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    What’s Wrong With the British

    From the COLlive inbox: There's about 50 shidduch-aged girls who are being rejected simply because they are "English." Full Story

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    This article is so english But has great point

    Stating the obvious
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    Stating the obvious

    The problem with English girls is that they are English! Enough said.

    Aussie Aussie Aussie
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    Aussie Aussie Aussie

    LOL English… try being Australian!

    londoners
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    londoners

    well said

    english people...
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    english people...

    english people live in a box and everything is to the extreme for them!
    from an experienced american

    The other way around too
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    The other way around too

    I have a daughter, Shiduch age, and – for some odd reason – any Boucher that lives in England, she refuses even to hear about….claiming different mentality etc etc. Nothing will convince her otherwise!!!!

    General
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    General

    Its something against the Commonwealth in general. Australians, South Africans and English have a stigma of being more chilled which personally I find sad as they all raise fine people.

    Ditto to the Aussies
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    Ditto to the Aussies

    Yep i agree with #3. Try being Australian. and somehow everyone loves us for everything buy shidduchim.

    Fair? I think not, esp since many of these families were sent on shlichus by the Rebbe.

    perhaps this is a generalization
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    perhaps this is a generalization

    it seems there is a distinct difference in mindset (which manifests itself in many different areas) between americans and english people and this can be hard to overcome.

    Answer to your question…
    Guest
    Answer to your question…

    Because there are too many divorced British girls.

    aussie
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    aussie

    here here

    hello
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    hello

    can i have that list of 50 girls hellllo….?

    Lubavitchsingles
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    Lubavitchsingles

    Lubavitchsingles.com aka the girls list has currently around 40 London girls listed and about 10 Manchester girls.
    If you know of any more please email lubavitchsingles@gmail.com or use the online form.

    Great article!!!!!
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    Great article!!!!!

    Thank you and sooo true!

    boys
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    boys

    Here now! Just locate 50 decent English boys will’ya, and you’ll have solved your problem in a jiffy, old chap! Simple, innit? Chandeliers were invented for bright bulbs like me!

    married british
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    married british

    i traveled across the ocean, and b”h i’m happily married to a wonderful person from the uk, i can testify first hand they’re very nice!

    stop talking about the Queen
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    stop talking about the Queen

    the bochrim are just not interested in hearing about the Queen

    Hands tied
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    Hands tied

    I don’t get this op-ed; it’s inevitable that people will have negative things to say, and with comments being sensored, how is this going to be a legitamite discussion. It’s only going to be one sided- which is kind of pointless.

    A sunburnt country
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    A sunburnt country

    Australians all let us rejoice,
    For we are young and single

    They just don’t know what they’re missing out on.

    We'll the English
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    We'll the English

    The English girls mite be nice but the parents are very lame I’ve been to London 5 times for dates and the ppl are just lame I was there shaboss and no one in the Shul said good shabess to me , I know when I’m in the USA ppl are so nice try ask who are u were u from so I english ppl need to work on them selfs before u deserve us good USA boys

    British daughter in law
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    British daughter in law

    I let my son go out with a British girl and that is the best thing that could have happened! Boruch Hashem he is happily married and to an amazing women who is bringing up a beautiful family kah

    MaidofCH
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    MaidofCH

    Maybe they’re too proper?

    English
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    English

    Cold Mentality!

    Proud English girl
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    Proud English girl

    We are so down-to-earth, real, kind and confident. My american husband tells me everyday how lucky he is to have married me. Thank g-d I didn’t end up with an American big mouth who seems to have opinions about everyone and everything:)

    English girls
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    English girls

    You must find out about the girl before saying no cuz she is British! Why would you assume that all English girls are the same? Are all Americans the same? The whole crown heights is full of different types let alone America so please don’t judge a British girl just because she was born in England!

    2, 5
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    2, 5

    Exactly what its saying.
    Ur making a genarlization, there are all types of English girls.
    There not all square in the box.. Where u come from.. Are you a crown height person that doesn’t know anything differance but just from up ur road and around tour corner.
    Open ur eyes.. Ur being exactly what ur saying.

    number 5
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    number 5

    Ur in a box.

    To #7
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    To #7

    Learn the differences: The chilled ones are Australians and South Africans. The English are the stubborn and square-minded.

    And fyi, Canada is part of the Commonwealth too.

    Glad you posted this
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    Glad you posted this

    We all need to remember to remain open-minded in shidduchim….My son did a shidduch with a girl from a certain country overseas where the girls have a lot of trouble getting dates, and he and we are very happy. I will say, though, that in general Lubavitchers have less of a problem than some other communities. One relative who lives in a certain Brooklyn neighborhood found that people only wanted to do a shidduch with a family within walking distance for Shabbos walks… Let’s count our blessings while we open our minds!

    To #5
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    To #5

    “English people live in a box” – just like Crown Heightsers, except, English people live in bigger boxes.

    israeli
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    israeli

    tray to be israeli

    lets be honest
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    lets be honest

    a few unstable girls gave us all a bad rep…

    thanks for writing this

    mmm
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    mmm

    BS”D

    Mmm. Lovely News!
    Divorced, handsome, young man of 50 with 2 kids, good parnussah, b.t., cannot re-locate, but is a huge Anglophile. R.S.V.P. to Mrs Levertov (Strocks) here in Crown Heights.
    Mrs. Levin(Liberow) can provide an excellent reference……

    No#5
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    No#5

    Hmmm i wonder who really lives in a box

    london
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    london

    what about english boys we whee also brought up on the princial of openmidness vchu

    English
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    English

    English? Try Argentina.

    little confused
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    little confused

    Has anyone counted how many crown heights young women rrmained unmarried?

    Australia
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    Australia

    I think Australian girls have a much harder time…incomparably!!

    For good reason we stay away from the English
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    For good reason we stay away from the English

    I will just say it’s from experience we say this. It’s not by accident that we all say the same things. I don’t know who is posting. with 2 English in our extended family we see stubbornness and in their own box. To solve your problem look for English boys!!! I for one would not hear of English girls for my sons. Sorry but that’s the truth.

    Sruly C
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    Sruly C

    I don’t even understand the idea,

    I’m married to a English girl, they are smart, amazing wife’s and great mothers. The Americans have a thing or two to learn from them.

    Re #7
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    Re #7

    Except south Africa isn’t part of the Commonwealth.

    English
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    English

    I am English and I’m proud and ill sing it out loud, cuz forever that’s what I’ll be …. Oh yeah.
    If only Americans knew how to laugh like the English and not be so miserable and angry always… Lol

    Where do I start?
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    Where do I start?

    [a] English are extremely square. [b] Their humor is generally corny. [c] Their logic is usually shallow and somewhat askew. [d] Their tastes are bland. [e] Unfortunately they have produced in the past ‘white trash’. [f]Let the Sth Afr, Aust, and Uk communities date each other to solve their shidduch crisis. However we know understandably, Sth Afr and Aust are years beyond the English. [g] English parents are very difficult to deal with. [h] Wedding arrangements are not the issue although may not be ideal. It’s the English mentality for the rest of one’s life that is challenging. [i] Do… Read more »

    what!?
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    what!?

    1. Is the post writer the frustrated parent of an English girl?
    2. Hello. There’s are much more than 50 girls from the US that are single. there are much more than 50 girls in Brooklyn. What is the point of this post???

