By Toby Lieder
8 years and I still haven’t found it yet! Has that ever happened to you?
Have you lost something and couldn’t find it for years?
Then one day someone says, “Hey! Is this yours?”
I scream with surprise and excitement as I hold it tight and respond with an, “OMG, where did you find it? Yes! This is definitely mine.”
And then I realize, I was searching in all the wrong places all this time!
Years passed and I almost gave up on finding it.
And the, it gets found just like that, so unexpectedly when I was just giving up hope ever finding it again!
It was right there all along.
Where it was supposed to be.
I was meant to find it exactly when I found it.
Not sooner, not later.
THE STRUGGLE
Some singles are struggling for years in search of their soulmate. They feel as if it got lost and is hiding from them, never to be found.
Many feel ashamed, lost, disheartened, frustrated, confused, and extremely hopeless about meeting
Mr. or Mrs. Right, while their friends are happily married and settled in their own homes.
GIVING UP
While some blame the system, others are crying in desperation asking what they can do to find their other half.
“Where can they be hiding,” they ask.
Sleepless nights and worrisome days keep these singles from fully functioning to their maximum potential.
At times they come to a breaking point and cry out, “Why me?, Where is my bashert? Don’t I deserve one too?”
BURNED OUT
They are emotionally burned out while repeatedly asking why they are being set up with the wrong people.
After many years of making shidduchim, and coaching singles through the process I have discovered a few eye openers.
MR. PERFECT
When coaching a girl in her late 20s, identifying and analyzing what her possible blockages were, we discovered that she had a very long list of unrealistic qualifications the eligible spouse must meet.
She was on a search for “Mr. Perfect.”
She was expecting to find the qualities of seven husbands in one man!
Or wishing to have the advantages of each of the guys she dated all in one person!
THE SOLUTION
We brainstorm together and work through a specific formula that I call the “Five Non-Negotiables”.
We filter the clutter in her head that blurred her vision, as a result, she discovers her core values and decides what is able to be compromised and what is not.
CLARITY
This coaching gives her an enormous sense of relief.
With this new clarity, she is now able to be more realistic and feel more confident about finding Mr. Right.
BENEFITS
As I coach beginners of shidduchim as well and work through their Five Non-Negotiables with them,
I see that the benefits are incredible.
They don’t just walk into dating blindly, hoping to find the most perfect Mr. / Mrs. Right!
But are now fully equipped with their personalized list of core values , giving them a tremendous sense of self-awareness and perspective. Most of all, avoiding wasting a lot emotional energy because they are now self-aware and well prepared.
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Toby Lieder will be in Crown Heights this week, November 19 – 27.
You can book an appointment with her to have a one hour private coaching session which also incorporates a Shidduch interview, to be placed onto her database.
Toby Lieder, is a mother of 14 children, a teacher and mentor for over 40 years. She lives in Melbourne Australia, where she specializes in coaching singles through whatsApp video appointments from all around the world.
Preparing them for their journey through shidduchim, dating, engagement, and the first year of marriage.
Toby’s coaching will help you prepare for your first date, and help identify your blind spots if you’ve been dating for a while.
WHATSAPP VIDEO CALL
A one-hour WhatsApp Video coaching appointment will give you the gift of clarity and confidence.
Check out Toby’s website tobydatingcoach.com
FOR AN APPOINTMENT:
You may phone or WhatsApp Toby Lieder at +61470173916.
Instagram @tobydatingcoach
Whatsapp /Phone: +61470173916
I’ve met with Mrs Lieder and benefited so much from the clarity she help me find within myself. I highly recommend those “on the search” to go and meet Mrs Lieder.
A.
The coaching session was very eye opening for me. I’m so grateful I met Mrs Lieder. The word non-negotiable and negotiable is the key. It’s a new word. It’s a new clarity. With Mrs Leider’s help I figured out the qualities that I need in a spouse which are non negotiable qualities. Also, I learned what is possible for me to live without (the negotiable ones). With this in hand, I’m looking forward to searching for the one as it will help me be focus on my dates.
Mrs. Lieder gave me a better idea of what I am looking for, going together throughout a process she has developed very carefully, as soon as you start talking to her not only you can see her professionalism but also the passion she puts into her work.