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Wednesday, 18 Elul, 5782
  |  September 14, 2022

“Your Baby is Not Compatible with Life…”

Mrs. Chani Fishman (nee Greenberg) of Clifton, New Jersey shares the incredible story of her baby’s birth. It began with a doctor telling her: "Your baby is not compatible with life…” Full Story

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That is such an amazing story.
August 13, 2022 9:26 pm

That must have been so incredibly difficult. And so challenging. Thank you for sharing your story and giving chizuk to those who need it, and for sharing in the incredible life that was Chaim Rafael.

So inspiring
August 13, 2022 9:54 pm

Your Emunah gives me courage!

So powerful
August 13, 2022 10:12 pm

May hashem bless you with lots of healthy children. And lots of chasidishe nachas !

Mishulam
Reply to  So powerful
August 22, 2022 12:12 am

Amen, May Hashem Complete you, Mishulam could be the name! Bless you for your tremendous bitachon!

Thank you
August 13, 2022 10:18 pm

For this lesson on the value of life and unconditional love.

WOW!!
August 13, 2022 11:30 pm

Shavua Tov!
Thank you for sharing and inspiring me! Thank you Bais Rivkah Embrace for putting out a magazine which such meaningful heartfelt articles

Needed to read this
August 14, 2022 12:05 am

This article really resonates with me especially the Modeh Ani part that Hashem believes in me as I am going through a challenging time in my life and feeling lonely

Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 12:12 am

Thank you Collive for posting this and thank you Mrs Fishman for sharing your story. I wish someone had told me when I was pregnant with a trisomy 18 baby that some neshamas are perfect and have a short mission to fulfill. I terminated my pregnancy and live with guilt to this very day that I interfered with G-d’s destiny.

To thank u
Reply to  Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 12:43 am

There is no one size fits all. Each case is unique. A psak in one case does not mean the same decision would have been given in your situation. I strongly suggest 1. And I am sure Rabbi Ulman would agree that no decision by an individual going forward should be taken based on this article 2. In your situation i suggest you speak to a competent Rov who deals in these issues. I believe that it will help in how you are dealing with your very difficult decision u made From A dayan and rov in our community (I… Read more »

Sending hugs
Reply to  Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 12:44 am

Sending you hugs don’t feel guilty this is what hashem wanted for your babies neshama

Hashgacha Protis
Reply to  Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 1:58 am

Whatever past, was meant to be. No need for guilt. For the future, when something out of the norm arises, always consult a Rav.

that WAS g-ds destiny
Reply to  Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 2:51 am

Its not possible to interfere with Hashems destiny. Hashem planned that this baby would solely fulfill its mission in utero, including if you had a heter from a Rav. Remember: something you can choose in the future is bechira chofshis. Something that happened in the past is Hashgacha Pratis and meant to have happened. Regret over mistakes at specific times (when making a cheshbon nefesh) is healthy and part of Teshuvah. Guilt is unhealthy and from the yetzer hara. It takes a lot of time and effort to internalize and live these messages. It might be helpful to talk to… Read more »

Please don't feel guilty.
Reply to  Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 4:34 am

You made a decision which was right for you at the time.

Don't feel guilty
Reply to  Thank you Collive
August 14, 2022 5:01 pm

I Unfortunately know someone close who proceeded with the pregnancy hoping for a miracle that never came.

The mother never recovered, other children were essentially raised motherless. On top of essentially being a single father the dad was left with large debt and a great financial burden. The rest of the children suffer greatly with long term consequences.

There is no one size fits all, some cases the family comes out stronger and some cases they are destroyed.

The only certain is we need moshiach so no one should ever have to make this decision again.

Thank you
August 14, 2022 12:28 am

What a beautiful beautiful baby. How your daughter just adored him. He certainly was most compatible with life!

Thanks for sharing
August 14, 2022 12:36 am

Chani and michoel you are a true inspiration
only good news moving forward !
DRS

Please publicize more
August 14, 2022 1:15 am

Please continue to publicize your story. There has to be more of an awareness of G-d in this country both in the beginning of life in the womb and what seems to be the end of life decisions. May your baby’s short life save many others.
And may Moshiach come now and you be reunited once again.

Thank you
August 14, 2022 1:59 am

Tearing while reading this article. Thank you for publicizing and sharing your story. May you be forever strong, and merit to hold your boy once more with moshiach

What a Story
August 14, 2022 5:08 am

Thank you for sharing

What a story and what a lesson

May we all take it to heart

Beautiful family
August 14, 2022 7:56 pm

Love you Chani – you are the strongest mother I know <3

May you be reunited so soon
August 15, 2022 12:28 am

This was so beautifully written. I am in awe of the strength of this family and the beautiful neshama Chaim Rafael is. May you be reunited very soon.

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