    Well. Adding 1+2 I’d say the writer should have simply posted a pic and bio of the girls that are eligible and needlessly being passed over and let the marketplace decide.

    Dated a few
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    Dated a few

    I had problems with English girls because I always felt they couldn’t express themselves, they keep everything stuck in a box and then blow with no warning.

    On that matter, Aussies are the same, they all have friendly exteriors and are warm but will never tell you if something is bothering them…

    Its a very Victorian way of life

    We have
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    We have

    Ribena and hot snacks and Americans don’t. And a can and a bun- when we go over.

    uk girl
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    uk girl

    there is way more then 50 girls…

    Stop
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    Stop

    Stop feeling sorry for yourselves. I don’t think it’s because you’re “English”. Your time just hasn’t come yet. I know A LOT of unmarried American girls. But they don’t blame it on our country…

     I'm English
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    I'm English

    I’m from London and my husband is the happiest guy out there !!!! Hahaha
    Hey author you forgot to mention the west end , Brent cross , selfridges , Harrods and Marks and spencer !!!
    Who needs Macys and JC PENNY ?!!!
    PS ENGLISH PEOPLE KNOW HOW TO LAUGH !!!!!!!!

    face the facts:
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    face the facts:

    with shidduchim, everyone gets a bit picky. they want the perfect normal girl, no different than themselves. Americans normally only want americans, and that’s that. they pass up the girls with just the tiniest difference. I feel for you, but the shidduch cycle is something that is, unfortunately, set in stone. Divorcees marry divorcees; widowers marry widows; americans marry americans; israelis marry israelis. Just marry an English and continue the cycle.

    Clown heightser
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    Clown heightser

    I only want to marry a fellow clown heightser

    Bitter girl
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    Bitter girl

    It seems that the writer is just very bitter, I did not reject an english girl for my son.

    dissapointed
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    dissapointed

    for this reason alone I know why you aren’t married. Trust in the eibeshter. Hashem obviously hasn’t sent your beshert and that’s that. Why are you blaming it on your nationality?? connection…

    I'm English
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    I'm English

    and this is one of the most ridiculous Op-ed’s I have ever read on Collive.

    HKBH is in charge of Shidduchim, do your Hishtadlus and Hashem will do his!

    May we have lots of good news!

    huh???
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    huh???

    What an odd article to write. there are 2 things wrong with it. 1) Im sure british girls are very nice people. I’ve met a few and the ones I know are great. Yet just because they are nice doesnt mean that its cheap to fly there. It doesnt take away the factor that yes they are overseas. Which is a valid point. Maybe some people are fine with paying for tickets, but some people are not. that has nothing to do with how nice or not British girls are. 2) the second thing wrong with this article is even… Read more »

    I'll tell u way...
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    I'll tell u way...

    Americans are intimated of us ! down to earth , real, class , smart and wickedly funny, creative, great cooks … Except for my american husband who I Whipped into into shape- tought some manners, how to laugh, relax , have fun, not be such a workaholic ,instilled values , told him about the london dungeons and methods used when not obeyed….funnily enough he’s happy!

    Different
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    Different

    Writing an op-ed can’t change reality! The reality is that the English are DIFFERENT than the Americans. Crying how unfair it is, is just burying your head in the sand and denying the reality. Of my four friends who married Englishmen, three are just MISERABLE, but b”H at least they;re still married.

    The English are beautiful.
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    The English are beautiful.

    I find most the English to have a beautiful refinement to them. What people think they want is not alway found to be true, but feels safe, so they typically stay within that zone.

    there is a boss
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    there is a boss

    and what’s about the good English boys that you Americans won’t touch..

    to 47
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    to 47

    You could now order marks and spencer online

    English
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    English

    Be careful, the English machatanim can drag you down, down down!

    England has the greatest Soccer League in the world
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    England has the greatest Soccer League in the world

    Where in the world can one watch such a spectacle week in week out. Come on England. #15 lets go all together now G-D save our gracious queen………………..

    to no. 52
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    to no. 52

    and don’t forget to mention that you also wouldn’t want to marry someone who lives past Montgomery St. and it has to be between Brooklyn and Albany. but ur not square. just dumb.

    It's a death sentence.
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    It's a death sentence.

    Never did and never will

    I did it right
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    I did it right

    I found the solution so listen closely, I married a woman with a Dutch mother so it takes the chill out and actually makes for quite an amazing woman.

    Chani
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    Chani

    They very cold never never in my live

    To number 57
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    To number 57

    Who are you ?
    I think you are me
    LOL

    I blame the shadchonim
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    I blame the shadchonim

    They often refuse to even suggest an English girl

    doubts?
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    doubts?

    any doubt about english girls? call the wolff family!

    Brits r awesome!
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    Brits r awesome!

    This is all ridiculous- one can’t stereotype an entire country!!! All the British people I know are really wonderful! Plus they have a great accent ( they sound smart regardless of what they are saying). 🙂

    usa guy married to English :)
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    usa guy married to English :)

    English girls are way better looking than other girls, that’s why Americans are too insecure to date them..

    very simple
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    very simple

    its no secret that there are more unmarried girls than boys which gives the boys a much bigger base of girls to choose from. why would an American boy choose to go out with an English girl? Why would he want to deal with the issues regarding marrying someone from a different background from a foreign country etc. when there are plenty of American girls to choose from first? I’m not saying that its right or its fair, its just the fact. The average American boy would rather exhaust his American options before considering going out with a foreigner.

    I love my English in-laws!
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    I love my English in-laws!

    They are chassidish, kind, warm, welcoming, fun, well-rounded, balanced, hard-working, smart… and they brought up the best husband a woman can ask for!

    English girls are the best! Especially from Manchester!
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    English girls are the best! Especially from Manchester!

    At least my wife is, 😉 . People have to many preconceived ideas when it comes to whom they decide to go out with that don’t necessarily reflect reality. Maybe the non-commonwealth communities are the closed minded one…

    this must be a new thing
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    this must be a new thing

    as a 40 year old british woman, I am most of my friends married americans. It was not an issue 20 years ago

    What's Wright With the British
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    What's Wright With the British
    english guys are the best
    Guest
    english guys are the best

    Fabulous caring husbands fathers…

    DO SOMETHING TO HELP THE REBBES DAUGHTERS REACH THEIR GOAL UNDER THE CHUPAH
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    DO SOMETHING TO HELP THE REBBES DAUGHTERS REACH THEIR GOAL UNDER THE CHUPAH

    I really don’t know where to start.
    You can all have a good laugh.
    Trust me the Shidduch Crises is SAD.
    When we will care about MIDOS, FRUMKEIT CHASSIDISKEIT, ERLECH ETC
    Yes they is a load of English Girls.
    Their are 100 of girls bet 22 and on waiting, for SOMEONE TO SHOW AN INTEREST IN THEM.
    We need to create a Shidduch Network. online.
    PLEASE DO SOMETHING TO HELP THE REBBE DAUGHTERS REACH THEIR GOAL UNDER THE CHUPAH.

    disgusted
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    disgusted

    what’s wrong with these English people? first they hold it all in behind a steel facade. Then they explode like crazy and blame it on the people who happen to be in the crossfire. No wonder Americans don’t marry into English too often…

    One Reason
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    One Reason

    It is too difficult to date when they are far apart….its hard to make a connection after when dating on Skype…so people dont want to start..

    if they came over…the problem would be reduced.

    me-english
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    me-english

    we English are clean and organised and very talented .we also tell the truth .we are not fake like people here. look at the teacher who are english here one does wood work ,one does nigunim art teachers and the homes here who have english mums are really well raised .

