Family therapist Rabbi Chaim Yitzchak Drizin from Florida explains that we must change the model of our communication with our children.
“Stop telling your children what they have to fix in their lives,” says Drizin. “Stop telling your children how great they are. They don’t believe you.”
The acclaimed therapist Chaim Drizin concludes tonight teaching a four-week course on the psychology of parenting on www.TheYeshiva.net. After Pesach he will present a four week course on “child abuse in our communities.”
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they dont care if u have email or not i just made up a random email
its so silly why do you have to sighn in?
its so silly i dont have email my school doesn’t allow it so i cant watch the video!
you said that you shouldnt say great job or excellent. but whats the problem with saying that if it comes with an introduction of what he did and it truly was a great job and the child knows it? i wont say hes a tzaddik or a malach when hes not. but that specific action was a great job for him licheura
shkoyach rabbi drizin
Did you watch the video? Did you hear Rabbi Drizins words? You should. The title was just provacative; its really about HoW the parent compliments. Not if they should. we all agree the parents need to.
Firstly, the video was excellent! It should be shown to newly -weds, that parents can raise kids correctly right from the start. That said, parenting is the hardest job in the world. If parenting can be done correctly, from the get go, it can be the most rewarding job. I know it can seem dorky to say: If we only could look at children, with the feeling that Hashem loaned us these precious neshamas for hopefully forever, and now it is our job to love and nurture them Selflessly, what a wonderful world this would be. If you want to… Read more »
I think the title is just to catch your attention. If you listen to the presentation you will have a better understanding as to when compliments work and when they don’t. Gratutious compliments do not enhance self esteem.
This is a very dangerous title to make- especially as there are so many children who suffer from low self esteem
how about calling a child generally, not at any specific time or because of a specific action, “a tzaddik,” a “malach,” a “sweety,” is that also not effective? is it not good? please give me your input.
i watched also #3 and #4 classes by Drizin, i liked them. thanks.
The Rebbe made it clear in a sicha on Parshas
Emor, the great importance of stressing the maalos of a fellow yid bi deboor. Complimenting actually elevates their potential, according to the Rebbe. If the compliments are shallow, or have a hidden agenda, that is another story. A child’s self-esteem comes from a parent continually seeing a child’s potential, and stressing it at the appropriate times.
This is nurtured heart approach, He just brings it in a more Torah perspective.
and now he still is.
Thank you!
make sence
sounds exactly like the nurtured heart approach
a lot to think about