by COLlive reporter
A new shidduch initiative to help get Chabad singles married is being announced ahead of the special day of Tu B’Av.
The people behind it, whose identity is known to COLlive, asked to remain anonymous and are offering the same anonymity to the wider public if requested.
Here is their idea:
Young people in our community have Shidduch ideas – but will not pick up the phone and call a Shadchan at random. And they will certainly will not just call the parents of one side and suggest it.
(If you don’t relate to this and every time you think of a shidduch, you reach out to make sure both sides are aware of your idea, we thank you and you don’t need to keep reading.)
It can be awkward suggesting for your classmate the boy or girl you just dated.
It can uncomfortable to suggest the boy or girl sitting at the Shabbos table as a great match for your friend.
We know you keep pushing off asking your friend’s mother for his resume.
You don’t want anyone to be offended by your Shidduch idea or not take you seriously.
So if you ever hesitated to suggest a Shidduch we are here for you.
Enter The Anonymous Shadchan!
We are a group of young Lubavitchers couples who have decided to help generate as many shidduch ideas as possible.
Our goal is to make the process of suggesting a Shidduch simple, quick and most importantly: anonymous.
You don’t need anyone’s resume or phone numbers. All you need are two names and we will take care of the rest.
Step 1: Enter his name and her name. (Yes, that’s it!)
Step 2: Submit
We will take it from here and find out the contact info for both sides and make sure they hear that someone anonymously suggested an idea for them or their child.
We are in 2024 and the future of Shidduchim in the age of interconnectivity is in our hands.
Shadchanoim are doing their best, but there is far too many singles who aren’t receiving any suggestions at all . Something needs to change in order to help boost matches in our community.
As an added bonus, some generous and caring donors stepped forward, and are offering $500 to any match that is made through the anonymous Shadchan!
So make sure before you submit you save the ID number on the top of the page. That ID number will change every time you refresh the page or make a new submission!
We are confident that through the power of our community and the hearts of every individual hundred of matches will come from this!
Beautiful initiative!
http://www.shidduchcrisis.com/the-problem.html
I would love to see who the top suggested Shidduchim are.
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Shadchanim are not providing the average parents with names anymore! Only if the parents comes with a name, do the Shadchanim do anything about it.
http://www.shidduchcrisis.com/school-enrollment-graph.html
That is not true. Not sure where you’re getting that info from.
Almost of my shidduchim were my ideas, except maybe 1 or 2
Thank you for starting this initiative!!
I’ve had a few ideas in mind recently but wasn’t sure how to bring it further.
Thank you for this!!
What a great way to start Tu B’av!
May we always be busy celebrating simchas!
I’ve been waiting for an anonymous place to suggest Shidduchim
Gd bless you
May we hear good news
As a single in the system, I know all too well that it may be hard for a sister or brother to suggest close friends for a sibling. This is a super great opportunity for suggestions to be made more freely than ever before!
Thank you to the anonymous donors! I hope many shidduchim are made from this endeavor.
Sooo beautiful, hatzlacha!😘
Been done successfully for years in Md. for older girls(even when older than the boys!)
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Maryland
If somehow all Chabad Houses could open a channel of participation in this huge Mitzvah, it would help widen the horizons and definitely help to bring Moshiach closer Special in our days
I didn’t have to continue reading 😉
Grateful this will encourage others
it is so incredibly crucial for every member of Klal Yisroel to busy themselves with Shidduchim. Think of your classmates, relatives, Shul members, and the people you work with every day. If you are single, think of a friend for the person you went out with in the past. There is no room for being shy, awkward, or ashamed of making a suggestion.
Creative idea.
Thank you for setting this up!!
Why are we as a community satisfied with zero accountability with matchmakers?
Forget the quantifiable data readily available on broken engagements and divorces, now we are ok with “anonymous matchmakers”?
Guess no one cares for anyone else.
They are making a suggestion. YOU need to do all the research. YOU need to date and figure out if this is a good match, it’s not the shadchans fault if a couple decides to divorce 5 years later!!
They are patching it up with new ideas that barely last…
Like a wound. Instead of fixing the source they come up with oh but there is this solution and that solution etc…
How about the CONCLUSION: dont make a problem and then there would be no need for solutions at all! If everyone would be there for one another outright blunt, there would be no need for anonymous shatchan.
Hashem is the ultimate matchmaker. Let’s not forget that. While many of the ones in this world care more about the gelt than anything else.
We as a community haven’t been satisfied with the Shadchans for a while now and beautiful initiatives like this show that we are ready for change! It’s up to you everyone to do their own research whether an official Shadchan is involved or not (but most especially when an official one is involved because let’s face it…they are rarely honest). Wishing all the best with this!
Don’t know who you are.
A Single? A parent with kids to marry off but what chutzpah! Shadchonim work tirelessly and apparently thanklessly. You are always welcome to go out there and meet someone on your own or act as your own shadchonim.
Give a try ( commit to a year) of being a shadchonim . I don’t imagine you’d last a week.
love the idea. Zait mazliach. Bsuros tovos.
Great initiative!
Kol hakovod. Today is my hebrew bday and I Definity approve of this message.
Much success and brochos
This is a brilliant!
Thank you!
May u have a gut Mazel!!
I luv this initiative!!
Ty ty ty to all the anonymous pple!!
Moshiach NOW
This is also a good way for the singles themselves to submit suggestions for themselves. Haha, how cute!! May the ideas and brochos rain down.
Shiduchim are Hashem’s work, and surely He welcomes this added initiative to whateverhonest effort is already going on to create shiduchim. Everyone, in their own way should be a shadchan, to help Hashem increase the number of beautiful families to be biult. Moshiach Now!!
Who is running this? Who is backing this and ensuring this is legit who is holding this accountable
Why does someone need to be held accountable?
Each family will do their own research
The singles are the ones that will decide if they’ll actually date
Are they just going to charge the family an extra $500 shadchonus gelt to offset the anonymous suggested? On thr one hand seems like a great idea amdnon the other hand seems like a way for a shadchan to get all the business for themselves
Thank you! Great idea!
I went out with someone a few times and realized he wasnt for me but knew the perfect match for him.
I suggested it and was ignored at first but the couple did end up marrying when a shadchan finally suggested it. They have children and grand children now
http://www.shidduchcrisis.com/math-explanation.html
Hashem is in charge. This math is pure nonsense!
you clearly are not single and that’s how you can say that
Agreed. Ridiculous.
Since we are maaminim, lets not obfuacate and mix things up.
This is an incredible initiative. As an “older single” I am so grateful.
Shidduch House already has an anonymous form for suggesting shidduchim. Useful for the person suggesting to be anonymous (maybe you dated the subject before and don’t want it coming from you etc etc).
Why would someone approach this anonymous new initiative over the established shadchanim who do their best and can probably be trusted more? At least they have the guts to put their name out there…
What’s their link? How is it anonymous?
You might need a plan if more than one person suggests the same idea, unless you plan to pay each submitter separately if it works. Yasher Koach and Hatzlachah Rabbah!!
Beautiful! Tizku limitzvos!