    Rabbi Heller
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    Rabbi Heller

    Rabbi Heller Shelita, has two sons who married English girls!

    to #3
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    to #3

    Maybe if the aussis wouldnt get married and drag their husbands back to no mans land more guys will want to date you. but no one wants to be dragged to Australia

    Proud to be a pommy!!
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    Proud to be a pommy!!

    LONDON BRIDGE US FALLING DOWN FALLING DOWN FALLING DOWN LONDON BRIDGE IS FALLING DOWN MY FAIR LADY !!!
    I bet you Americans don’t know that song !!!!!

    Oh, cuz Americans are a big glick!!
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    Oh, cuz Americans are a big glick!!

    WAY too many comments to comment on each…
    but…
    To some I have to say AYMEN!! and to the others…. SHUH UP!!!
    P.S to the one comment that did stick out in my head… I have been in C”H for almost 30 yrs and on only a handful of occasions have I had someone address me with a “good Shabbos”, or not been looked at, with a “do I know you” face, when I say Good Shabbos to a fellow Jew!

    PLEASE!!!!
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    PLEASE!!!!

    I am married to an English girl for many years now. Best in the world. Wouldn’t have done it otherwise.

    Mark twain
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    Mark twain

    What did mark twain say about Manchester? Might give the English a bit of heads up as to what problem pple have with them

    as anyone noticed
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    as anyone noticed

    all the hilarious comments are from english happy pple and all the misarable serious comments are from americans. …lol

    English husbands
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    English husbands

    I married an English guy. He is an amazing person , wonderful husband ,and an awesome father!!! My in laws are really kindhearted, generous, and loving. We are happily married for quite a few years. And to think I hesitated dating him because he was English….its just narrowminded to shut the door on an entire country.

    SOUTH AFRICAN'S
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    SOUTH AFRICAN'S

    I don’t think it’s a Commonwealth problem (though S.A left the Commonwealth in 1960)
    There are scores of S. Africans married to Americans…including myself….and my in laws didn’t think twice about my nationality (though they all love my lekker accent!)
    People tend to compare us to the Brits, but we are nowhere close to their mentality.

    the English PEOPLE
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    the English PEOPLE

    ARE cold

    Some
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    Some

    of my best friends are English. And some of my best friends
    are Jewish.

    anyone remember
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    anyone remember

    the smell of rain the leaves…listening to the arches during dinner? dun de dun de dun de dun

    92 comments
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    92 comments

    and counting…I love COL Shidduch op-eds lol

    It's an East-Coast, New York attitude
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    It's an East-Coast, New York attitude

    I breezed into Crown Heights, fresh and young at 20, all ready to get married. I felt hip and Brit, with a funky boy-cut hairstyle and Laura Ashley clothes. I dutifully met with a well-known Shadchan, who obligingly informed me that “American boys don’t like English girls.” I was completely speechless by the absurdity – and it was one of many I heard during my stay in Crown Heights. Boruch Hashem, my dear hubby’s extended family think my accent is the coolest, my style is adorable, and of course I’m so very clever! Point is — this English stigma certainly… Read more »

    nice excuse
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    nice excuse

    When someone turns you down,because you’re English.They are turning you down in a polite way. Instead of telling you, we’re not interested because of……………, we aren’t interested,
    because you’re English. When the Basherter comes around,you won’t be turned down.

    American Brit
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    American Brit

    I am lucky enough to have married a British girl and not get landed with an American dummie!!!! Enough Said!

    idiots
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    idiots

    Anyone who refuses to look into a person due to their nationality is just stupid

    bc..
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    bc..

    their accent!

    Married to a brit
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    Married to a brit

    They are great people just the english tend to be darn cheap….

    English Lady in U.S.A.
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    English Lady in U.S.A.

    Oh my goodness what are you all talking about! 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 _ – ^ ~ *

    to #55
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    to #55

    I think that you just reinforced this op ed article..
    As an English girl you cant comprehend that you dont understand………
    BTW. your 2nd half of your comment is 100% true.

    The $
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    The $

    The problem is $. Not just the dating and wedding
    costs. What about when kids come along? Who’s
    Has the money to travel overseas? I hope my kids
    Meet their beshert from a place I can afford to visit.

    Me.
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    Me.

    My wife married a wonderful
    English fellow and considers herself most fortunate. That’s me by the way

    To #88
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    To #88

    That was with regards to the weather, not the people.

    english boys
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    english boys

    Why do so many English girls say no to English boys?

    no standards
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    no standards

    when it comes to a fry person on mivtzoim we have the most ahavas yisroel, BUT when it comes to our fellow lubavitchers we are quick to judge just by the passport they have! I know plenty of english lubavitchers and i find them a lot less fake than american drama queens, and many more mailos. and if you want to play the mark twain game he couldn’t have put it better “Get your facts first, then you can distort them as you please.” o and for all you unworldly people, south africa came back in to the british commonwealth!… Read more »

    perhaps
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    perhaps

    Perhaps if English girls came with a beeter return policy, we’d date them.

    "Never again English"
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    "Never again English"

    My all American aunt married a repectful and proper Englishman. She said “Never again English”!

    All her sons in law are proud Americans or Canadians

    wow
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    wow

    these are the most bigoted, small-minded and if english was a race, racist comments I have ever seen. THIS is why no ones getting married.

    can you go over
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    can you go over

    Ice Berger cup cake with sprinkles and rondossssssssss!!!!
    Love London!!!!!! We are the best and fess know how to laugh!!!!

    H enfeild
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    H enfeild

    br br br its a bit nippy outside 🙂

    How rude some of you are
    Guest
    How rude some of you are

    Honestly fellow Jews, how can you actually be saying such nasty things about other Jews from another country.

    I’m English, my husband is American and we have a great marriage thank Gd. My children speak with joint accents and it’s really funny. We laugh and have love and respect for each other.

    What’s the matter with the miserable ones out there, why the pointless hate.

    So many nasty comments from frummers, yuk, it’s very off putting.

    Cheers.

    To #89
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    To #89

    Lol so right!!!!! We are truly the best!!

    Really, let's go through the best of British.
    Guest
    Really, let's go through the best of British.

    We’ve just come out of the best 3 summers of our live, we’ve had the royal wedding, the golden jubilee, the Olympics, even the queen had a good laugh. We have the commonwealth, good food and confectionary. We have the ashes, some of the best tennis tournaments and players, we have the best football league week in week out. We have tight friendly communities. Beautiful scenery, wales round the corner. Scotland and EVERY good whisky distillery in the world!! We have a wonderful history, that goes back 800+ years. Not 150 or wtvr. We have many great rabbonim, and tosfos,… Read more »

    We are from lubavitch
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    We are from lubavitch

    We are from lubavitch we can’t be any prouder if you can’t hear us now we will yell a little louder! WE ARE FROM LUBAVITCH!!!!!! Lol

    Im an american Mother
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    Im an american Mother

    My daughter who is 22 beautiful, smart, comes from a good family. She is eidel and educated is a size two. She is kind, has great personality and a great sense of humor My heart is hurting no shadchan has gotten any shidduch off the ground for her at all. So its not the english its us too. Would like a solution. Is there a normal shadchan in town, who cares who is ibergeben who can help me find my daughter’s beshert. I am getting older and would like to be here iyh to lead her to the chuppah HELP

    To # 44
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    To # 44

    I’m so sorry your having such a hard time finding your match! Perhaps try one of us! We will make you happy!

    woooow
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    woooow

    I got to agree with this article as a English boy i would never ever! date a English they generally are quite weird..English boys on the other hand are quite the catch.

    try being french
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    try being french

    !

