Your rabbi is capable, knowledgeable, compassionate, and genuinely concerned about you. But one thing he isn’t – he isn’t psychic.
Of course, your rabbi (and mashpia) is available to listen and speak with you about all matters in your life. But you can’t just hope that somehow he will divine your reason for asking for a consultation and then offer appropriate help.
All too often, Rabbis have best intentions to be helpful, but they just cannot be – they simply don’t know enough about the situation. As a result, everyone becomes frustrated and disappointed. Even worse is when the rabbi gives the wrong advice, something that might bring more harm and stress. Most often it is because vital details have not been disclosed.
Sharing the nuanced details may not feel so comfortable, but it is crucial in order to get appropriate assistance and guidance. This Wednesday, via conference call, Rabbi Shais Taub, noted rabbi, relationship counselor and author of the popular “Ask the rabbi” column in the Ami magazine, will discuss how to prepare for a conversation with your rabbi so you can get the assistance and direction you are hoping for.
“Recently, rabbis and mashpiim/os are educating themselves about how to counsel in areas of shalom bayis and domestic abuse. To be effective, they need those who come to them to share all pertinent information, and hence this important call with Rabbi Taub,” said Mrs. Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad.
The conference call will be on March 22, 2017 at 8:45 PM Eastern Time. To join, call 641-552-9123. Access code: 256965
You can send in your questions anonymously before, during and after the call to www.adaiad.org/ask-anonymous-question
This call is brought to the community by Crown Heights Jewish Community Council, Adai Ad and Shalom Taskforce. It is part of a series of workshops and education organized by the Crown Heights Jewish Community Council under a grant by the New York City Council Domestic Violence Initiative awarded by Council Member Matthieu Eugene.