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‘I Told My Mother I’d Be Ready After the Summer’

Op-Ed by Yehudis Bluming: It’s that time of the year when many singles are reminded, "I told my parents I would be ready for shidduchim after camp, then postponed it to after Tishrei, and now that we have entered Kislev, I ran out of excuses." Full Story

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Eltere bochur
November 22, 2023 9:55 pm

Thank you I really need it

Thank you
November 22, 2023 9:58 pm

Must be a lot of work to compile.

A shaddchan
November 22, 2023 10:30 pm

Sometimes these brochrim/kallah maidels need an extra push. One time my daughter told me that her friends kept pushing it off because they were scared of the big commitment. So I want to put a message out to all those b/k”m “It is a big commitment but it’s the best thing you can do for yourself”
Moshiach now!!

Go sister
November 22, 2023 10:49 pm

Your the best!keep up the great work!

Wow this is amazing such nice content
November 22, 2023 10:52 pm

Thank for doing this

Great
November 22, 2023 11:15 pm

This is really wonderful but I think the biggest problem singles are facing is not receiving suggestions/resumes. I ask everyone to sit with their spouse/parent/sibling every so often and think of ideas for our singles

Amazing just amazing
November 22, 2023 11:18 pm

I’m so impressed yehudis you’ve done it again without fail love u keep up the the great work

Amazing
November 22, 2023 11:28 pm

Fantastic

Hmm
November 22, 2023 11:47 pm

If someone is ACTUALLY saying this, they mind need an actual therapist to help them figure out why they’re feeling so defensive before they start dating someone and it only becomes messier…

Can I point something out.
Reply to  Hmm
November 23, 2023 10:46 pm

Yes you’re right. There might be a deeper issue and a therapist might be needed. BUT. But- There is a healthy level of resistance that may present itself for totally normal reasons (which I will list examples for below) and telling a person who is okay that they might have issues so deep that they themselves don’t realize it can be very harmful. — fear of the unknown, fear of change — feeling busy and overwhelmed with life — nerves — excited to look into shidduchim but not excited by the sound of the particular shidduchim being offered — dreading… Read more »

A treasure of podcasts
November 23, 2023 12:09 am

Wow thank you so much I can’t wait to listen exactly what I need. As Bochrim we don’t get many classes on it and it’s very taunting going into the Parsha without these classes/ discussions.

I know this article for pushing a service…
November 23, 2023 8:21 am

But it’s ok to not be ready. Period. It shouldn’t require excuses.

Normalizing
November 23, 2023 9:40 am

Can we normalize that not necessarily is everyone ready to get married at the same time.
Does a girl have a problem if she is not ready to get married at 20-21 or a boy 22-23 for whatever reason? Someone could be a really healthy person and just not be ready

Sharei Shidduchim
November 23, 2023 9:48 am
have a laugh!
November 23, 2023 12:09 pm

My Comcast internet filter seems to be working well!
It says “Whoa! This content may be inappropriate for children.”

Thanks!!
November 23, 2023 12:51 pm

Thanks for putting this very important information together, and other way for people to help with the situation is correcting the huge problem of the tremendous shadchan shortage, more people must get involved, the people that are currently involved are completely overwhelmed, and cannot return messages and phone calls because they simply don’t have time to respond to the overwhelming amount of request that they get, much more people have to get involved in putting singles together.

Thank you
November 23, 2023 6:44 pm

Thank you for the great recourses on the website

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