Time: 2:00 a.m.
Present: The Rebbe, Rabbi Jacobs and his mother (both seated facing the Rebbe)
Rebbe (addressing Mrs. Jacobs): I would like to bless you and all the members of your family in all things necessary, both spiritually and materially—especially to have much nachos, much pleasure, from all your children in all areas of their lives. You should receive this nachos in good health and good parnosa. You should be able to raise the children to Torah, chupah and to do good deeds.
The Rebbe then faced Rabbi Jacobs and continued: You should continue in learning Torah and performing mitzvahs and accomplish this all with joy and inspiration.
The Rebbe addressed Mrs. Jacobs: Where is your place of living? Where are you from?
Mrs. Jacobs: Vermont. (Transcriber: New England, northeast U.S.)
Rebbe: Uh?
Mrs. Jacobs: Vermont.
Rebbe (addressing Rabbi Jacobs): What is your profession?
Rabbi Jacobs: I study in Kfar Chabad.
Rebbe: Kfar Chabad?!
Rebbe (addressing Mrs. Jacobs): And you live in Vermont?!
(All laughing)
Rebbe: We Jews are used to this, that one member of the family is in one corner of the world and a sister, brother or parents are in another corner of the world. However, nowadays this is not a problem, since we have telephones and airplanes and many methods of keeping a connection with one another.
Mrs. Jacobs: Zicher (Yiddish: ‘sure’). We keep in contact; we’re here all the time.
Rebbe: The main thing is to have much real nachos (pleasure), and to receive this nachos in good health and with a good parnosa (livelihood).
Mrs. Jacobs: And to find a good girl for him, a good shidduch (soul mate).
Rebbe: Uh?
Mrs. Jacobs: A good shidduch is also a good thing.
Rebbe: He…
Mrs. Jacobs: We don’t know…
Rebbe: Is he ready, or he is in the middle of his studies? (Addressing Rabbi Jacobs): Are you ready for a shidduch ?
Mrs. Jacobs: Yes!
Rabbi Jacobs: I spoke with my Mashpiim (Chasidic mentors).
Rebbe: Yes. What was their opinion?
Rabbi Jacobs: After Pesach, it would be a good idea…
Rebbe: ‘After Pesach?!’ It is now a full week after Pesach and you are not doing anything about it! It is now a full week after Pesach! What is your age?
Rabbi Jacobs: Twenty-five.
Rebbe: That is a proper time to become a choson (groom) and after that to found a family.
Mrs. Jacobs: Sure!
Rebbe (Facing Rabbi Jacobs): How long do you intend on being here?
Rabbi Jacobs: I wrote to the Rebbe shli”ta (blessing for longevity), regarding what would be the best thing thing for me. I learn in Kfar Chabad, and I recently entered shiur aleph (first class of Yeshiva) in Kfar Chabad.
Rebbe: Have you received smicha (Rabbinic Ordination)?
Rabbi Jacobs: No.
Rebbe: Have you studied for smicha ?
Rabbi Jacobs: No.
Rebbe: Do you not plan on studying for smicha ?
Rabbi Jacobs: I spoke with Rabbi G… and usually a year after the wedding is a good time to begin.
Rebbe: But to be… to be a year after the wedding, you must first have the wedding! You can’t begin now a year after the wedding!
(all laughing)
Rebbe (addressing Mrs. Jacobs): Do you have someone for him?
Mrs. Jacobs: No.
Rebbe (addressing Rabbi Jacobs): Have you begun looking around?
Rabbi Jacobs: One in Kfar Chabad, but it was nothing.
Rebbe: What are your plans, to look here, or in Kfar Chabad, eretz Yisroel ?
Rabbi Jacobs: I asked the Rebbe shli”ta what would be the best thing. I spoke with Moshkeh Neparstok (head mashpiah in Kfar Chabad Yeshiva), and expressed to him that my parents want me to stay in America for a while. I haven’t seen them for a few years while I was in Kfar Chabad. I asked the Rebbe shli”ta, to stay here for a few weeks, until Shavuot and maybe study here. However I don’t see a good shiur (class) here. The question is whether to look for a shiduch here or return to Kfar Chabad?
Rebbe: If your parents don’t have anyone special for you, I believe it will be easy for you to find a shidduch in eretz Yisroel. How many years have you been in eretz Yisroel now?
Rabbi Jacobs: Almost three years.
Rebbe: Three years! Then I assume you have many friends in eretz Yisroel, and friends from your studies who are now married and live in eretz Yisroel. It makes sense, in the natural course of things, that it will be easier for you to find a proper Shidduch in eretz Yisroel than here. It is a custom amongst Jews to give a Jew a shlichus for Tzedakoh (mission for charity), and I would like to give each of you a dollar to which you will give its equal to tzedakoh. I give you my blessings, and all good things necessary.
Recording of a Yechidus
In the summer of 1981 an American student who was studying in Kfar Chabad was granted a Yechidus with the Rebbe. Concerned about his next step in life; he sought advice. The Rebbe guides the young student with his learning, as well as provides advice on finding a Shidduch. Portrait of a Leader provides a transcript and audio recording Full Story, Audio
In the summer of 1981 an American student who was studying in Kfar Chabad was granted a Yechidus with the Rebbe. Concerned about his next step in life; he sought advice. The Rebbe guides the young student with his learning, as well as provides advice on finding a Shidduch. Portrait of a Leader provides a transcript and audio recording Full Story, Audio
wow and wow again the best post you guys ever posted!
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Wolf
if some one can let me know how to listen im searching and cant find it i nedd step by step please bad with computers
how the rebbe asks about semicha and asked again in hope that the student at least try to learn it
it’s a lesson for all bochurim!
This is absolutely a revolution! I have never had the Zechus of being in a Yechidus and to listen to this really made feel as if I was with the Rebbe in the same room! Thank you and please continue to post these things
Wow thank you so much! GO COL!