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The family of Malky Klein, who tragically passed away last month from self-medication, is raising funds to helps others. Full Story

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Malky Klein organisation contact details.
November 13, 2017 9:25 pm

Anyone have or no the contact number for the organisation being opened in memory of malky Klein?

To Number 35
August 7, 2017 2:42 pm

We really do not know how severely learning disable Malky was. Apparently, she was, with superhuman effort able to keep up in her classroom with help. Perhaps she needed a modified program and counseling to help her with her feelings. Certainly, she also needed extra curricular activities to shine in areas where she clearly had talent. To date, we do not have appropriate schools for our children. This is a fact you clearly state. Until appropriate schools for all our children are in place, we will find fault with our current school system. Malky’s elementary school needed to help her… Read more »

Blaming the existing school system is wrong
August 2, 2017 3:54 pm

Whenever a tragedy happens, people naturaly feel an instictive need to blame “someone” or “something”, regardless if its justified because even if their wrong, it makes them feel better to blame someone else, instead of taking personal responsibility, themselves. Certainly any parent, of a suicide victim, feels the need to blame “someone”, “anyone”, they can regadless if justified or not. We can’t blame, such parents, for feeling the need to blame the school or a teacher, because a person in pain, especialy a parent of a tragic loss, needs this “therapy” to blame others for the tragedy, in order for… Read more »

Dear Nameless
July 25, 2017 10:52 pm

I most certainly don’t know you, but I would like you to know that I’ve heard you. I’ve read both of your posts on this article, and I’ve heard your pain in the words that you’ve bravely shared with us. I say bravely, because nameless or not, it takes courage to bare your soul and share your pain with the hope that your experience may better someone else’s. Do you have a family member, a friend, or a physician with whom you can share your pain and concerns? Please do not suffer alone. While you are correct when you state… Read more »

Anyone hear the schools side of the story?
July 24, 2017 12:48 pm

Is this really a story about someone who couldnt keep up academically?

Are all schools and school personnel perfect? No, of course not. Overall, do our schools produce fine upstanding yidden? Yes, they do. So, instead of bashing everything and everyone connected to yeshivos and camps everywhere without even knowing the facts…….

# 30 - spot on !!!!Learning for the sake of academics / memorization is over
July 23, 2017 4:10 pm

Learning for the sake of academics is over The Internet has more information that you will ever need both in Hebrew and secular knowledge Today we need to captivate our youth by introducing innovative interactive ways of learning that helps build their self identity as a yid a chosid and a healthy mentch with Yiras shamayim. The powerful forces of Klippa which is accessible to everyone of our children Needs to be out balanced zeh leuma zeh as captivating to keep our youth on the path We must not remain complacent The Internet is a silent but deadly tsunami against… Read more »

Anonymous
July 23, 2017 11:55 am

Right, I agree… because even brighter students appear to be decently successful but they still have undiagnosed learning disabilities and feel different, thinking perhaps there is something wrong with them when they can’t get organized to review for tests, and get overwhelmed, or when they feel socially awkward… ADD causes a lot of these symptoms and can lead to depression at times… it is sometimes very hard to diagnose the problem when the person is pretty smart but nevertheless is struggling with daily problems in executive functioning skills, procrastination and so on

It's time we Revamp the elitist archaic education system
July 23, 2017 10:41 am

It only works for 20% of society
Lamp lighters figured it out

Creative arts Technology need to come into mainstream schools the whole marking evaluating performance of students system has to be revamped

A sensitive soul expected to be someone she couldn't be instead of being accepted and loved
July 23, 2017 9:44 am

No one should be expected to be something they’re not meant to and cannot be. This maybe could be prevented if someone like her is in an environment where she/he is loved and expected to be only their self. This is really sad but I’m happy at least to personally know people like her who have always been loved and accepted for their own unique abilities. There are definitely certain communities and schools who are less loving and flexible than others and this approach was detrimental to her for sure!

