To the incredible mothers of the worldwide Lubavitch community,
Summer is here! The time that so many of us have been waiting for, especially in this difficult year. We look forward to the break from regular scheduling, kids look forward to camp, and we as staff members look forward to creating fun and meaningful times with your children that they will hopefully carry with them throughout the year.
It takes a village to raise a child and we are committed to this partnership with you. As a staff member in a girls camp, we have come up against an issue and we need your help!
In camp, in addition to general farbrengens about the Rebbe and Chassidus, we spend a lot of time discussing and encouraging a healthy body image, self-respect and pride in being a Jewish woman through the gift of the mitzvah of tznius.
Unfortunately, we have heard from girls too many times, “But my mother dresses that way. Tznius isn’t her thing.”
We are not looking to judge anyone; the struggle is real. We just want to bring to your attention what an impact you have on your children and your daughters specifically. We all have the same goals of raising a generation of committed, connected, emotionally healthy Yidden and Chassidim, and we must work together!
We may think that tznius is a private thing. In reality, it is a public expression of our Yiddishkiet and Chassidishkeit.
Of course, we are involved in Chessed, Hafatza and Hiskashrus, but those are our private connections. Our public statement is the way we present ourselves to the public, to our communities and most importantly, public to our children. What we do in terms of Tznius (and of course other aspects, but in this aspect in particular) completely overshadows what we tell them or teach them.
Our girls are struggling with social media, body image, self-respect, boundaries. Some things that we as mothers may be struggling with or might take for granted.
But there is no question, that EVERY EFFORT that we make to push ourselves to strengthen in this matter of Tznius has an impact on our girls. We are their first and foremost role models and we owe it to them to push ourselves beyond our comfort zone in this aspect.
Tznius is not another mitzvah out of 613 commandments; for a Jewish woman, it’s the foundation of all the mitzvos! It’s the core of our yiras shamayim!
The brochos associated with efforts in this Mitzva are tremendous, reflecting the struggle and the importance.
As we take out our summer wardrobe, let’s commit to giving our daughters a gift. Let’s examine our clothing and change what does not reflect our true selves, be it short, tight or too open. Let us help our girls in their struggle by modeling that we do what is right even if it is less comfortable. That we care about Yiras Shamayim and that we mean what we say, that our Yiddishkeit and Chassidishkeit are the priority and the means to a healthy happy life Bgashmius and Bruchnius
May we have a healthy summer and in the Zchus of the Noshim Tzidkonios, may we spend this summer proudly with the Rebbe in Yerushalayim!