From the COLlive Inbox:
In regards to the new tznius talks and campaigns, I would like to share an experience I had this week.
I am a married woman, who, for the most part, tries to stick with tznius laws. Although sometimes it is difficult to follow the letter of the law, I am always in keeping with the spirit of the law, modest in my style appearance.
As I was walking home one evening on Kingston Avenue, I was stopped by someone who asked me if I was interested in brachos for the coming year. Thinking he was looking for tzedaka, I said “no thank you” and continued walking.
The man continued to follow me and tell me that if I were to follow the proper halochos of tznius, I would be blessed with success, health, happiness, shalom bayis, and nachas from my children. He then tried to hand me some pamphlet.
At this point, I realized his talk was directed at me, personally. It was then that I began to take offense. I was dressed almost 100% properly, and what wasn’t was definitely not obvious and “in your face.”
So I looked him in the eye and said, “do you think I am not aware of how I look?” I then tried to walk away. The man continued following me down Kingston Ave, trying to get me to take his papers and telling me to review it with my husband.He kept telling me that a beautiful woman such as myself shouldn’t have to dress the way she does. I couldn’t get rid of the guy! I took the papers, which, as a side note, I found to be totally irrelevant and offensive.
This encounter left me with a terrible taste in my mouth. I felt like parading on Kingston in a bathing suit This “Rabbi” had no business analyzing my dress code and tznius, or lack thereof. I found it to be completely inappropriate.
Today, I was walking on Kingston again when I saw him. He motioned down his torso and asked me, “AGAIN??” in a rather loud voice, seemingly completely angry with me.
This man has no business approaching women like this in the street. I am sure I wasn’t the only woman targeted in Crown Heights. This situation is completely inapropriate and the only thing this can accomplish is lowering the standards here in this community. Having men observe tznius in the street is a total lack of tznius and is sure to lower the standards further.
In related news, two members of Crown Heights Badatz Rabbi Yaacov Schwei and Rabbi Yosef Braun released this letter this week: