This year, my 14 year old son is not going to the Ohel on Gimmel Tammuz.
Baruch Hashem, he has a father, but his father is not going. Does it matter why his father is not going? Traveling 8 hours is sometimes difficult, but every year, my husband manages the trip. Acceptable or not, this year, he is not going.
In the last couple of days, through some inquiries, I tried to arrange a lift for Mendy. He is shy and is not close with the boys in his class.
Maybe I just didn’t try hard enough. Maybe I was uncomfortable because we don’t have family where he could stay, while other traveling families do. Although, now that I think of it, we do have one family where maybe he could have stayed. There are a lot of maybes.
I told my husband that if anyone asks, “Why didn’t Mendy go?”, I will answer them, “Why didn’t you ask in the days leading up to Gimmel Tammuz, how is Mendy going?”
I told my husband that the lesson I learned from this is, to think about someone else’s child or someone else’s spouse, or anyone who might be a little more vulnerable than myself.
In fact, is that not the lesson our Rebbe teaches us about being his chassidim?