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Ignoring Issues With a Shidduch?

Stump the Rabbi: Should I overlook weaknesses that I see in a shidduch, if I think he may be my bashert? Rabbi Mendy Wolf answers. Video

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Very Nice
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Very Nice

Thank You for such an inspiring insisght

Amazing
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Amazing

Really nice clip!

Very valuable lesson!
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Very valuable lesson!

Thank you Rabbi Wolf!

B"H
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B"H

A true and beatiful insight, But we can’t righteously tell ourselves that and ignore issues that are really niggling at us.. With this thought just marry anyone with the same drive as you… but this isn’t the case, there is room to say no and feel validated for it.

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Thank you Rabbi Wolf. There has never been a time in Frum History that people have to meet so many people before finding their ‘Bashert’ young people nowadays get extremely distracted by things that won’t make a difference in years to come, things that didn’t cross peoples minds years ago when it came to shidduchim. Instead of looking at the broader picture and understanding what a marriage really is, it’s picking out details, and becoming so bothered (by over thinking) that they are unable to go ahead with the Shidduch. That being said, a person’s “drive” is not the ONLY… Read more »

Many good points but
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Many good points but

It depends what the “weakness” is. If you see bad midos, temper, dishonesty, too much self-involvement/yesh, blaming others for everything that goes wrong – these are not weaknesses that can become strengths – these are clear signs of an emotionally troubled person who is not YET healthy marriage material. Please keep in mind that there are those who are expert at putting forth a false front and you will not see these traits until it is too late Gd forbid. The best advice is to do tons of research and find people who are willing to speak honestly with you… Read more »

Thank you
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Thank you

well answered

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