to make trouble for me where I worked.

    To #3
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    To #3

    It’s been proven that children don’t make these things up. Maybe about a patch, but molestation is a very different story. Believe the child, have them deal with the cops and let the cops do their job.

    Summer Camp
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    Summer Camp

    I know of a lubavitcher summer camp where a camper made a claim to the Head Staff that his counselor had abused him. Upon investigation it was found out that the camper had in fact made up the story to ‘get revenge’ at his counselor for taking time off a trip for something the camper had done wrong.
    Luckily they managed to verify that. Imagine if they hadn’t…?

    To # 4
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    To # 4

    On the contrary. It has been proven that children can be led, when asked certain questions, to say things that are completely false, in order to please the questioner.

    Believe Your Child
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    Believe Your Child

    Please believe your children! They cannot possibly fabricate a story of abuse and molestation if they had never been exposed before. I believed mine and I’m so glad I did. In spite of the struggles and difficulties my child is so much better off than those who continue to suffer in silence. Until communities change their way of thinking, it is our responsibility to speak up and not allow the silence to continue victimizing our children. Hashem should bentch, protect and keep all children safe.

    To #7
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    To #7

    Maybe they can’t fabricate it, but #6 is correct. Read up on the many cases of the 1980s that turned out to be false accusations brought about by coaching children (intentionally or unintentionally) to give the answers the investigators were looking for. Start with https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Day-care_sex-abuse_hysteria, for example.

    open communication is key
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    open communication is key

    Prevention is so much more powerful than a cure, please parents speak to your children, make sure that they know they can always come to you and that you will listen to them. Tell your children that there must never be secrets, Repeat and keep the conversation going, especially before going to camp or to a friend for a sleepover and before the school year begins.

    To number 4
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    To number 4

    A child falsely accusing a teacher of even a patch is not taken lightly by administration . A Morah or Rebbe can lose their job over it or face charges. It is within a child’s realm of thinking to do so. It’s important for teachers to protect themselves from this at any or all costs.

    False information
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    False information

    I also taught in a school once and was falsely accused. But in the back of my head I wonder if those children had experienced abuse in the past and knew because I was strict they could use it to get rid of me. Which I am sure they did. However, I wouldn’t discount what a child says, if they are giving details they had to have learned it from somewhere, home, family, school, mikvah, camp, a friends home…The important thing is to allow the child to talk about it and then discover the perpetrator.

    what does halokho say about false accusations?
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    what does halokho say about false accusations?

    sounds like any closeting of child with adult needs to be with a camera – how sad is that.?
    and , yes, there has to be a way to prevent false accusations.by discreetly placing cameras and seeing who is at

    how are the accused expected to defend themselves, how are the accusers expected to prove their case?

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