    REALLY???!!! Who agrees with me???!!!  does ANYONE DIS-Agree???!!!
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    REALLY???!!! Who agrees with me???!!! does ANYONE DIS-Agree???!!!

    I, PERSONALLY, LOVE the English and French accent as a Bonus for a Shidduch. Although, I’ve been told that SOME English people tend to be like the Stereotype that they’re a bit too-cold! Also, SOME, tend to (NOT, INTENTIONALLY, I’m sure) behave, AS IF, they’re ABOVE, EVERYONE and others are BELOW their CLASS (social, clique, Yichus, etc…) Furthermore, Baruch Hashem for the High-school you went to, BUT, people of ALL ages, have stories of cliques in HS! Another reason is, LOTS of American have a limited grasp of vocabulary in the language and furthermore do NOT that who and whom… Read more »

    CH Bubby
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    CH Bubby

    Just BTW, many of those English girls have one American parent and carry US passports, and even though they come to CH, stay and work here, they are still considered as British, and get rejected instantly.

    english shidduchim
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    english shidduchim

    I find they cover up much when giving references, so there were wide gaps between the information given and the reality.
    Also, the English shadchanim push and push. My sons was harassed until my son relented and went out. Tznius? Very chilled

    brazilian girls are the best one in the world..
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    brazilian girls are the best one in the world..

    …go brazil………….

    Ahavas Yisrael!
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    Ahavas Yisrael!

    The reason we were all “thrown around” the world by sancherev & later the romans in the first place, was because of SINAS CHINAM which helped R”L destroy the B”HMK! Much like the shameful comments some people have said!

    fyi
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    fyi

    Some of my best friends are English

    um DUH
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    um DUH

    theres nothing wrong with the british!! Im a brit and Im proud and so I’ll just rephrase this- the shidduch crisis has reached England. The crisis always has to do with the girls, so it has nothing to do with being a brit so keep calm and be a brit!!!

    Ppl make plans and GOD laughs!
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    Ppl make plans and GOD laughs!

    Look at this way… We all know that today there are more boys than there are girls. Why should a boy fly all the way to England to date this “potential” girl when he has 3 right under his nose sitting with their arms crossed just waiting for him to choose the them… That’s A! B.. The cultures are sooooo different! Why create more problems?! Let English marry the English and the Americans marry Americans… That way they know the culture… As is when a couple gets married they have “getting to know you, living under one roof together” issues…… Read more »

    Your loss!
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    Your loss!

    English girls are low maintenance, genuine, happy and straightforward people.

    P.S I hope you’ve been saving up for your American wife’s Jimmy Choos and weekly manicures.

    Grow up!
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    Grow up!

    Firstly, the point of the article is to bring awareness tu this issue – which it clearly has. The very outrage of some proves that this has touched a raw nerve.
    Secondly, obviously one must make a Hishtadlus – this is exactly the purpose of this article!
    Thirdly, it is quite obvious that anyone who stereotypes is themselves extremely narrow minded and in a box, square like no other.

    lol
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    lol

    haha yes maybe because they aren’t australian.
    also bc the accents only cute on the english guys…

    FYI
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    FYI

    It’s fine if they don’t want us. There are other guys out there. Less immature and less pathetic. Good luck to the Americans.

    An auzzie
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    An auzzie

    Just remember that most people who live in foreign countries don’t live there cause they like the weather! They’re probably there as shluchim! So they are the REAL deal!!!!! So think twice who your saying no to, perhaps to the Rebbe, the one who send them there in the first place?

    ahavas isroel
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    ahavas isroel

    All you need is Love!

    frustrated
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    frustrated

    Where to start this open ed will only be helpful if it brings change. I don’t know if there are more English girls than Israeli or American girls looking for a shiduch, but to be turned down because you are English is wrong. Look around at the many happy Americans married to English boys and girls. This shows it can work!!! So its expensive to travel I hear you say, life is bshert and it has a way of working its self out. If you look into something and its really good share the cost of travelling and the dates… Read more »

    to 57
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    to 57

    Thanks – you brightened up my day!!!

    DINA
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    DINA

    ARE WE NOT ALL JEWISH?

    84 response
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    84 response

    Australia is on the other side of the world. It is really frustrating when you can’t just jump on the plane to attend family Simchas. I come from a huge family and I am often missing out. On the other hand, we have an excellent life in Australia. I work hard and i dont struggle financially. Eventually, I will probably move back. But for now I am comfortable.

    strange
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    strange

    dont know why…they have a nice accent

    Married to one
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    Married to one

    For all you boys out there, think again…I am married to an English girl and she is absolutely perfect in every single way! You should all be so lucky!

    This works two ways
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    This works two ways

    As an Australian, I would prefer my children marry Australians.

    I would consider English or South African because they have have a similar mentality, although I’d rather my child not have the challenges associated with having one set of parents living overseas.

    I would only consider an American for my child after all other avenues have been exhausted.

    Goodness
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    Goodness

    This is pathetic!!!! The points are true but this article was written weirdly… Like who cares about tourists attractions.. Obviously English ppl r gonna b diff a little.. We come from a diff place- doesn’t mean we can’t get along with an American boy and make a shidduch..!! I have plenty of really close American friends!

    whats wrong?
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    whats wrong?

    i wasn’t aware that this problem faced the British girls as well, however I know its a huge problem for South African and Australians. In my experience people outside of these countries are VERY quick to grab the boys for shidduchim, however before even looking in to a girl, they dismiss them because of their country, A more troubling question that bothers me is – most of the Chabad people in countries like Australia and South Africa were sent their on Shlichus BY the Rebbe, and continue daily carrying out the Rebbes work, why then should their children be unfairly… Read more »

    British
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    British

    They’re too intelligent.

    What a load of codswallop!!
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    What a load of codswallop!!

