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Did My Son Really Smoke Marijuana?

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Should more people become alcoholics?
November 28, 2017 12:58 pm

It’s not as bad as committing suicide. Killing oneself is so much worse then getting drunk once in awhile. Since suicide is so much worse, perhaps society should condone and support more people getting drunk on a regular basis.
For those who do not realize it, this post is sarcastic.

BH for Alliya-Todays a good day to show our appreciation, #GivingTuesday
November 28, 2017 11:32 am

We are so fortunate to have such a dedicated shaliach for our kids as Rabbi Faiglin, Exec. Director of Aliya Institute. Rabbi Faiglin has what it takes to relate to our boys with challenges on their level in real time. He relates to them on a personal level and at the same time works to create an environment that will bring the boys up and give them the tools for their future ie life skills and mentchlikeit as well as a chayas for yiddishkeit. Lets continue to support him so that he can give the BEST of the best, in… Read more »

Thank you, Rabbi Feigin!
November 27, 2017 10:09 pm

A well thought out and hands on comment from a person with experience in the matter.

Moishe Feiglin
November 27, 2017 9:26 pm

BH Weed won’t kill you, but it can ruin your life I’ve been working with young people for many years and have seen the devastation from weed. I understand that weed has many potential benefits including health benefits, but the side effects are enormous. I have never had a teenager tell me that he didn’t suffer substantial side effects from weed regardless of how much he enjoys it and benefits from it. I know a young man who was a normal teenager and went to regular local yeshivas. He started smoking weed at 14. Once he started weed his mind… Read more »

November 27, 2017 9:20 pm

Weed is not a drug. Heroin and Meth are drugs.

Quote your sources please...the
November 27, 2017 9:15 pm

Anyone can espouse facts and if you are of the persuasion but do not have a degree in the actual studies of addition or are a licensed social worked, you should not be giving over facts as if you are because many of our youth are reading this and using it to gauge and empower these habits. I wonder how many of you are parents of kids who do smoke day and night? Do they go to school? Do they work and get up every morning. Do they function? I am not PHD, but I see these kids and I… Read more »

Reefer Madness
November 27, 2017 7:01 pm

If weed is such a concern in the community why not do UA’s on faculty or students and faculty?

As a Boucher in yeshiva
November 27, 2017 6:52 pm

I am a Boucher that has smoked weed after farbrengens I can proudly say that drinking mashke is a lot worse for the body and after affects i personally know someone that had photographed memory and lost it through saying lechaim marijuana dose not have the same after affects

For those that think
November 27, 2017 6:40 pm

For those that think that drugs are worse than alchol. Please point me to all the people that have asthma and cancer from you drinking around them. You people are litteral murders. If you want to smoke do so in a plastic bag allowing no air in around your face which equates to your alchol argument. Stop equating suicide with manslauter and a suicide.

Therapeutic Benefits of Cannabis
November 27, 2017 6:16 pm

This from US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health Excerpt: Cannabis is an extremely safe and effective medication for many patients with chronic pain. In stark contrast to opioids and other available pain medications, cannabis is relatively non-addicting and has the best safety record of any known pain medication (no deaths attributed to overdose or direct effects of medication). Adverse reactions are mild and can be avoided by titration of dosage using smokeless vaporizers. More research needs to be pursued to discover degrees of efficacy in other areas of promise such as in treating anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder,… Read more »

To number 86
November 27, 2017 6:06 pm

“Marijuana is not addictive, that’s a fact”
Facts don’t care about your feelings. Hundreds of people have been lost in the whirlwind of addiction with many drugs- a lot being marijuana. Studies show that 30% of those who use marijuana may have some degree of marijuana use disorder.

Lust addiction is much worse
November 27, 2017 5:55 pm

It destroys a person spiritually which is worse than physically
I know a few friends of mine that struggle with this as well it is definitely the challenge of the generation

Support Groups are helpful and needed
November 27, 2017 3:28 pm

Im glad this subject is being brought up. I don’t have time to read all the comments now but as a mother of one who does partake I am reaching out to others if you would be interested to get help as parents by forming and attending a support group The little I have learned about this is that this drug is not always what they think it is when they buy it and can be extremely harmful and even dangerous. Also if your child has mental illness, or a latent possibility, this will bring it out and he or… Read more »

# 95
November 27, 2017 1:19 pm

Too true
Alcohol tobacco are much worse
NY recognised that with the 2014 Act
Let us get off our high horses

