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Your Rabbi Isn’t A Psychic

A conference call with relationship counselor Rabbi Shais Taub will discuss how to prepare for a conversation with your rabbi so you can get the assistance and direction you are hoping for. Full Story

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To #2
March 21, 2017 5:29 pm

That is not always the case. If one is abusive and controlling, his input should not be solicited. He will become infuriated that she talked about it and might hurt her worse.

#2 you are correct
March 21, 2017 12:47 pm

plus the one who counsels the couple shouldn’t be too friendly with either spouse because the counselor might be biased towards one or the other so instead they should go to a neutral third party mashpia.

"...when the Rabbi gives the wrong advice..."
March 21, 2017 10:30 am

Whenever any rabbi or marriage therapist hears only from one side, and then dispenses advise, this can potentially be downright destructive. Before asking for, or accepting game-changing guidance, there is little to lose by ensuring that the input of the other spouse has been solicited, and carefully considered as well..

At a minimum
March 20, 2017 1:06 pm

Every Rav, Rabbi, Mashpia should read the classic “Shame Born in Silence” by Rabbi Avraham Twersky. His daughter-in-law. Lisa Twersky, has also written very important books & articles on the tragic topic of marital abuse in frum homes. Until everyone who counsels couples admits that they need to study the topic themselves & becomes knowleagable about the manipulative ways of abusers, no conference is going to fix anything. There should be mandatory training in domestic abuse counseling for all who are involved in this. They may be kind and well-meaning but you wouldn’t go to a podiatrist to pull your… Read more »

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