    I feel very sorry for you all. You say you don’t want English girls….so stay single. You think ANY girl is clamoring to marry such closed-minded, prejudiced idiots? I don’t think so. And if American girls were such great catches, why are there so many of them still unmarried? Some are pushing 40. The problem is you guys are not in a box. You are blind. It doesn’t matter where the girl is from, if she shares your values (assuming you have some) her country of origin should be irrelevant. The fact that it isn’t says a lot about YOUR… Read more »

    what's really wrong here
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    what's really wrong here

    What? I don’t think that English girls are too bad. No wonder there is a shidduch crisis, because people hear things about cultures and are very biased. There are people anywhere in the world, including America, who could be worse. Instead of rejecting British girls, the dating process should take longer so that the single in question can get a thorough understanding of the differences in the cultures. Having said that, I’m an American happily married to a British man and living in England, and while I am very close to a few English people, I am finding it difficult,… Read more »

    americans, youre just as far away from Australia as Australia is from you
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    americans, youre just as far away from Australia as Australia is from you

    to #84 and all those who think America is the center of the world: for an Aussie to agree to live in America is just as hard as you coming here. how dare you say we drag Americans here? when a couple gets married its a joint decision about where they should live. do you know how many aussies have been dragged to America? why do you think you’re more entitled to stay in your country. I would never touch any idiot like you who makes conditions about where to live before meeting. what kind of a marriage would that… Read more »

    South Africa
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    South Africa

    Is part of the Commonwealth. Re admitted in 1994

    To number 116
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    To number 116

    You’ve missed a huge part! The cars! Some of the finest over the years… Aston Martin, Bentley, jaguar, range rover, Morgan, noble, rolls Royce just to name a few…
    Just seems there’s a lot baseless hatred for Brits here… But if u were offered one of those cars, ud love the British all of a sudden, saying how classy and elegant they are (which we are)

    Hahaha
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    Hahaha

    Get a life! Sucks for u! No tea time:)
    But serious note- I would totally marry an American guy- I like the lifestyle.. So why can’t he accept mine and together u make it happen..

    proud brit
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    proud brit

    When I was asking for help from shadchanim one very eloquent and well mannered (sarcastic) shadchan rold me I will never get married becasue I am english. When asked what difference ut made he said “english girls are nerds or modern” well its been 4 years and my husband either doesn’t share that view or enjoys having a modern nerd as a wife

    La dee da
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    La dee da

    I don’t usually comment on these op-eds but having read this is i feel compelled!!
    What a lot of bloody codswollop!
    The British are better educated
    The British are steadfast
    The British are headstrong and don’t believe in using psychobabble to discipline our children!! We smack em!!!

    Aussies rock!!!
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    Aussies rock!!!

    To have an Aussie as a lifelong partner and be schlepped back to our land is not something to complain about! We’re the friendliest most open minded people and live in a wonderful country where our government actually takes care of us!!!!
    If people would rather remain single in disgusting crown heights over a new life in a thriving community and beautiful country….then there’s something not quite right and we don’t want you closed minded people anyway!

    Aussies and Brits should unite- make more UK and AUS shidduchim!!

    Experience
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    Experience

    I have three nephews who are married to English girls. Two are already married for over 15 years. They are frum. chassidish, bli”h amazing wonderful wives, mothers shluchois, warm, capable etc, who raised fantastic children. Their husbands are mamesh gebenched with these wives. To generalize and say that the English girls are somehow inferior or different then American girls is quite silly.

    Yorkshire Lad!!!
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    Yorkshire Lad!!!

    I have met many American women and they can’t get enough of my accent.
    My Humour Is so strong they’re not sure whether to laugh or cry.
    British girls are kind and extremely caring, however I have to agree they tend to be a little close minded.
    But deff not too Shabby:)

    To No 134
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    To No 134

    Well said, so true!

    I married an english girl and
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    I married an english girl and

    What a mess!!!!!!!!

    I LOVE LONDON
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    I LOVE LONDON

    One day

    Bad cooks
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    Bad cooks

    All of them.

    hilarious
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    hilarious

    Finally all out in the open how we Brits talk about Americans!!

    its Raining its  pouring.... old man snooring.
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    its Raining its pouring.... old man snooring.

    kadus to England. its grey miserable clouds in England for many years now.

    hahaha
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    hahaha

    Try being brazilian!!! They look at you as if you are a monkey!!!

    (just a tip for you that is reading comments 150+: there are truly amazing girls from south america!)

    single man in CH
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    single man in CH

    what is the email address of the shadchan(im) who will try to help me meet some of them?

    in london now
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    in london now

    the mentalities are worlds apart

    Wow sickening
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    Wow sickening

    SERIOUSLY? Thats all you can argue about? Chabad is in Shambles now you know why….

    to number 163
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    to number 163

    im availavle…. and english!

    the neshama doesn't have a nationality!
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    the neshama doesn't have a nationality!
     Englishman in NY
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    Englishman in NY

    Forget about american girls…does anyone know of a decent bakery in the 3,300 mile radius?

    Emunah & Bitachon
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    Emunah & Bitachon

    It is time to remind ourselves that despite the fact that we are experiencing a shidduch crisis the world over, and it is not exclusive to Great Britain, or any other geographical location, it is actually the aibishter who runs the world, the aibishter who is mezaveg zivvugim and we should place our emunah and bitachon in Him, and increase in our good deeds, and iy”h we will be zoche to celebrate many many simchos on all sides of the world!

    england
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    england

    England has the best football teams!! Best pubs! And we have a queen.. Unlike Americans, u have Barack Obama lol!!!

    british daughter in law
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    british daughter in law

    we have a british daughter in law and she is a wonderful person!! great sense of humor! fantastic mother and wife!! my married daughters were so nervous when they heard there brother would be going out with an english girl and were sure it wouldn’t work out…well a couple years later…. we ALL love her, BH!

    To all the Aousis
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    To all the Aousis

    For all those crying that Australia is even worse, there is a reason for that. In my experience, 95% of Australian girls want to live in Australia. I love AU (for touring purposes), but let’s be real, it’s a hole. American boys don’t want to move to AU. Be more flexible, and so will we.

    Shlichus only in America!
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    Shlichus only in America!

    Many people have “shlichus” on their profiles, but when a good name comes up in the UK, Australia, South Africa and the like – “its too far!” Unfortunately a very limited understanding of what shlichus actually is! Maybe part of kinnus Hashluchim/Shluchos should be to educate parents in Chabad in what real shlichus means. Did the Rebbe only want shluchim in America??

    John
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    John

    Hands down best comment is no. 15 … love it

    Response to #122
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    Response to #122

    When we did Shiduch across the ocean they paid half of the expenses. If a girls comes to America she dates you and it doesn’t work out then let her date another, why not? May you find your bashert real soon.

    LONDOND BOYS
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    LONDOND BOYS

    JUST A REMINDER THAT THERE IS A TREASURE OF LONDON BOYS IN …..LONDON….GO GRAB A CATCH FOR YOUR DAUGHTER

    Seeiosul
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    Seeiosul

    This has turned into a mess.. Someone decided to write it- clearly someone in need of a shidduch and actually has a very valid point!! All British girls go to the same seminars as Americans and they integrate and become friends.. Obviously not all are the same type and u can’t sterotype!! One thing true is that I feel they are more like frum than chassidish.. But this is perfect for lots of bochurim-

    English girl. Who prob won't get married again))
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    English girl. Who prob won't get married again))

    Today I woke up and hoped my day would be good. Then I saw this article and I just couldn’t stop laughing. Thanks to ever wrote this.

    Hilarious
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    Hilarious

    These comments are hilarious!!!

    Totally true.. I was advised not to date Brits.
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    Totally true.. I was advised not to date Brits.

    Yup, Its true… When I was dating, I was told to avoid the british girls b/c well, they are crazy. Funny thing is, its pretty awesome… They are cookie in a british humor way… Or, at least the ones I have met. I think people are saying that b/c of what may be going on in the schools there. However, I think those sentiments came from people who really don’t understand the culture… Here in America, there isn’t really any CULTURE, so where there is, its hard to relate. Brits often have a bit more sophistication, and depending on the… Read more »

    English are amazing
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    English are amazing

    we are polite (unlike other countries….) we are reserved and there is nothing wrong with us. people should not be so utterly shallow and generalize about the English . G-D SAVE THE QUEEN.(TO ALL THOSE Americans who might have forgotten…. just remember who used to rule over you)

    there are some great English boys available
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    there are some great English boys available

    From Manchester and London

    #183
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    #183

    Don’t forget LEEDS

    Antisemitisym!
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    Antisemitisym!