Up in smoke
November 27, 2017 1:02 pm

Interesting that most of the commemts here directly contradicts what the author is saying

Drinking is the bigger problem.
November 27, 2017 11:55 am

Marijuana may not be as terrifying as some make it out to be. I agree it is not the great cure so many ignorant people make it out to be but nor is it an evil drug that guarantees dependency and complete brain meltdown (if used responsibly, of course). The worst aspect of marijuana is that it is illegal and will ruin a kid’s life because of the law enforcement consequences (if caught). However, the bigger problem for me is alcohol abuse. We live in a community that encourages drinking and supplies underage kids with drinks. The respected members of… Read more »

Get real
November 27, 2017 10:46 am

Marijuana is not a drug. When used responsibly it has many values. Studies have shown it is a gateway for people under 21 whose brain is developing and looking for a bigger high. I know many people of all ages who use marijuana occasionally with no ill effects. Not all strains are the same. There are edibles that don’t get you high at all. I suffered from insomnia my entire life until someone suggested a tiny piece of pot infused chocolate. I get a great night sleep, and wake up totally refreshed. Scientific studies are looking at the many uses… Read more »

"Self Defense Studio CH"
November 27, 2017 10:39 am

CHJCC program for BOYS.


November 27, 2017 10:32 am

kids still get blackout drunk with shluchim and mashpi’im in yeshiva

My take
November 27, 2017 10:28 am

I didn’t read all the comments, so it may have been said before. It’s about time students in 6th (yes 6th!) grade are taught about the dangers of all substance abuse: drugs, alcohol, smoking & food. Bulimia & anorexia are very common in preteens, INCLUDING boys. And please…. do not forget relationships. It exists, yes, in our community. Smoking? Plenty of kids do it, they just hide it better than my generation did. Alcohol? It’s right under their noses, at home, at kiddushim, at farbrengens. Why not drugs as well? The girls’ school where I taught had a dorm &… Read more »

November 27, 2017 9:56 am

We need to realize what kids are watching on there phones.
A educator asked a full class of kids if they would allow there kids to have access to the internet like they do and not one kid said yes

to know
November 27, 2017 9:14 am

weed is a mind altering drug. It affects, time and distance perception, body movement, balance, impairs judgement, multi tasking is impeded, inhibits attention, impairs short term memory, heightens sensory perception, lessons reaction times, and stays in the blood system for days or weeks.(even though the effects wears off in 2-4 hours) Therefore, it can effect a person negatively to study, drive, make decisions, hold down a job, etc. From the comments here, there may be a handful of ADHD people that marijuana has the opposite effect on, but for everyone else it is just a pleasurable distraction from life without… Read more »

Sleepaway camps?
November 27, 2017 8:56 am

Which sleepaway staff are offering drugs to their campers?
Did you tell the directors? That’s completely unnaceptable.

STOP comparing to alcohol! And...
November 27, 2017 8:56 am

Loads of people are saying how alcohol is worse: 1) while that may be true, two wrongs don’t make a right! 2) the FACT of the matter is, aside from alcoholics, people don’t get drunk every day. You get sick from drinking too much (hangover) and can’t function at all. People who smoke weed, do so on an almost daily basis or more than once a day. The lack of nausea side effect, makes them keep chasing that high. For a teenager, that has long term debilitating effects. 3) the fact that states made it legal, does not change the… Read more »

Smoke before you comment
November 27, 2017 7:19 am

Everyone here seems to have such strong opinions about marijuana. I have been smoking it for years and it has helped me with ADD and I have witnessed it do wonders for people with depression and other disorders. It is a plant created by hashem. Tylenol is a Drug. pharmaceuticals are drugs, are addictive and have caused death to many rl Marijuana is not addictive, that’s a fact, I know people who have battled addiction and today they will decline painkillers from their doctor because of their addicting effect and they will alternatively smoke marijuana. If your son is not… Read more »

My Father
November 27, 2017 7:10 am

My Father told me endlessly stories about people that overdosed, got aids, drunk drove etc and how they died these horrible deaths. I still chose friends on the fringe and saw my friends touch things i was surrounded by drugs, alchol, etc. I was litterally friends with dealers and could roll a blunt. But i never myself did drugs, alchol, or got aids etc. Because of all the stories i had heard from my father. They’re burried deep into my subconsious mind since i was told them before the age of 7 and even new what the words meant. I… Read more »

November 27, 2017 7:03 am

stop the trouble makers in our community get rid of them now ,they are destroying us,tell them to move back to their own community.

