I feel compelled to bring the following to the attention of all readers of COLlive.
This past Friday night, I was standing outside 770, and I saw a most tragic and outrageous story unfold before my shocked eyes:
A man had exited 770 with what seemed like his son. As they came to the street, the father placed his hand into his son’s pocket and pulled out a tissue. The son had somehow left the tissue in his pocket, and he was now carrying it in a public domain (a violation of Shabbos).
To my utmost shock, the father then slapped the young boy (around 5-6 years-old) across his face twice, and yelled: “Why didn’t you check your pockets before Shabbos came in, you shaigetz!”
My friends, let’s analyze this for a moment:
1) It is one of the most common oversights of Shabbos. It is very easy to forget things inside a pocket, especially something as soft and unpretentious as a tissue. It is true that Halacha encourages people not to place items inside pockets on Shabbos for this very reason, but a young boy?
2) Let’s say the father had been teaching this very law to his young son. Did he have to lose it like this because of a violation by a FIVE-year-old?
3) Let’s say it was necessary for the father to smack his son over this (I don’t think so, but let’s just say). Did this have to be done in public, after already screaming at him in public?
4) Did he really have to smack the kid across the face, utterly humiliating him?
5) Did he have to do this with such anger?
It could be that Friday night the father was tired from a whole week. It could be that something unpleasant happened at work, at home, with the family. I am sorry, but it does not matter. You cannot treat your child like this.
I beg of you: Anyone reading this and has fallen by doing this to his or her children, must see someone: Your Mashpiah, your counselor, your therapist, your favorite Rov — SOMEONE, to learn how to educate your children properly, according to guidelines of Halochoh, Chassidus, and the Rebbe’s methods.
And may we all cherish the special Brochoh that Hashem has blessed us with in the right manner. And may WE be educated in how to educate our children properly, so that they learn to appreciate Yiddishkeit and Jewish law for what it was meant to be.