By COLlive reporter
The French-born Mashpia Rabbi Michael Tayeb is known for energetically leading chassidic farbrengens during which he inspires participants of all walks of life – from the frum to the non-observant.
During these gatherings, Rabbi Tayeb can typically be seen holding the crowd spellbound with explanations of deeps concept of Torah and Chassidus, peppered with stories, anecdotes and niggunim.
But, in his weekly column in the Kfar Chabad magazine, he announced a serious change that he recently implemented.
“I have lowered the amount of drinking L’chaim substantially during farbrengens,” wrote Rabbi Tayeb, who serves as Mashpia at Yeshivas Oholei Tmimim in Kfar Chabad, Israel, where he lives.
Rabbi Tayeb admits that in the past he often said L’chaim every few minutes. In fact, the book that collected his remarks at farbrengens is titled “Lechaim Velivracha.” His column in Kfar Chabad magazine is named “L’Chaim, Chassidim.”
The decision follows a health condition that Rabbi Tayeb suffered a few months ago during a visit to New York with a group of Chassidim. “I was hospitalized with very high blood pressure,” he says, noting that it was “literally, life-threatening.”
Lowering the volume of alcohol intake was one of the “drastic and essential changes I have made in my lifestyle,” he says. Leading farbrengens with saying little L’chaim, “has also demanded of me tremendous mental strength,” he acknowledges.
“In a way, after drinking a lot of L’chaim, it is not you who is farbrenging, but the ‘L’chaim’ that is… It may be more attractive, but it is also less real,” he explained.
As an alternative, Rabbi Tayeb says he spends more time learning, based on the Rebbe‘s words that in this generation, once can become inspired (‘drunk’) from the “wine of Torah” and the wealth of Chassidus teachings.
“The investment in learning Chassidus and internal work with the goal to change the innermost parts of a person will take us to a way better place than the bottle – which can only take us to bed and headaches,” he said.
“After a few hours of sichos and maamarim, davening and mivtzoim, there probably won’t be a need for an abundance of mashke. It is more difficult, but more real and more internal and has a greater effect” – both on the Mashpia and the participants of the farbrengen.
Sad a serious health scare is what it took to acknowledge the physical and spiritual dangers of alcohol, especially for someone with great influence.
Why look at it in such a negative way!
BH he survived the illness and BH he’s using his scary experience to influence others in a positive way.
משקה is NOT חסידיש
Many people’s views on drinking are way too extreme. So sad that it had to come to a health issue for someone to see the error and reform their ways.
How about, BH he’s changed his ways and is encouraging others to also!!
Condemning someone who’s literally doing the right thing because they’re not doing it for the reason you want them to is ridiculous and very self-defeating for the cause you say you care about.
Time to stop the drinking; time to stop the encouraging of drinking. Too much addiction in our community!
important to learn what the Rebbe said about drinking
He is over 40 years old.
If people would just follow the directives of the Rebbe, no more than 4 lchaims, this would not be an issue. Be a chosid. Listen to our Rebbe. This is not rocket science. When a well known yeshiva encourages our boys to drink, that is not chasidishkiet, that is HEPECH everything our Rebbe told us.
I challenge you to find me even yeshiva that encourages boys to drink, your comment would suggest that you never spent time in yeshiva
Unfortunately way too many do…
About time someone is speaking out of the danger to one’s health by drinking at “Ferbrangen’s” “Mashka” to put it bluntly is Alcohol!!!!!
מה החידוש ??????????????? דער האט אלץ באוורנט
Refuah shleimah. Good choice to limit the alcohol. I wish you continued success and trust that your farbrengans will only be more inspiring and emesdik.
Drinking can be dangerous and in many places the l’chaim is just too available. It also becomes a source of criticism and ridicule for non-Chabadniks of what Lubavitch and farbrenens are all about. We should change the culture…
While it took a some time, I respect his decision to publicly acknowledge his past errors.
It takes a lot of strength.
Wish Rabbi Tayeb all the best and much needed strength on his path to sobriety.
This should be a wake up call to mashpiim of yeshovos and others who have a strong influence in bochurim. You have a moral obligation to make sure that you have a healthy relationship with alcohol because you are modeling to the bochurim how to drink. The rebbe said only 4 drinks! Dont make a joke of it!
With all due respect to women (no slight intended), they are clueless in what it takes for a person to farbreng for hours (again, with all due respect to women, they don’t farbreng for bochurim for hours). About the Mitteler Rebbe it was said that if his finger was cut he would bleed chassidus. 99% of Chassidim wouldn’t meet that description, thus alcohol is a necessary crutch for the farbrenger. Just like it’s indeed possible to make delicious cuisine without using any salt (ironically salt also is bad for blood pressure, just like it seemed alcohol was for Rabbi Tayeb),… Read more »
Absolutely true!
to reveal your essence to farbreng you need an aid = mashke!
“Lowering the volume of alcohol intake was one of the “drastic and essential changes I have made in my lifestyle,” he says. Leading farbrengens with saying little L’chaim, “has also demanded of me tremendous mental strength,” he acknowledges.” As a counselor specializing in substance abuse, this sounds like a case study of an addict. Sounds like it’s time for someone to check themselves into a 12 Step Program. I don’t judge you and I commend you tremendously for having the strength to come out publicly about this, but please be advised that this is likely an addiction and should be… Read more »
It’s about time someone has the strength to tell the truth about how alcohol isn’t the answer for inspiration
While your warning about drinking let’s warn about smoking. Too many yeshiva boys smoke. It’s a killer