November 27, 2017 6:54 am

if a community can actually have this machlokes with our so called rabbonim ,we then deserve to have our children smoking up all day , we the adults are responsible ,how much longer will we be reading in booklets that the stores in crown heights don’t have the correct hashgocho,we continually permit outsiders to infiltrate and destroy us,heaven help us now ,do something now ,throw these sick individuals out.

Find True Peace
November 27, 2017 6:21 am

Sad to see a lot of smokers protecting their “right” to smoke.
I pray for you, you should find REAL happiness, with YOURSELF and than (as a result) with everybody else, you should not need any external drugs to get you high.
If, if and if you are truly taking it for health reasons, Hashem should send you a complete recovery.

Very impressive
November 27, 2017 3:50 am

Thank you SO much to this anonymous author.
And to the principal for saving this child from feeling like a failure and being thrown onto the streets. What a miracle!

This boy and the lubav community is lucky to have the above mentioned people around who are honest and trying to help out.

I hope everyone reads this and takes it seriously!!

Itג€™s time that things change
November 27, 2017 2:53 am

Marijuana should be legal. Instead of stigmatizing a substance which is significantly less harmful than alcohol we should embrace the positive aspects of it. If I was the principal of a school in the states where pot is legal, I would encourage all my student to use it (provided that they are of legal age).

November 27, 2017 2:28 am

thankyou for sharing this story!! i know its hard to put thIngs on col beacuse the comments ARE SOMETIMES MEAN BUT i apreciate you <3

Not that big of a deal
November 27, 2017 2:19 am

Sorry but my opinion is all this is not that big of a deal. its legal in six states with more to come on Janiluary 1. You can literly walk into a store and buy it. Its not going to kill you or anyone else. Sorry but thats just a fact.

I have experience
November 27, 2017 2:05 am

5 years ago, when I was in seminary, my roommates were on drugs every day.an upright lubavitch seminary dorm. And my stuff stunk. As a 17/18 year old I did NOT know how to handle this. It’s a problem. Please deal with it. It’s scary for teens who don’t know what to make of it.

הקדימו תרופה למכה!!!
November 27, 2017 2:00 am

Teach the kids how drugs look like and how dangerous they are.
Unfortunately, from some drugs there is no way back, ח״ו !
If they will know – they will not touch then to begin with !!

To No. 38
November 27, 2017 12:05 am

No, it’s not at all prevalent among Chassidishe guys. What do you define Chassidishe? In all my years in Yeshiva, Israel and America, I never saw any bochur with weed. Kudos to BRHS for recognizing their problem, and halevai there were dogs for smartphones.

Great mom
November 26, 2017 11:58 pm

1. You are a fabulous mom!
2. You are a fabulous writer. If you don’t already, you should keep writing!
3. Only continued Nachas

very sad...
November 26, 2017 11:45 pm

What if the article title was

“Did my son stop wearing a hat and jacket in street? ”


“Did my son stop going to mikva”


Wake up! Ruchnisdic problems come way before the physical ones…we should be most alarmed when the real issues occur because they cause the follow up issues to emerge later on

weed & mashkeh
November 26, 2017 11:43 pm

no way am im writing that weed should be something bochurim and even adults use, but mashke is much worse

from a California Shliach
November 26, 2017 11:34 pm

As many people know, those who want trouble will find it (how much more so, those that want good will find good)…when it comes to the quest to find trouble…parents should be much more bothered when they hear their kid was shiker

Help us
November 26, 2017 11:34 pm

I’m a bocher in yeshiva and a nice group of us smoked/smoke weed and are looking for more yes weed is a stepping stone to the next level. a lot of us don’t see the problem (including my self) and we could use a social worker too come speak to us

November 26, 2017 11:33 pm

Unfortunately kids are exposed bcoz of the stupidity of the adults to grow marijuana and to sell as a medecin for cancer
Guess what BE AWARE, watch your friends kids !
Guys are selling in our shruna it’s also a nice income to poison our naive kids !

