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Is Purim a Tznius-Free Holiday?

Anonymous Op-Ed: Yes, it is true that we need to drink “ad d’lo yoda,” and it is true that we need to be extremely happy and jolly on Purim, but we need to do this in a tznius and appropriate fashion. Is this a Torah-free holiday? Full Story

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Pooper party
March 12, 2009 1:01 pm

You must be a really pathetic creature to be bothered by people enjoying a yom tov in a time-honored Jewish way.
My suggestion to you: Get a life

not true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
March 12, 2009 12:09 pm

it is not pants,and it is my cousin!!!!!!!!!!!

March 9, 2009 4:15 pm

why cant people just keep the mitzva of purim

March 9, 2009 3:14 pm

Why is it not ok to wear pants on Purim if it is part of a costume?Why do people insist on spoiling purim?The idea of merriment and turning everything upside down means just that.Why does everything always have to be dissected and analyzed on Purim.sometimes i wonder if the spoilers are plain envious of those who want to be happy.Nothing awful is taking place despite the drinking which is a testament to how Jews celebrate.Then to bring up weddings?who cares about weddings now?!This is Purim-learn to enjoy it!!!

To be or not to be...
March 9, 2009 5:15 am

Re: Posting anonymously…
The point here is to get the message across…not to know who wrote it…Why does it make such a big difference who wrote something and besides quite a bit of this op-ed is straight from the letters of the Rebbe-and that is far from anonymous.
Let’s not get side tracked…

Why Anonymous?
March 9, 2009 1:22 am

If what the author is saying is true and the author believes in it, they why is the writer hiding his/her identity? I think that damages the integrity of the article. COLLIVE.com shouldn’t allow anonymous articles on its site, like other sites have done. It lowers the integrity of news.

Mordachai Was A Chosid:
March 8, 2009 4:45 pm

Mordachai HAD to be Chassidish. Who else but someone Chassidish would make it a mitzvah to get drink to the point of intoxication? No Misnagish Gadol would EVER contemplate creating such a mitzvah. Indeed, this mitzvah of Ad D’lo Yada is perplexing to many Yidden. While in all other mitzvos we are machmir, and seek to be yotzeh the mitzvah according to as many shitos as possible, this mitvzva is viewed quite differently. We look to see if there is a shitah that allows us to be yotzeh without drinking too much alcohol. No other mitzvah is neglected as much… Read more »

To #14 (& #13)
March 8, 2009 4:42 pm

There are poiskim that on Purim allow girls to wear pants. Please don’t create chumros that are contrary to long-time minhag yisroel. The real issue is are women michuyav in “ad d’lo yada’, as they are michuyav in ALL the other mitzvos of Purim? The fact that drinking can bring kallus rosh is not reason to exempt them, just as they are still michuyev in the 4 cups on pessach and kiddush / havdalleh. I think we need seperate parties for women to be mikayem ad d’lo yada, and I suggest Bais Shmuel for this year’s festivities. As far as… Read more »

right on
March 8, 2009 4:19 pm

In addition, Purim is not an excuse for girls to dress in pants, etc
To those that don’t “understand’ the connection of the Rebbes letters, if at a chasunah we must be careful, then at a party where there is drinking and a light mood,… We have to have even more safeguards for proper behavior. Kol hakovod to the organizers of these events, but please protect our community with proper safeguards; we have had too much suffering

to #12
March 8, 2009 2:54 pm

When I wrote “anonymous” as the title, I thought that was the “title” of my comment. Not being too computer savvy, I didn’t realize that that was the title I was giving myself.

My name is Gershon Wachtel. I don’t think there is any reason to say something good, anonymously, unless somehow it would cause pain or embarrassment to another person.

to #9!
March 8, 2009 1:25 pm

you hit the nail on the head! but now i have a question to your great comment: why are you under the title of anonymous? do you not either want to be associated with in this article?

To #7 & #8
March 8, 2009 1:07 pm

I think that the letters of the Rebbe are brought down here in support of having a proper mechitza and proper setup for dancing at all Purim parties.It is important for these things to be kept in mind when organizing and attending parties. Mechitzos are especially important during dancing!
Happy Purim to everyone !!!! ip

to #8
March 8, 2009 12:33 pm


March 8, 2009 11:26 am

Great article. Why was it written “anonymously”? Is there something in the content that one would not his/her name associated with?

mah inyan shmittah etzel har sinai?
March 8, 2009 11:16 am

What does the Rebbe’s [OBM] opinion about mixed dancing and Mechitzos at weddings have to do with appropriate behavior on Purim?

March 8, 2009 10:35 am

This article begins as if it’s about being tznius on Purim and then turns into an article about being tnius at a wedding…mechitzas…benching…shidduchim…and back to weddings again…
To sum it up in one word: “HUH?!”

To #1
March 8, 2009 9:34 am

Is that what a party pooper means to you?
Someone who tries to celebrate within Torah guidelines???
The author of the article brings up MANY valid points. Torah guidelines should not be taken lightly.

Most Tznius of all Yomim Tovim!
March 8, 2009 9:16 am

Purim is the most modest of all festivals – at least people are wearing SOMETHING! (-even if it is just a mask!)

March 8, 2009 9:10 am

noo noo noo this is GOOD!! COMING STRAIGHT OUT not by writing op eds and opinion peices and thoughtful essays but a straight out reminder for moshiachkeit! is crucial to being openminded and head-on to actually building forward ruchniyus and simcha as mentioned above! thank u for not beating around the bush wether there is a problem by parties or not is immaterial but the undeniable candidness is greatly appreciated and is a step forward in direct face to face communication on matter of importance through the jewish community as a whole and soon for the rest of the societies… Read more »

Thank you
March 8, 2009 8:56 am

Thank you for this timely reminder, stated in a polite and respectful way.
P.s. to #1: grow up

Crown Heightser
March 8, 2009 8:16 am

Thank you for writing and publicizing this letter. How appropriate. Very happy to see that others are thinking along the same lines. May we all celebrate a joyous Purim both materially and spiritually.

March 8, 2009 7:52 am

Party pooper
Can’t wait for pellin