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    Danger in a Yarmulka

    From the COLlive Inbox: Waiting outside the school, all the children are eager to get home. One young boy is waiting quietly for his father to pick him up, when a strange man approaches. Full Story

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    woah
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    woah

    never though about that before, the kipa being the give away of a childs name. makes me think twice before putting my childs name on a kipah

    I guess you are right
    Guest
    I guess you are right

    I never had my child’s name on his backpack in ENGLISH because of predators, never had any worries about the hebrew name on his yarmulka. never really thought about it..
    thanks for sharing this

    ch resident
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    ch resident

    i think you need to calm down, i dont think it s so bad to have a name on a yamalka kids shuld know not to talk to anyome even if the person know’s there name.

    C V
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    C V

    I want to share a real life version of this op-ed. I have two boys, KAH. They are 11 months apart, and little, and I guess the little girl in me that never grew up, loves to dress them up just so, and matching them is a personal enjoyment. As such they do command attention when they walk into a room. After the Leiby Kletzky A”H story, a friend pointed out to me, that unfortunately there are frum people who do bad things, and read personalizations the same way they can read anything else. Truth be told, I forgot about… Read more »

    CH RESIDENT #2
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    CH RESIDENT #2

    VERY SCARY AND IT HAPPEN JUST COUPLE WEEKS AGO IN FLATBUSH, A STRANGER/KIDNAPPER APPROACHED A YOUNG GIRL AS IT WAS POSTED…

    I totally agree!!!
    Guest
    I totally agree!!!

    Why would any parent invite such horrors?! Please be extra careful as summer approaches. In G-D we trust!

    good point
    Guest
    good point

    tnx for writing this

    Give me a break
    Guest
    Give me a break

    What’s next? Not have names on Tefillin bags? take off the family name from the door bell?

    to # 5
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    to # 5

    a girl had a yarmulke with her name on?

    Dangerous article
    Guest
    Dangerous article

    Its not about the Yarmulka. there are a million ways a predator can fin the name. What if someone stalkes you on Facebook and gets to recognize a pic of your kid, then approches them. Your kids should know NOT TO TALK TO ANYONE THEY DONT KNOW. PERIOD. NO MATTER HOW HOLY THEY LOOK.

    suggestion
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    suggestion

    if you want your child;s name to be on his yarmulka, you can still write just the first letter. i saw some boys wearing them and theyre really nice…

    to #8
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    to #8

    little boys don’t have tefillin. Hopefully, by the time they’re (almost) 13, they’re aware of this issue.
    And I also hope you teach your kids never to open the door to anyone they don’t know when they’re home alone…

    answer
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    answer

    wear a yechi yamulka

    Spelling?
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    Spelling?

    *Knew

    wow, that is scary no. 4
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    wow, that is scary no. 4

    I also had an incident with my son, in 770, where some older guy kept talking to him and my husband finally called him away. But somehow my son thought we knew him…you can’t be too careful in this dangwrous world.

    To #4
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    To #4

    CV – I was thinking of your story when I read this!! I’m sticking to the initial letter on my boys’ yarmulkas!

    i have an idea
    Guest
    i have an idea

    they have kippahs with their initial on it
    personally i think they are cuter, nothing to do with safety reasons
    predators cant call you by your initial

    Dear Shmully
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    Dear Shmully

    I sincerely hope you read this comment. You brig up an excellent point that involves danger and yarmulkas. I suggest that only putting the LETTER is better.

    However, besides for that point, I think you need to elaborate more on what you wrote. You wrote beautifully but just not enough!

    Shkoich!
    A friend

    To #8
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    To #8

    Is that your reaction? You don’t see the difference? It’s exactly people like you who have to read this to get guidance how to protect their children because they can’t make a distinction between dangers to little kids versus older bar mitzvah boys.

    Good point
    Guest
    Good point

    Keep these kinds of articles coming just to keep us all aware and alert!

    You cannot eliminate every danger but do not over-scare your child
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    You cannot eliminate every danger but do not over-scare your child

    Of course the tragedy of Leiby is terrible beyond any parent’s worst nightmare. But before that, when was the last time anything remotely similar happened? Let’s not overly frighten our children. As for predators and abusers, most of the events on the various sites are pertaining to people that the child knows and trusts, not strangers.

    what!?
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    what!?

    who would let their child wait outside alone? that is incredibly stupid

    yea
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    yea

    Well if someone tried that on my kid—he would say—“yechi adoneinu moreinu vrabeinu melech hamoshiach leolam voed, your father cant make it he wants me to pick you up” and my son would be very suspicious

    i personally think one big initial is so ugly...
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    i personally think one big initial is so ugly...

    these r the superficial dangers- talk to ur kid, avoid tv and facebook which are far more dangerous and dont make your kid paranoid.

    names
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    names

    Name on clothing is too common to try to prevent. Action needs to come from a dif. angle.

    Names appear everywhere. Fearing what could come of this is pointless. We have to use other defenses, other preventatives.

    shlomo
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    shlomo

    it not only in yarmulke. it on backpack too. i see even phone # and address
    other side i speak with one guy in rehovot, that use same trick to call students leaniah tfilin. usual name on backpack.
    p.s. it’s like trend in CH, but lot of my friends, that have kids, wearing his son old yarmulke sure with son name.

    Why didn't I think of that
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    Why didn't I think of that

    Instead of having the child’s name printed on the yarmulka just write YECHI… Melech Hamosihiach Lolem Vaed.

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    Facebook: An Ikkar, or a Tofel?

    Just because there is a thing called “Facebook,” in the world, and it’s popular, absolutely does not mean that we are required to be like little slaves and go on it, AND post our own photos on it, as well as the photos of our family members! What ever happened to common sense????? Have we gotten so open-minded to the pop culture that our brains have fallen out? Life was complete, full, and meaningful before Facebook; it is NOT a required part of life! I personally do not use it, because I don’t have the time! In fact, I rarely… Read more »

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