Painful but Brave
July 23, 2017 8:31 am

I appreciate that they have published this. The one thing I am very curious to know is why their daughter felt such a deep pain, and where did it come from. When we open one painful topic it often leads to another. Did she suffer some event that scarred her life? Did she have depression? If we ever hope to beat the addiction crisis, we have to start talking freely about other taboo topics that cause the need to numb oneself.

Everyone has intelligence!
July 23, 2017 12:33 am

It’s not how smart you are, it’s how; you are smart. Everyone has their own way of being smart. And not always is it the student who has a good memory, that’s brilliant.
We need to focus on the child’s strengths and talents and bring it out with Simcha.

Oy i know
July 22, 2017 11:23 pm

Have a friend who her mom always told her shes stupid…….
Its not easy living with that thought everyday………

Painful
July 22, 2017 11:19 pm

This is a sad read. Building up children who need the extra boost is not only up to the school, and it would be unfair to only blame schools for children struggling with negative self image. It’s up to all of us to look out for our children, neighbors, relatives, kids classmates etc, and reach out to those floundering. Most of these kids and families will not want to , or know how to ask for the help. We all know it’s not just about marks , and we all know how far our impact can be on a child-… Read more »

A practical lesson to take from this..
July 22, 2017 7:20 pm

Both School and Parents can learn from this is not to focus on the negative but on the positive.(in this case, work out what the child is good at and bring out her potential and dont overload with more work and more tutors….)

I totally agree with you number 18
July 21, 2017 3:46 pm

Even throughout the school year, lets give opportunities to the weaker kids to shine. They are our kids at risk and they need opportunities to shine the most. The strong kids feel great already. Displaying their name in the school newsletter because they achieved learning .. bal peh, while their weaker friend will never see his name displayed is sad. When schools and camps ask kids to learn tanya bal peh, or gemorah, lets remember the weaker kids who simply cant do this. Lets give options.You can Learn Tanya bal peh or create a poster with pictures displaying what the… Read more »

what a sad story.
July 21, 2017 3:40 pm

she fore sure had a special something in her. How old was she when she passed away?

Visionary
July 21, 2017 3:32 pm

Number 18 hit it on the button , yeshiva and school are difficult for some children , let them enjoy their summer with less pressure in achieving high grades in the camp Tests which are abusive to these campers . Let camp be fun and relaxing for all .

to 19 great idea
July 21, 2017 3:09 pm

super idea, someone please HEAR #18’s idea and do it!

#14 and #18
July 21, 2017 2:41 pm

YES – THANK YOU!!

The trailblazer
July 21, 2017 11:52 am

This story unfortunately happens every summer in camps , in camps especially for boys ,prizes are always given to those boys who can Chazzer Mishneios or learn Gemorrah at a high level , why don’t they permit those who we know are not the best students to shine in their own way , camp is for enjoyment and learning , but keep the accolades for those who behave properly , and care for others , we already know who are the best students . Build up the weaker ones in the summer so they can possibly achieve much more doing… Read more »

#14
July 21, 2017 11:47 am

Very nicely said

So sad
July 21, 2017 11:12 am

The world needs a lot more love

So so sad
July 21, 2017 10:30 am

I’m heartbroken reading this….. Poor poor girl who suffered at the hands of others. Wake up!!!! give children some time and space to be children, to be free, to explore, to hone in on their interests and individual talents.By kindergarten they already have to do xyz……etc. etc. It’s crazy. When I was growing up, overseas, we didn’t have this push, to already be at a certain level by such a young age. It’s not normal nor is it healthy. Plus the frum lifestyle doesn’t allow kids much time to explore other interests. School days are long, especially for boys. Forget… Read more »

Shame on those UNEDUCATED "EDUCATORS"
July 21, 2017 10:11 am

Its obvious that this girl was a very fine personality. Unfortunately, surrounded by ignorant “educators” she was
deprived of those who would help her build her self esteem
rather than worry about academic achievements Where
were those educators who know that success is not about
marks in school but rather discovering the talents which
Hashem gave you and making the best of it. That leads
to a healthy self esteem and B’ezras Hashem a successfull
life.