58 exactly
November 26, 2017 11:10 pm

Everyone is going back and forth about whether marijuana is ok or not. The Rebbe was against marijuana so it doesn’t belong anywhere in Lubavitch. Simple as that!

drugs, addictions and punishment
November 26, 2017 10:48 pm

B”H regardless if the child’s open approach to trying new things or drugs, such as: pot, cigarettes, alcohol, or even overindulging in coffee, chocolate or candies, comes from his/her own volition or from watching an adult do it. Certainly from all these, alcohol being the most dangerous, cigarettes second followed by pot in 3rd, any kind of food coloring or MSG if taken daily will cause severe damage to the brain!!! #2) It seems this parent is not prepared to deal with his child as much as he wants to eradicate the pot situation, although i have to agree with… Read more »

From an young adult
November 26, 2017 10:28 pm

Maybe some parents need to stop thinking that their kid is a tzadik and maybe that will take away the taboo of normal things that teenagers do and they’ll realize that their kid is a normal teenager and not someone who has something wrong with him. I’m not saying what is right and wrong, but instead of looking at teenagers like robots and non human beings the time has come for the older generation to start relating to the kids in this day and age and learn how to talk to them and legitimize their feelings and know that a… Read more »

November 26, 2017 10:17 pm

the dog only went to12th grade next time do the whole school

November 26, 2017 10:12 pm

You are horribly wrong just because everyone else does it it doesn’t make it ok!

To comments #10, 12, 16
November 26, 2017 10:10 pm

Before we all go and speak to negatively about drug and other substances let’s first looks at both sides. Has anyone ever given thought to the benefits of such things. Yes they could completely mess your brain and make a meshuga, like we r”l know too well in the crown heights community at large. But there are also those that use drugs and marijuana to help their minds, too help focus, and many other medical reasons. I spent a couple years by a shliach on the west coast where marijuana has now become legal and I must say many of… Read more »

November 26, 2017 9:34 pm

Big problem out west since it’s legal. I’m upset that my son is exposed to this constantly by his peers and it seems like it’s no big deal to anyone at yeshivas too. Same goes for staff at the sleep away camps who offer drugs to their teen campers. The problem is it is viewed as innocent as a cigarette. We dropped the ball on our kids. Cigarettes and alcohol have been widely accepted and abused, its natural for this generation to look for the next trend. If we actually took the alcohol addiction in yeshiva seriously we wouldn’t be… Read more »

To #50
November 26, 2017 9:29 pm

You could not have said it better!! It is time to take action.

November 26, 2017 9:18 pm

I could have not have said it better myself. It’s poshut a shande that this goes on right under our very noses. One thing to smell up my alley, but the streets where my kids are growing up.?! What a shame. Thank you number 50 for verbalizing it so ever clearly. We need to come together and stop this.

A citizen with access to google.
November 26, 2017 9:05 pm

Regardless of where you stand on this issue, the bare minimum you can do is to educate yourself on the topic and know the relevant facts. There have been no documented cases of death from marijuana overdose. You may argue that it is an unhealthy habit or a gateway drug, but claiming that it leads to death is simply infactual. Also, marijuana can in no way be compared to ‘hard drugs’ such as cocaine and heroine, which have thousands of fatalaties each year. I find it surprising that marijuana is considered such a crisis when underage drinking has been a… Read more »

To #8
November 26, 2017 8:36 pm

כ”ק אדמו”ר
“ביותר וביותר ופלא השאלה!”
Famous answer of the Rebbe when asked if weed is bad and against the תורה…

November 26, 2017 8:28 pm

Schools must discuss ALL addictions .

Tikva Lake
November 26, 2017 8:14 pm
November 26, 2017 8:09 pm

Schools must discuss ALL addictions .

to #45
November 26, 2017 8:07 pm

44 #14 and #20 There have been virtually NO proper scientific studies on any advantages to marijuana for any of the conditions you listed, except for some indications of hep with seizures. Very often the effective chemical in the plant is the CBD oil, and NOT the part that makes you high. It is being studied intensively in Israel, but the hype about marijuana being the new cure and treatment for every single ailment is bunk. Furthermore, there are countless tragedies in our communities and without, of kids sadly overdosed on dope that was laced with toxic chemicals or with… Read more »

Keep in touch
November 26, 2017 8:04 pm

Each community is being challenged by multiple ” trends!” From marijuana, alcohol, tzinuis disregard, and gender questions and a multitude of other issues confronting our youth! We need to be ProActive! Gulas is ours and we need to dig deeply to prepare for Guelah. Be creative!