    You don’t like britts… then You don’t marry one! You don’t get along with Yanks… Guess what? You don’t marry one. No one needs your animosity!

    to no 2
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    to no 2

    not true
    to no 15:
    English girls don’t necessarily fit with English boys

    english boy to 182
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    english boy to 182

    We are not reserved!!! We are open books we say what we mean, and mean what we say, Big Ben is reserved..and all the Americans in madame tussauds, the royal family are a good example of class and dignity to Great Britain (well usally)

    To 144
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    To 144

    So well said. Totally agree with you

    golly wog
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    golly wog

    After reading all this…i could use a warm beer.

    oy vey
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    oy vey

    I read up until comment #147…I just can’t anymore! Can someone compile a list of all the good comments so I can enjoy all the entertainment without wasting as much time??

    'British girl'
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    'British girl'

    How can you say all these things??
    Have you ever lived in London? Have you ever even been to London??
    Just because you met one British girl and had a bad experience doesn’t mean we all like that! Imagine I met one American and based my whole opinion of American people on that one person….
    Just remember everyone is different. I’m not denying that English girls might be different but it doesn’t mean its a bad thing and we not all the same.

    Best of British
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    Best of British

    Talking about best of British. What about the Grodzinski Chelsea buns! parkway fresh cream cakes! schwartzwald!!! what about the fruits and vegetables, you wanna taste real tomatoes and cucumbers, come to England, see what you’re missing. Our relatives from NY whenever they came to England couldn’t get over how well fresh produce tasted in England!! “In England’s green and pleasant lands!!”

    cobblers!
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    cobblers!

    i read this article and laughed so hard…then i realised it had been written by an american..it couldnt possibly be funny!! This is a ridiculous if not totally absurd how you can stereotype millions of people?then again i have dated some american boys in my youth….i think i should write a comedy ..sorry i mean article about them.

    To no 42
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    To no 42

    South Africa is

    THIS IS PAINFULL
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    THIS IS PAINFULL

    I live in Australia and starting to think it’s not far enough!!

    to 167
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    to 167

    How old?

    David
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    David

    There is nothing wrong with the British girls!!!
    If there is any rejection – it’s simply because it’s not bashert!
    I know many American men who are married to British women, and are very happy!!!!

    England has a very warm community, there is never a person left out, with nowhere to go for a shaboss meal.

    To no 92
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    To no 92

    Why not try saying that to a mirror:)

    144 for president
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    144 for president
    THIS IS RIDICULOUS
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    THIS IS RIDICULOUS

    seriously this is not normal!! Get over your close mindedness. the english are amazing people and the americans have one or two things to learn from them

    Beautifully British
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    Beautifully British

    For those English that have moved away from these green pastures, remember winter evenings of misted street lights over hanging flower baskets, the milkman, Weetabix, the warmth and the close camaraderie of a caring community, little children perfectly dressed in proper school uniform, the parks, and so it goes on… so much nostalgia. What a place!

    english girls are the best
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    english girls are the best

    my head counselor was english and she is the best!!

    Dorset cereals...
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    Dorset cereals...

    with individual yoghurt cups that you don’t have to put back in the fridge and try finish off before it goes sour!

    to 192
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    to 192

    Most people reading this dont know what a “TCP” salad is…

    From an American
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    From an American

    English girls have great humor ,,
    Bochurim,,, your gana need that,, really need it,,
    And they won’t max out you CC.
    And guess what, they’ve grown up in communities that have other types of Jews, so their open minded. Not like CH

    Comment 195
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    Comment 195

    Could not have put it better myself. Thank G-d for the Pacific!!!

    to 201
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    to 201

    Was that all on stamford hill road 😉 ?

    I agree with 191
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    I agree with 191

    Stop generalising assuming and predicting! My friend is English and she’s a great catch:) kk I’m English too.

    Everyone go drink some tea, chill and rethink your pathetic comments:))

    Uhmm
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    Uhmm

    My dcs were British and NORMAL.
    No like seriously. Loved them!!!

    Thank You!
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    Thank You!

    I have never laughed so hard for a long time! As a Brit, married to an American, living in the US or A, I’d like to address a few of the items: – Girls are more likely to have it harder then boys, in UK, Australia, South Africa, not because they are girls, but people know that many a time, the girl wants to move back to their home country, and the boys don’t always want that. – Yes, there are potentially some cultural differences between folks from different countries, but all being Chabad, we’re all pretty close together in… Read more »

    This is so wrong
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    This is so wrong

    Like someone said- nationality isn’t your neshama! Seriously if ur so in a box and can’t deal with a good British girl.. Then marry one more “your kind”- but to write such nasty comments is unreal!!! What is becoming of us?? Not to mention that British girls are so real and sincere.. Maybe a first impression would make them appear “snobby” or cold.. Due to the accent but that says nothing! It’s like judging a persons personality by their stutter!!! Meet a group of British girls then make ur statements. A scientist doesn’t do research on one object and decide..… Read more »

    Hhaa
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    Hhaa

    If anyone is dating an English girl right and reads this.. They’re gonna feel awkward.

    My English Husband
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    My English Husband

    My English Husband is caring, principled and an amazing, selfless father. In short, “the best of British”

    To be brutally honest
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    To be brutally honest

    Funny. In the UK Americans have a reputation of being a little dumb.

    Most americans are Anglophiles (meaning they love british People). I have noticed that the Chabad Culture especially in Crown Heights is extremely prejudiced and closed-minded. To the more educated American, nothing is more attractive than a Brit.:They’re smart, cultured, educated and have class. Alas, many people in CH only learn about the world through the lens of ignorant prejudice

    I need directions
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    I need directions

    I am new to CH, where Is the closest mall around here?

    201
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    201

    I loooooooooooooove post number 201

    Blame
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    Blame

    WHY BLAME MARGARET THATCHER?

    WHY NOT?

    no problem
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    no problem

    This oped isn’t based on reality.
    Almost all British girls marry non brits!

    stop the madness
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    stop the madness

    Do you want to be responsible for destroying possible harmoneous shiduchim that may be on thre verge of engagement. And this article could quiet easily stop all the progress in its tracks, this is the most obsurd and devastating article thats ever been posted , and in a like this time . When its never been so crutial , that we come together to and tackle this crisis, that we are all faced wiyh as a community, so please be cautious , what you comment, and post in the future. Its a huge resposibilty not to be taken lightly

    Loyalties of brits are misplaced....
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    Loyalties of brits are misplaced....

    As can be seen from many testimonies from the comments made by the Brits here, they are apparently very proud and loyal to their royal family of inbred descendants of various thuggish, brutish gangs of Angles, Saxons, etc. As for us outside of the forcefully-United Kingdom, we know who the true Royalty is and The Rebbe, Melech HaMoshiach is who we are loyal to. Forget the bagpipes, now is the time to sound the Shofrois, kinor and trumpets.