To #11
July 21, 2017 9:46 am

This story is not about a CH family

Nameless
July 21, 2017 9:01 am

After reading this last night waking up from the little Sleep that I have slept I still cannot get the story out of my head and the pain that she must have endured in her lifetime ( and obviously for her parents to) what I could say is it’s a dark room and nobody will ever understand until you’re actually together in that same darkroom . But I think all I can say is that if you ever meet someone who’s going through hard times the last thing they want to hear is I know what you’re feeling or I… Read more »

Grateful we left
July 21, 2017 8:29 am

What a tragic story that happens too often in CH. How many beautiful children do we have lose before we wake up. This isn’t just about loving, its about being judgemental. Our kids don’t fit into the same hold. There is an epidemic here. Wake up.

did her parents take her to an nutritionist
July 21, 2017 8:28 am

e3live does wonders for the brain,l know it does me, when l was in school l also didn’t really do so well, yup l throught l was stupid, and yet on the iq test, it came out very high, well no body really understood nutrition does something no one throught of,yes l do use a very highly quality nutritionist, of course with the rebbe bracha anyone interested can contact [email protected]

Message
July 21, 2017 7:22 am

the message to take from this, and SOMEHOW communicate to ALL the beautiful, special young neshamas around us, is that MARKS DON’T MAKE THE PERSON, and school is not the entire story. We are such a driven, competitive society. As a teacher, I saw that no matter what positive message I tried to give my middle school students, it is too late! At 13 a child feels deeply that they are flawed and useless, if they can’t achieve at school. And they won’t make it in the better circles, in the ‘good’ cliques…. it is a sad reality. and it… Read more »

Midwest Lady
July 21, 2017 7:14 am

Shame on the school for expelling her! Jews take care of Jews. What happened to teaching tolerance and acceptance? Learning disabilities are not new. The educators should be educated on these issues in their required training. Although we may raise the funds they requested, the amount will not be enough. This is a bigger problem and affects many of our children. So sorry for their loss and pain.

Teachers wake up call
July 21, 2017 6:55 am

Each student excels differently in different areas, don’t judge them, put them down, embarrass them in public, rather embrace them. You are turning our kids away , love them unconditionally, never judge another family, parent , or child, if you have not been in those shoes you have no idea what is going on in their life.

U.K.
July 21, 2017 1:29 am

This is so sad…The Aibishter should give her dear family the Ko’ach and good health.

Nameless
July 21, 2017 12:48 am

Truly sad . I know what she felt it’s a constant battle every day I say this because what I am reading is a carbon copy of what I’m going through in my life. May God comfort the family .

To the Family of Malky Klein
July 21, 2017 12:46 am

My deepest condolences to you.

Would you kindly post contact information for Yedidyah in Israel. I know a family who desperately needs this kind of support for 1 of their children.

I wish you much hatzlacha and I hope that you can bring not only 1 but many branches of this organization into existence.

Moshiach now! for all the obvious reasons including that you have the joy of reuniting with your daughter. She is obviously such a special neshama.

Wow
July 21, 2017 12:28 am

What a story! And what a beautiful way to commemorate malky life. Grades in school have very little to do with a person’s success in life, and I wish the teachers in school would do more to focus on the things that really matter; effort, responsibility, mentchlich kit and advancing ones own inner capabilities. This message must be shared with our children, especially those who ‘s talents don’t lie in scholastic achievement. I didn’t do well on tests in school and now as a grown adult and young professional I am far ahead of my friends who excelled in their… Read more »

So powerful and sad
July 21, 2017 12:15 am

Think before judging others, learn from this tragedy and maybe lives will be spared

We will remember
July 21, 2017 12:14 am

May her neshame have an Aliya! Yes I feel her pain and feel her parents pain may hashem help you to ease your pain

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