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Wednesday, 14 Tammuz, 5779
  |  July 17, 2019

    My Life of Infertility

    From the COLlive inbox: I can write about the pain of watching friends and younger siblings becoming moms and the segulos I tried, but I'd rather talk about some of the upsides of the miserable reality of infertility. Full Story

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    Men experience infertility too!
    Guest
    Men experience infertility too!

    As a man who has experienced infertility (thank G-d IVF has worked and I am a father) I can say that it infertility touches deep….

    wow
    Guest
    wow

    be’ezras hashem it will be on col in less than a year that u got a baby boy

    no words
    Guest
    no words

    Obviously no words can express how sincerely I hope your situation changes. That said, I applaud you for bringing this to the public eye. As a mother, I sometimes feel that I have ‘no right’ to talk about, or with, my friends who are still waiting for children. But as a friend, I so desperately want to reach out to them and support them in any way I can / they need. I’d love to see groups like this forming websites, etc, so I can post links on FB and help my friends connect to support networks in a non-invasive… Read more »

    All the best to you.
    Guest
    All the best to you.

    In some instances the Rebbe recommended reviewing
    the laws of Taharat HaMishpacha, even to those who were
    already keeping them carefully.

    Been there
    Guest
    Been there

    As someone who experienced infertility before they had a T.I.M.E, or binyan olam, all I can tell you is I am so happy that you have the support, advice, and company to help you through this!! This is a very special cause, and it’s importance should not be underestimated. It is very hard for someone who is going through infertility to be in a rum community which of courses about having a family and many simchot. Wishing you all the brochos speedily!!

    Going through infertility
    Guest
    Going through infertility

    They should have meeting for men also!!!

    A time is amazing
    Guest
    A time is amazing

    Is this Q and A session for PiF only?

    Amen
    Guest
    Amen

    Amen

    For all IFers
    Guest
    For all IFers

    This specific event is not for PIF only. In general the monthly events are. Because this is halachic info, it has been opened to all IFers

    to Number 7
    Guest
    to Number 7

    This particular month it is for primary and secondary though at the moment regularly it is geared to primary

    to #4
    Guest
    to #4

    Did u just not read the letter?!

    wishing there was more for SIFers
    Guest
    wishing there was more for SIFers

    I have found in general very little support for us who are SIFers. Almost as if we should just shut up and be grateful for what we have. That our pain and suffering is not as real or allowed. Its a real shame. B”H we have found a wonderful RE who is supportive and does not discriminate based on how many children you have.

    Also know the Rebbe & Rebbetzin
    Guest
    Also know the Rebbe & Rebbetzin

    They contributed and transferred the love they would’ve had for their own kinderlach… to the whole world! Everyone became their “children” (their mission) on which to impart chesed and Yiddishkite values to help bring Moshiach (with the help of Hashem, soon). You and your spouse together have much love and talent to provide to many people. While your window of time for fertility is propitious, may you have much hatzlacha in your efforts!

    love comment number 2
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    love comment number 2

    amen!!!

    to # 12
    Guest
    to # 12

    Same here, so let’s do something about it. Problem is i dont want to expose myself. Do u go on the A Time boards? Maybe give me your screen name I’ll pm you. If u have a better idea let me know

    Out of towner
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    Out of towner

    I don’t live in Crown Heights, and where I live there is no active ATIME. Boruch HaShem, I looked for those who could give me the support that I needed. I found the right Dr. as a shliach, and B”H I am expecting my first after a number of years of trying. Hashem should help every one of us be wonderful mothers with wonderful children.

    Glad to see the mostly respectful tone in the responses
    Guest
    Glad to see the mostly respectful tone in the responses

    B”H It is so good to read such supportive, respectful comments. Thank you from a SIF-er who’s now too old to have any more kids. There are still so many who are misinformed. I lost track of how many people told me to “do what Curtis Sliwa’s sister did” — several years ago, she had twins well into her fifties, with the help of a doctor in NJ. However, what many do not realize when the news tells stories like this, is that some of the medical options are ossur for us in the frum world. For example, above a… Read more »

    Heard from the mouth of an Orthodox RE on LI
    Guest
    Heard from the mouth of an Orthodox RE on LI

    As someone with SIF, I actually once had a doctor tell me, “Sorry, I can’t help you. Just go home and enjoy the child you have.”

    I felt like asking him which ones of his own several children he viewed as “optional”.

    I sure wish he’d just stopped at “Sorry, I can’t help you.”

    to # 18
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    to # 18

    That dr told me the same thing. Im pretty sure we went to the same one (based on the info u gave) unfortunately RE is a branch of medicine that is more of a business, and most of these drs wont treat you if youre chances of success are low.

    Not a life of infertility
    Guest
    Not a life of infertility

    Im sorry for being so picky and I dont at all mean to be judgemental. I just think that you should change the title of the article from “My life of infertility” to “My life with infertility”. Infertility does not define your entire life; it is a challenge youre dealing with, one which G-d willing you will very soon overcome with simchos.

    IYH By All
    Guest
    IYH By All

    This is so beautifully written! With tefillos that IYH U and all those yearning for a baby be blessed soon.

    to number 4
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    to number 4

    You missed the point of the article. This courageous woman has probably heard of this segulah and many others as she has already pointed out in her article. Enough with the segulas already, they can drive a person crazy!

    infertility
    Guest
    infertility

    I’m also going through infertility, its painful and I started avoiding allot of people because I’m sick of their well meaning suggestions, although its an issue that is open for everyone to see that doesn’t give everyone the permission or chutzpah to give their 2 cents..
    great post .

    to  #22
    Guest
    to #22

    I think the Rebbe’s recommendation in this area was not
    suggested as a Segulah. rather as a Hora’ah, advice.
    There is a difference.
    Heartfelt Brochos to all who need them – in every area..

    All the Brachos...
    Guest
    All the Brachos...

    As someone who went through that infertility stage for 7 years, I just want to give those of you that need it, my heartfelt wishes.
    I BH have 4 children after trying everything, including IVF – more than once (in Israel, IVF does not necesitate taking out a second mortgage).
    I was fortunate to have found my Shliach of Hashem, who helped it happen. May you all find yours, too.

    Please don't give up
    Guest
    Please don't give up

    I wish you all the Brochos that your wish be fulfilled. Just to say that in my community of Manchester, a not so young couple just gave birth naturally, to a beautiful baby boy after 27 years of marriage!!! This was their first pregnancy as evidenced by a further celebration of a Pidyon Haben B”H
    Hatzlocha Rabah

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