By F. Scheinfeld
You said that they can depend on you, you hugged them and cried for them, you took on mitzvos… So what else can you do?
This year, Rachmana L’Tzlan, there are numerous boys and young men in the Crown Height community, and members of Anash around the world, saying Kaddish for a parent. Each of them, according to Chabad custom, lead their own minyan for Shacharis, Mincha and Maariv. Every weekday.
If you are not in such a position, Baruch Hashem, I implore you to offer the greatest support these guys need: send your boys to be a dependable part of (at least one of) their minyanim, every single day.
If your husband is the type to daven from home, or even to float into shul at a random time to catch a minyan- think about the families who’ve lost their husbands and fathers; men whose own wives and mothers sometimes send them out to ‘catch’ a Maariv and wonder if they will see them in fifteen minutes, or in three hours.
If you are broken-hearted for your friend, think about the minutes and hours he waits, late to work, frustrated that he cannot find that ninth guy.
From the depths of your sorrow for their loss, your true empathy for their situation, and your desire to do a mitzvah to elevate the neshama of their departed, make a commitment to stand by your friend, your neighbor, your comrade-in-yidishkeit, and join his minyan.
So call him up. Today. Right now. Pick up the phone and say, ‘Hey, friend, what time are your minyanim? Because you can count on me for that one, every day. I feel your pain. You can depend on me.’
May we know no more sorrow.