    Memory lane
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    Memory lane

    Who ever lives in firsby road we are going home right now…………!!!!! Best memories!

    immaturity
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    immaturity

    I know of many who said theyd never marry ‘british’, ‘french’ ‘israeli’ (you name it) who went to marry exactly those…..english have a certain refinement. some of the most successful and talented come from there.

    Different culture
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    Different culture

    Aussies save! vs. Americans spend!
    Aussies = no debt
    Americans = loads of debt
    Aussies=live comfortably within their means
    Americas= wake up 20 years later and don’t know what hit them 🙂

    Stamford Hill
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    Stamford Hill

    No place on earth like Stamford Hill. You got to love the place

    to #57
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    to #57

    I’m “sure” he’s sooooo happy!!! Imagine what would happen if he expressed or hinted anything to the contrary?!

    wt about the french?
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    wt about the french?

    french boys and girls have always been rejected….

    Ester Zirkind
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    Ester Zirkind

    Thank you everyone, that was a really good laugh.
    And to all the wonderful English: chin up, put your best foot forward, you have so much to be proud of, you don’t need to pay this the slightest heed. Though some of the comments were LOL moments. 160 for example.

    Go English
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    Go English

    I’m married to an English girl for nearly 2 decades and I can say with confidence and certainty that every English girl is a catch simply because she was brought up in England by English parents who instilled in them values Mentchlichkeit human decency sensitivity a core sense of devotion loyalty and they are the funniest people in the world to boot. Whoever turns down a Shidduch simply because the girl is English then by process of elimination we can cross off one more empty minded shallow American that doesn’t deserve an English girl and everything they have to offer!!!!

    We are by far
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    We are by far

    The classiest peoples. The bonds and bankers, the great British pound, the classiest dress sense, classiest cars, and know how to make an American seem a right fool (which the Americans seem to do themselves, don’t need our help).
    No stupid 21 year old rule either, we know how drink.
    And a history like no ther country.
    We are proud

    Go english girls!!!
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    Go english girls!!!

    My favorite friends are english (and i have met a looott of girls from all over the world). They are refined and truly nice ppl.

    North by Northwest
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    North by Northwest

    What do you get when a Brit marries an American?

    A Canadian! Eh!

    Cares to much to be silent
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    Cares to much to be silent

    Mothers of Boys. Someone suggestion someone for your Son.
    You are not interested for what ever reason.
    Please don’t say NO FOGET AND MOVE ON.
    Just B/C She is not for your son.
    She is for someone else son.
    Think hard for a boy for this girl.
    A neighbor, Friend , Fellow Worker etc etc .
    YOU DONT HAVE TO KNOW THEM PERSONALIY.
    Lets all take RESPONSIBILY FOR OUR FELLOW YIDEN.

    to no. 226
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    to no. 226

    We are not even going to start with frenchies thats a whole different parsha!

    To 225
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    To 225

    Lighten up – ’twas a joke( u obviously don’t get our humor ) and if u read comment 228 you’ll see just how happy he is!!!

    227
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    227

    Ester – You still make me laugh, after all these years….

    b.a in rabinics seeker
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    b.a in rabinics seeker

    What is open mindness refering to here
    ?
    And if it what I think it is how can an english person which equeals square be open minded

    new shidduch crisis looming
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    new shidduch crisis looming

    Tonight after seder was over in 770 crowds gathered around a bochur who isn’t that chassidish and has a smart phone to read the latest comments on this article.

    After reading all the great things England in general and English girls in particular have to offer everyone decided that from now on their first pick will be an English girl.
    With only 50 subjects of the Queen available and about 1000 guys ready to get married, I smell a new crisis coming our way !

    Suggestions
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    Suggestions

    Help!!!!!
    I am confused
    Should I go out with. A Brit or a frenchy?
    An Aussie or a TeimAny?
    A koreani or Brazilian ?

    lol
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    lol

    I love the way everyone’s so nostalgic…….but wouldnt step one foot back in this country!!! No-one wants to live in London, but that shouldnt put u off going out with an pommie, on the contrary, she’s more likely to want to live in CH than s-o from another country. So…. go for it!!

    237 - lol!
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    237 - lol!

    I hope I’m not waking up the whole house…… I’m laughing so loud!

    No crime!
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    No crime!

    35 people get killed a year in England from gun crime. In america, on average, more get killed every 3 hours!!!

    To number 238
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    To number 238

    Choose a South African

    What happened to ahavas Yisroel?
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    What happened to ahavas Yisroel?

    If these comments were to be posted up as an example of our chabad-Lubavitch community, then I think even the people who have written such comments would be ashamed and embarrassed! What’s happened to ahavas Yisroel? Would the rebbe want you to go out on shlichus and make fun of other yidden, especially because of their nationality…. Most definitely not. It is up to us to be setting an example to others of ahavas Yisroel, not chas vsholom making fun of other people.

    Truth Be Told
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    Truth Be Told

    Men like their food.

    As a bochur, I have eaten American food, Chinese food, Italian food, Mexican food, Spanish Food, Israeli food, Moroccan Food, Teimmani food, Persian food, Japanese food, Indian curry food etc etc.

    BUT NEVER HAVE I EATEN ENGLISH FOOD

    You wanna know why?

    There are no “English restaurants” because English cuisine simply does not exist.

    THAT is why English girls have a tough time with shidduchim.

    The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach – so learn to cook (and I don’t mean Yorkshire Pudding).

    It makes sense now...
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    It makes sense now...

    During the time I spent in London, I was startled to discover that Americans are stereotyped as being hyperbolic and dumb.

    Reading these comments, I begin to see their point…

    Homework:

    Have your (American) son or daughter travel to another country for a few months and see life through another culture’s eyes.

    Perhaps even learn another language and get to know people who (gasp!) don’t speak English.

    Whoever they end up marrying and wherever they end up settling, the impact of these experiences would be tremendously beneficial.

    You peeps r soooooo racist!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    You peeps r soooooo racist!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Go England! Btw if I say u wont Marry someone, eg English, u will end up marrying an English! So move on in it lives and get in with it (if u even have a life)

    English?
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    English?

    244 not sure what your talking about, London has plenty restaurants. Thats the last to worry about anyway.

    The point here is very clear.
    For all those that generalize about English people. Your all missing out, there are beautiful, outgoing pretty girls here in London.
    Don’t jump to conclusion and take time to look in to a name that is offered from out of town.
    Maybe you will see surprises.

    Frenchies?
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    Frenchies?

    What about french girls who speak english fluently, went to te same sem as all of you? And I’m not talking about those who never integrated rather on the ones who are very Quick to adapt to Any mentality? Also willing to go on shlichus? Also very chassidish, classy and genuine….

    Brit and frenchies
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    Brit and frenchies

    Why dont the brit want to look into frenchies instead of trying to stick to us americans who don’t appreciate you as you are? I think british and frenchies should get married together…. I know there are great boys and girls in these two countries!!!! Btw they’re in a way more open minded than us crownheighters who never really saw anything else than our own country!!

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    244

    London has a very nice comunnity.
    There is no shortage of food.

    Why?
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    Why?

    Does this article have a record # of comments? Is THIS the pressing issue of the decade?

    244
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    244

    Are u kidding??!! Golders green rd is known to have the most kosher restaurants ( starting from Brent street) along a single road than any other place in the world!!!!

