500 orthodox Jews filled the main sanctuary of Chabad Aventura Sunday evening, for a night of awareness and education about child abuse (CSA). The highly charged event served as an opportunity to show support to victims of abuse and to educate the public about the dangers of abuse.
Survivors, rabbis, mental health professionals repeated a duel message: the orthodox Jewish community will no longer sweep abuse under the rug and survivors who step forward will be embraced.
The event was emceed by TV journalist Rosh Lowe and organized by Jewish Community Watch (JCW), an organization committed to raising awareness and preventing child sexual abuse in the orthodox Jewish community.
Rabbi Elchonon Tauber, a rabbinical judge from Los Angeles told the crowd that Jewish law not only allows you to inform on abuse to the police, but also insists that someone who knows of abuse and doesn’t report it is in violation of the Halachic (Jewish law) prohibition of Shfichas Damim (murder).
Rabbi Tauber urged the audience to view CSA as they would any other crime. “If you saw someone poisoning the food in a Cheder (religious elementary school), you wouldn’t ask your Rabbi his opinion on whether or not they should be reported. You would go straight to the police. Do the same thing with abuse! If you know of an individual who is harming children, go directly to the police.”
Miami resident and entrepreneur Eli Nash, who has advocated for JCW since it provided him with aid while he confronted his own childhood sexual abuse, told the assembled that keeping the dark secret of abuse quiet is not a healthy option. “Secrets are bad for our health,” Nash said. He also urged the community to combat abuse and support survivors. Nash concluded his talk with a resounding, “We deserve better!”
The attendees also heard from two survivors of abuse, who bravely broke their silence and shared their story publicly. By doing this they sent a message to other survivors that they are not alone, and that even after experiencing the horror of child sexual abuse they can take back their power and choose to be survivors rather than victims.
Another survivor of abuse, Bibi Morosow-Saul, explained the psychology of abusers and the hold that they can place over their victims.
Yoni Skurwitz spoke about his experience after he came forward about his abuse: “The re-victimization that I endured by some in the community, led by rabbis of Shuls, schools, and Kollels – none of whom spoke with me, and some of whom knew there were other victims – was a hundred times worse than the abuse itself.”
Dr. Norman Goldwasser, a trauma psychologist, spoke about the impact of a previous JCW sponsored event that took place this past September in Miami. After the event, because of what she had gained at the event, a survivor came to him in order to receive help. Dr. Goldwasser shared the story of her suffering and her road to healing.
Meyer Seewald, founder and CEO of Jewish Community Watch, said that historically Jews have always placed a special emphasis on education.
“Since G-d appointed the children as the guarantors of the Torah at Mt. Sinai, generations of parents have risked and sacrificed everything to educate their children according to Jewish traditions, from secret study groups in ancient Rome and communist Russia to the sacrifices parents make today so that they can send their children to Jewish private schools.
Despite all of this, there seems to be a lack of understanding or unwillingness to address child sexual abuse – an issue that drives so many of our children away from the Torah and towards drug abuse, depression, anxiety, and years of pain!
“This is the mission of Jewish Community Watch, to make sure every child in our community grows up without the pain and suffering that so many of us survivors experienced and continue to experience,” said Seewald.
“We have held awareness events in four cities in the last six months and the response has exceeded our expectations every time. With all of us working together, we are getting closer to achieving that goal.”
True there may not have been rabbonim, but there were many rabbis and shluchim present who came to support JCW, and as the awareness spreads, the numbers will certainly increase!
please give you name and contact info so JCW can contact you
– Eli
Good for you, Miami! A rabbinate that doesn’t participate in events such as was held in the Adventura community, is not a rabbi. Rabbis, I hate to be the one to inform you, but you must gather your strength, scruples and just plain chutzpah and be the kind of men we look to lead the way, to help those suffering, to show us the Jewish Torah way to behave in protecting the victims and prosecuting the vicitimizers!
I happen to be one .. and I was never invited to the event other than seeing it on facebook… If that was such a concern … JCW ,who’s mission I do support , needed to do a better job of reaching out to the miami rabbis … In addition while I wholehartedly support the mission of JCW there have been articles and comments on their website that I feel could be taken as anti-frum instead of sticking to the clear and specific mission of ending abuse in our community, and supporting the vicitms. … I would still have come,… Read more »
Of course it would have been nice to see sheluchim however im refering more to the “rav” of each community
JCW – regarding your statement as the # of local rabbis at the JCW event 4!) It’s as Eli Nash said in his speech; explaining why they flew down the amazing Rav Tauber to speak. They called all the local rabbonim and no one wanted to be the one to represent (chalila) the Rav who stands by the victim. It’s a tragedy in Miami and all over!
keep in mind if you are referring to chabad rabbis
all there wives where in ny so some ones got to watch the kids
Maybe if you would be updated with your information that all the cases of abuse were more than 23 years ago and since then Melbourne has been number one for child abuse and I dont think they need more organisations to show them what to do as of now they are looking after the situation 10 times better than any other organisation
Rabbi Tauber is the best I wish Chabad had such a Dayan
They are educated. THEY ARE TRAINED. AWARE. It was what happened BEFORE SOME 20+ YEARS.
IT’S LONDON, CH, CANADA, ISRAEL… That need desperate education…
Who are we kidding? Go to the police and report them . it’s not loshon hora these abusers have ruined people’s lives.Contact people who know what to do . it’s bloodshed and must be dealt with…Every principal in Crown Heights knows what’s going on for the past 30 years. Eliminate the perpetrators now!!!!!
Can someone please explain why out of 400 people there were maybe 4 rabbies present?
The Rav of each kehila should have been there
what a shame
this generation has no respect of rabonim
BUT CAN YOU BLAME THEM?????
There is no greater Kiddush Hashem than the strong voice of enough is enough. Moshiach is about to come.
Those of us who always felt it was mandatory to report abuse were stymied back in the 80’s and 90’s by the lack of a clear psak and the fear of violating “mesirah.” A clear psak in this area is all that most folks were waiting for! Thank you.
No community is immune! There are still too many Rabbis that deny it is a problem and don’t “get it”.
The JCW event with a packed house and not-a-pin-drop silent and awestruck community succeeded in presenting CSA …however, as Rabbi Tauber so clearly and succinctly said “WHY did they have to reach out to a Rabbi all the way from California…what about all the Rabbis here in South Florida” and to that I say..”What about”…yes. there was a sprinkling of bona-fides and it was brought to our attention however I don’t think we can be complacent…any Rabbi worth his smicha should without hesitation show his support..by showing up.By signing on..Thank you Meyer,Eli, Dr.Goldwasser,Rabbi Tauber,RoshLowe ,BB , Yoni…and all the chevrah..thank… Read more »
Y doesn’t JCW take a trip & fly 2 Melbourne & Sydney where there is a real big issue right now, Miami, Cleveland, Los Angeles is very nice it’s time 2 go international now, I’m talking London, Manchester, Antwerp, Melbourne, Sydney, Yerushalayim, Bnei Brak (all over isreal), Moscow. It’s time. I want 2 c Meir Sewald speak @ YG in Melbourne.