Bless you
November 26, 2017 8:01 pm

Thanks for taking the time to write this post, for getting help for your son, and for being a good parent and a good neighbor. We need more Brave and honest people like you to help everybody stay safe

November 26, 2017 7:57 pm

Spelling doesn’t count when we’re all on our smartphones!

Crown heights is a big hotbox
November 26, 2017 7:55 pm

Crown heights these days is one big HOTBOX! Who would’ve thought 20 years ago that kan tziva would be on cloud 9?! It’s an embarrassment to lubavitch. As a mother myself I would like to say that what this mother did was brave and courageous. Kudos! Walking the streets of CH on regular basis and smelling this garbage has me feeling high myself. It’s so sad what it has come to. Tayere yidden anashim noshim vetaf it is our responsibility as parents and lubavitchers to put an end to this phenomenon, we must do all within our power and capabilities… Read more »

please tell kids to never smoke or do drugs
November 26, 2017 7:54 pm

why would a kid not take the drug if he is never told it’s not good? kids from a very young age need to be told to never ever take drugs or smoke because once you start you can’t stop I remember my science teacher in beis rivkah 8th grade years ago when learning about lung problems told us to never ever smoke even one cigarette because once you start you cannot stop.

To #15 and others
November 26, 2017 7:46 pm

1) Yes, alcohol is bad for the teenage brain and many yeshivas are actively cracking down on it. However, it is a bit of a red herring. The average person drinks too much alcohol, gets terribly sick and won’t touch it again for a long time. Marijuana has no hangover and therefore the effect of it is addictive and a gateway drug. 2) By asking that drugs not be visibly used in front of minors is not imposing a view on others. By insisting that you can do what you want, where you want and to hell with everyone else,… Read more »

November 26, 2017 7:43 pm

Parents, not schools, should take responsibility for raising well adjusted mentchen, and should discuss unhealthy behaviors with their children.

You're All Nuts
November 26, 2017 7:37 pm

Are all of you really that naive that you think this interaction was normal or that marijuana use is that decadent. Way to take the world back a few centuries…

@27, @28, and @29
November 26, 2017 7:35 pm

If you have access to col you have access to google. It is biologically impossible to consume a toxic overdose of marijuana. Additionally, the affects of marijuana are less similar to hard drugs than the affects of alcohol are to hard drugs. Why do you guys feel the necessity to publish easily disproven statements about a substance I’m assuming you have little to no experience with? If you don’t want to use, gezunderheit, don’t use it. But if others want to, why do you feel the need to publish false information that require nothing more than a Google search: “can… Read more »

#14 and #20
November 26, 2017 7:32 pm

There have been virtually NO proper scientific studies on any advantages to marijuana for any of the conditions you listed, except for some indications of hep with seizures. Very often the effective chemical in the plant is the CBD oil, and NOT the part that makes you high. It is being studied intensively in Israel, but the hype about marijuana being the new cure and treatment for every single ailment is bunk. Furthermore, there are countless tragedies in our communities and without, of kids sadly overdosed on dope that was laced with toxic chemicals or with strong drugs, kids who… Read more »

oy vey.
November 26, 2017 7:30 pm

in the days of reb mendel futerfas this did not happen!

November 26, 2017 7:30 pm

It is so sad to see how many people on these comments have their Nefesh Habehamis in control right now. Where is your Nefesh Elokis? Where is your Tanya education?! I really can’t relate…

אוי אוי!
November 26, 2017 7:28 pm

בבית הכנסת שלי אנחנו לא עושים את זה! זה לא בסדר! מריחואנה אינה מקובלת על ילדינו וחברי הקהילה שלנו לעשן!

Thanks, and
November 26, 2017 7:28 pm

1. I appreciate your writing this. 2. I wonder why you’re freightned by that your son is willing to experiment. It shows a brave, curious, creative mind. Perhaps consider teaching him analytical decision making skills (if you know them), rather than a fear of the unknown, or willingness to verify things for himself. 3. How do you reconcile your suggested policy of a drug-free shul zone, if there’s alcohol there? 4. Weed is legal in some states. So that makes it arguably an optional choice (like alcohol) from a health or moral perspective. Thus the conversation with a young adult… Read more »

to #20
November 26, 2017 7:26 pm

sad to see such ignorant people…

Great article
November 26, 2017 7:25 pm

Serious message to parents and schools. Wake up and get with the times. It has become SO socially acceptable and prevalent in Chabad teenage social circles, even amongst the Chassdishe guys and girls.