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    122

    You must have alot of time on your hands, lol

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    to 244

    Lol!! ur funny! And the English are funnier actually taking u seriously!
    That is, you might just be a Brit urself.

    try being a crown heightser!!!
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    try being a crown heightser!!!

    they call us
    narrow minded, materialistic ,parochial , unsophisticated, brash
    head in the sand, attached to the apron strings, one dimentional,
    uncouth lacking class, unwordly “farchnoyked”
    Do you understand now why I and so many of my friends have had so many birhtdays on our own?
    Stop the name calling and judge us on our own merit.

    money
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    money

    If you have money ,you can be from the moon, that you have a line wanting to married you

    The Most Stupid Comments Ever
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    The Most Stupid Comments Ever

    I am not British at all, but the comments here both pro-Brit and anti-Brit are beyond stupid, stupid, stupid. I know some English people that are the classiest, most refined and wonderful in every way, and some that are not. The reason, in my opinion, why there is a shidduch crisis, whether in England, US, SA or Australia or anywhere is that people HAVE ROTTEN midos and say MEAN things because THEY ARE JEALOUS – mostly other classmates/sem mates. That is the problem. Stop the Lashan Hara and it will all stop. 255 coomments with Lashan Hara against US, English,… Read more »

    ENGLISH CUISINE
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    ENGLISH CUISINE

    For all you defending kosher cuisine you just proved the point about British thick-headedness. Yes there are restaurants. But, um, they are sephardic, morrocon, chinese etc. There is no distinct ENGLISH restaurant ie English food – and bangers and mash don’t count. Your PAvlovian response proves the point. Brits sighhh. I say, can’t live with them, can’t live without them. Try that for 60 happily married years.

    CRAZYYY!
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    CRAZYYY!

    IF THESE COMMENS CAME ALONG WITH YOUR NAME. I THINK MANY PEOPLE WOULD BE ALOT MORE CAREFUL.

    THINK ABOUT THAT.

    STOP WITH YOUR MEAN COMMENTS.

    THE FUNNY ONES ARE OKAY.

    Ironic?
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    Ironic?

    Out of all Orthodox Jewry, our boys probably experience other cultures, religions & world events more than most others their age (Merkos Shluchos, Yeshiva etc) – Ironic then that a lot of people commenting on here seem to be extremely prejudiced, discriminatory & spiteful? Only consolation is that probably most people commenting, are some bored teenagers having a laugh – because if this is really the view of the Chabad today, then it’s come to a sad state & there will be a lot of girls put off Chabad boys – I know some already…. Intolerance of others is not… Read more »

    If by Cool you mean Modest, Talented, Elegant and Intelligent etctc.... then guilty as charged...
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    If by Cool you mean Modest, Talented, Elegant and Intelligent etctc.... then guilty as charged...

    Reading some of these posts I was struck by how 1) How sad it is I am wasting so much precious time reading ludicrous comments and 2) How absurd this whole subject is. 1) Each place has its Maalos and Chisroinos, Who is to say which is better. 2) Each boy/girl is pre-destined to marry their bashert. By vetoing out of hand a whole segment of Klal Yisroel because of their birthplace is not only foolish, but Sinas Chinom, and self defeating. Hey aren’t we Chabad? The lamplighters of the world, the ones who travel the four corners of the… Read more »

    To #221 - Firsby Road Rules!! :)
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    To #221 - Firsby Road Rules!! :)

    Wouldn’t trade my English upbringing for an American one ever! Proud to be a Brit! 😉

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    To 243

    Agree entirely, what a sorry state of affairs

    Xenophobic much?
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    Xenophobic much?

    Need I say more?

    Fraydie
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    Fraydie

    A diamond dealer has an opportunity to buy an extremely expensive, top quality, rare diamond. The profits from the purchase of this diamond would turn him into a millionaire – it would completely turn his life around.

    He is absolutely delighted at the prospect & is already planning his new life.

    However when he finds out this particular diamond is sourced from India, he turns down the offer.

    Need I say more?

    get off your high horse!!!
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    get off your high horse!!!

    what is money to a life time of happiness and nachas?

    I didn't get the memo...
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    I didn't get the memo...

    Are we going back to the days of 12 tribes?

    English bochur.....
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    English bochur.....

    I think England has some very fine specimens. I can say from experience!!!

    money talks
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    money talks

    experience says money talks and Very LOUD!

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    “I feel very sorry for you all. You say you don’t want English girls….so stay single. You think ANY girl is clamoring to marry such closed-minded, prejudiced idiots? I don’t think so.”

    HEAR HEAR! Utter Codswallop!!!

    I'm British
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    I'm British

    I’m British and I’m proud
    And I’ll sing it out loud
    Bc 4eva that’s wat ill b
    I’m British and I’m proud and that’s without a doubt
    Bc the queen is always watching over me. Lol

    CH is not known for its open mindedness
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    CH is not known for its open mindedness

    i cant believe the stupidity that I’m reading, the mothers saying “never an English girl for my precious american son!” I’ve never heard such closed-minded nonsense in my life! I’ve lived in America for many years and I can tell you neither country produces more or less “cold” girls both are filled with beauty and talent although I will say that the British education system leaves the british girls with the ability to think for themselves much more than the Crown Heights education system – is that what all you mothers and boys are afraid of? a girl who thinks?… Read more »

    most bizarre article
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    most bizarre article

    how strange of collive to post this…anyway i dont believe this has been mentioned in the past 600 comments but English girls know how to be a real and true friend,unlike mates across the pond who have far more shallow relationships.So how many eyes do i hear for the Brits?(Only the english get that!!)

    del boy
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    del boy

    One thing is for certain after reading these comments…English sense of humour cannot be beat!So any boy that wants to laugh through life go get yourself an English lass.

    American Vrs British
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    American Vrs British

    Its all bashert. I am SY and born in US, married Lubavitch british and could not be happier.
    I personally dont see any advantage to marrying American, but do what makes you happy and just get married.

    English Chef
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    English Chef

    okay ihere we go. i am a 30 year old man looking for a shidduch. i have been told that because i am english i cant get a shidduch in the USA it is not only hurtful and just downright fustraiting.

    i am also an english chef. YES ther is not set english cuisine, but that does NOT mean we cant cook. i trained for three years to become a chef and i can honestly say that i am prout to be a good chef.

    at least the english dont base thier cuisine on burgers and fries.

    UK V USA
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    UK V USA

    National brands, reflect national people.
    Land Rover V Suburban
    Burbbery V Calvin Klein
    Church’s (shoes) V Kenith Cole
    The running difference between the comparisons is this…. the USA brands / people are brash, loud, mass and cheaply produced and disposable
    UK brands, – understated, elegant, and quality!!!

    Married to an English Wife
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    Married to an English Wife

    I am writing to say that I am happy to have married and English wife.

    Okay, Miriam, are you happy now? I wrote what you forced me to, can I come in now? It;s freezing and raining outside!

    England's History, etc.
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    England's History, etc.

    I can understand anybody being proud of the history of the country they grew up in, except in the case where that country has a history of anti-Semitism; which means I can’t understand those comments that extoll the history of England. BTW, I do frequently find British girls to be better bred, more mature and less spoiled than American girls so I have to agree with those who feel that outside of one’s culture is the primary reason American bochurim are reluctant to date an English girl.

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