November 26, 2017 7:25 pm

I am seriously shocked that Lubavitch has come to this. Smoking? Drugs? Addictions? This is what we are? Craziness

to the author of the article!
November 26, 2017 7:25 pm

thank you for speaking up!! its very important that if you have a story you should speak up. maybe this will stop everyone from smoking marijuana, when they hear the true stories of people who smoked it and what they went through!

to #20
November 26, 2017 7:24 pm

I sincerely hope that you regretted that comment for it was false.
Have a fabulous day

i agree with 24
November 26, 2017 7:21 pm

education not dogs is the answer
let some social workers go into every class of the girls school and every Yeshiva class and EDUCATE the kids about the consequences of drugs and alcohol abuse.

I clearly remember as a teen, a doctor coming into our class and showing a picture of blackened lungs, that resulted from smoking. That image stayed with me and i would never smoke. Education and open discussion is the best way.

November 26, 2017 7:20 pm

moshiach now

November 26, 2017 7:19 pm

Schools must discuss ALL addictions .

November 26, 2017 7:18 pm

You are extremely uneducated. Weed is a drug, and worse than alcohol. Also it’s spelled “alcohol.”

November 26, 2017 7:17 pm

DEUMANIZATION?! WHERE DID YOU GET YOUR EDUCATION?! Though some pronounce it without the “h” sound (which is bad enough in and of itself,) they still know to SPELL IT WITH THE “H”!!!

to #20
November 26, 2017 7:17 pm

Do you know what marijuana even is…? Please educate yourself before you start posting things that aren’t even true.

November 26, 2017 7:17 pm

I don’t know who parented you, or where you get your false information, but you can overdose on marijuana. You are more naive then a wee child.

November 26, 2017 7:11 pm

Um bro, you can overdose on marijuana. Your heads stuck deep in the sand.

Come smell
November 26, 2017 7:08 pm

Come to Brooklyn avenue between east New York and maple it’s a weed feast I sit on my couch breathing in this junk my poor kids and these are frum people it’s just acceptable some of there kids on it already it’s mind boggling why is this accepted day no to drugs any drugs Bais rivkah did the right thing they need to hold there fort down and it’s the parents job to do it at home but what could be done if the parents do it and accept it

Weed is better than alacohol
November 26, 2017 7:06 pm

Weed is better than alcohol and is not “drugs”.

dogs not the way to go thats good for the aiereport .
November 26, 2017 7:00 pm

the dog might have prevented drugs from being at the shabaton
but its not going to prevent the girls from using drugs elsewhere i think education and open discusion on this matter is the way to go. and in general having warm teachers & parents who convay the warmth yidishkiet thru the lense of chassiduss i think thats the way to influence our children, not by having dogs all over them which will create negative feeligs and deumanization.

Regular married guy
November 26, 2017 6:58 pm

Im a regular married guy with a few kids. Not a nerd, just a regular guy. Please tell me where is this prevelance. I dont see weed all over, ive never smoked it. Im not saying it doesnt exist. But making as if its being given out at shul on simchas torah via brownies together with the cole slaw and gefilta fish is simply untrue. Having said that, the one mistake br made was the video getting out..

November 26, 2017 6:57 pm

If one thinks that marijuana is healthy, or normal, they are totally uneducated. Marijuana is a drug that messes with the brain, it literally lowers your iQ, it makes you feel paranoid, and gives major anxiety. Not to mention that one who does drugs is looked as a lowlife and not classy. Homeless people do drugs, come on level up Jews.

What about booze?
November 26, 2017 6:57 pm

I am not saying there is anything wrong with saying Lchaim, but smoking pot on rare occasion is better (on almost every level aside from chassidishkiet due to historic reasons) than drinking. Of course children shouldn’t be partaking of it, but they shouldnt be drinking either.
Telling people not to share pot brownies is like telling adults not to say lchaim at shabbos meals or purim or simchas torah.
Stop living under the rock of stigma – and realize “Taamu Uri’uh – Ki Tov Havayah”

Uh, actually
November 26, 2017 6:56 pm

@17 that would be a really poignant point IF IT WERE POSSIBLE TO OVERDOSE ON MARIJUANA…

Kudos to the brave young man!
November 26, 2017 6:55 pm

Kudos to the brave young man who went to the principal. I’m sure it took a lot of courage but he saved both of their lives. Kids need to be told that you if they have any doubt about something being wrong, they should tell an adult and not be afraid to speak up. Kol hakavod.

November 26, 2017 6:55 pm

Ive heard before that BR girls do drugs, which for such a large school, is not shocking. Yes, it may be humiliating, but drastic measures should be taken to drive the incentive out of town.

Speak up
November 26, 2017 6:52 pm

any person who knows about the drug taking must be stopped and must speak up and say something.
The amount of drug overdoses which lead to death and hospitalizations is appalling!

Boruch Hashem!
November 26, 2017 6:50 pm

Bocha Hashem you were able to save his life in time!

Let your child be
November 26, 2017 6:42 pm

So a few thoughts: A) while there is certainly a scientific consensus that heavy marijuana use can severely impact an adolescent brain (and only an adolescent), you acknowledge that your son is a straight A student that wanted to try something (once) that is very prevelant in his world. Rushing him to therapist, and penning an op-ed about it, seems quite harsh. I think it also behooves you to research what type of emotional and psychological impact helicopter parenting can have on a child. What he did was perfectly normal for his age (especially considering the rigor of a Yeshiva… Read more »

Out of town Yid
November 26, 2017 6:39 pm

The medical properties of Marijuana far out weigh the negatives.1st off its a plant that was created by G-d . It helps with cancer, glaucoma, epilepsy, seizures, migraines and numerous other medical diagnoses. It can be taken in a oil base,edibles or smoked. Pharmaceutical companies and politicians will say its bad due to hurting there economic revenues. For most people that lives in states were it legal it is medicine with an alternative than taking opiods.

Tobacco to marijuana
November 26, 2017 6:35 pm

Does your son smoke cigarettes? Do the bochurim around him smoke? Does anyone in your immediate family?

Curious. There is a definite link between smoking and marijuana. A person who finds smoking disgusting, the smell, bad breath, etc to the point of not wanting to hang around people who smoke. There is a Much increased chance that they will view marijuana in the same way to many bochurim smoke.

November 26, 2017 6:35 pm

Whatever happened to the person that he bought it from?

To 2
November 26, 2017 6:35 pm

There are drugs in every frum community, this boys life was saved because of a very smart principal and very smart mother.

November 26, 2017 6:33 pm

The mother took care of the situation right away great job!

Cold winter
November 26, 2017 6:28 pm

Its time for the school to deal with what is causing the kids to use drugs if kids had other kosher outlets there would not be such a problem on such a large scale

what is missing from the article
November 26, 2017 6:23 pm

what is not mentioned is what does the Rebbe have to say about using drugs. Perhaps if we explained how the Rebbe was against drugs instead of threatening and scaring, we wouldn’t be seeing all these problems

Smoking weed
November 26, 2017 6:22 pm

Occasionally smkoing weed is alot better then drinking alcohol.
The majority of my yeshiva class has smoked weed at least a couple times including chassidish guys.
I think the older generation doesn’t realize how big of a disconnect there is.

Right on!!!
November 26, 2017 6:18 pm

Kol Hakavod to the writer of this article, clear, precise and coming straight from the heart to help OUR Children!!!

November 26, 2017 6:16 pm

You’re so right. You’re the real open minded one! Not like all the people hiding saying everyone else is closed minded. Much hatzlacha with your son. Bh the school as well showed respect and acted with in a caring way for your child. We can all learn from this!!

Please therapy
November 26, 2017 6:16 pm

My god

November 26, 2017 6:16 pm

Weed will probably be legal in ny in the near future

November 26, 2017 6:14 pm

“However, with marijuana use being so prevalent, he mistakenly viewed it as nothing more than a social exercise. He had witnessed many a frum adult either smoking it, vaping it, or swapping ‘pot brownies’ on Simchas Torah, Purim and the like, that he figured it couldn’t be that bad and was curious to try it. ” Well, yeah. It isn’t that way in all circles, but where it is, it’s experimentation is all but given and nothing at all a therapist can address because isn’t a sign of bad health mental or otherwise. That ‘normal’ is terrifying honestly and it… Read more »

Thanks for sharing
November 26, 2017 6:10 pm

I fully agree with what BR did. You’d rather that sniff and not be sorry later.