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Women Meet for “After Class”

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yay brachah
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yay brachah

way to go brachah!!

BEAUTIFUL
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BEAUTIFUL

THE HOUSE WAS WARM AND BEAUTIFUL !!!!!!!
A PLEASURE BEING THERE

balaboostas
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balaboostas

if us ch women could join without needing to going thru our yichus and wait a month that would be appreciated..

hey brachalina!
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hey brachalina!

great stuff ur organizing – we’re so proud of you! love your (sort of) neighbors:)

unofficial?
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unofficial?

how come i didnt know abt this?

tread carefully
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tread carefully

Careful women before running to sign up to this forum.
Of course its a wonderful place that women can turn to for support, kol hakaod.
But Make sure u know that just by reading the forum, women are suddenly comparing their intimate lives with hundreds of anonymous women from all spectrums of Judaism.

thank you Bracha Bard-Wigdor!
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thank you Bracha Bard-Wigdor!

A great event is not surprising, considering how amazing the Balaboostas forum is for married women. Keep up the great work! Much hatzlacha.

can we get a recording of the evening?
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can we get a recording of the evening?

thanks

informative!
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informative!

the talk was so informative I can’t thank you enough for providing me/us this information and making this event, thank you!!!

balaboostas.com and bracha are amazing!
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balaboostas.com and bracha are amazing!

Couldn’t b there but can’t wait til the next one!

not necessarily kosher
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not necessarily kosher

not everything posted is halachically verified, quite the contrary!
The evening was probably more appropriate, but the online forum/website is not moderated by any proper authority, anyone posts what they feel, and if someone tries to say anything more kosher, it is not allowed on

THANK YOU
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THANK YOU

Thank you Bracha for doing what no one else is in CH!!

to commenter who is still waiting to be accepted into balaboostas, make sure you fill out the form in its entirety. we dont care about yichus, only to make sure that real women are admitted into the site!

go balaboostas and bracha
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go balaboostas and bracha

Sruli from toronto

are there any
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are there any

are there any rabbanic endorsements for this site?

against halacha
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against halacha

many of my friends were kicked off that site after sticking up for halacha. maybe the administartor felt threatened?

An old chevrusa from MRC
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An old chevrusa from MRC

Way to go Rivkah!!!

a rabbi is needed
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a rabbi is needed

a proper rabbi is needed to supervise some of the discussions in the group… halachically questionable (most definatly hashkafically questionable!!!)

workshop was great but...
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workshop was great but...

the workshop was informative and presented in a tzniyus’dike and aidel fashion. however, I would not encourage women to join balaboostas.com. I personally know several women who presented to others a more ruchniyus’dike side to issues being discussed, and since it was too “right winged”, they were knocked off the forum. while a forum might be an outlet for some, a woman who wants to do things with a lichatchila approach should think twice before signing up.

balaboostas.com
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balaboostas.com

although a forum is needed by many, I wish that ALL of the advice and opinions were backed by lubavitcher RABONIM and not just Rabbi Shea Hecht. Like this, women can know what is really acceptable and what is a heter

to #19
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to #19

It isn’t a website only for lubavitchers so why does it need a Lubavitch Rav?

Also, I haven’t heard of anyone getting kicked off the site for being too frum

Bracha rocks and so does Balaboostas.com!!

I can't speak for the intimacy lecture but...
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I can't speak for the intimacy lecture but...

I can speak for balaboostas. I have been on balaboostas pretty much since it started. There is nothing to do with yichus in regards to who can and can’t join. Additionally, there is no one that I know of who got kicked off due to “sticking up” for halacha and lastly, it clearly states all over balaboostas that no one should take any advice as psak or therapeutic advice. To those of you being nasty, please verify the sources for your lies. There are real people behind this site and who are on it including myself and what you are… Read more »

questionable?
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questionable?

I am someone who is considered right wing. I have stuck up for halacha and hashkafa on balaboostas.com and was never kicked off/ asked to leave…. you do need to brace yourself for those who lean to the opposite side and if you compare your life to others the site is not for you but there is a lot of positive there too and definitely a nice feel of community. If you want a site for only chassidishe women, start it but this site is not bad as some of the commenters seem to make it out to be.

great site
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great site

Balaboostas is an informative forum for people to nicely share their advice and experience. It does not present itself as the be it and and all of halacha – in fact the ‘editor” of the site always refers people to rabanim for halachic questions. That being said, sometimes people that voice their opinions in not-nice matters get asked to leave for hurting peoples feelings.

response
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response

What if diff rabbis opinions differ regarding halacha and heter? What if one rav says no heter is needed? Should each ask her own rav? Isn’t this site a great place for people to discuss what they have learned and share, esp if someone is hesitant to call a rav? Sounds like the event was great and informative.

Rochie Korolitsky?
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Rochie Korolitsky?

did she speak? MC?

Love my balaboostas friends !!
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Love my balaboostas friends !!

When you sit with your friends and discuss different topics do you call a rav to sit with you too ?? So take it as that , it’s a group of friends discussing different topics but all are sitting on different couches around the world …

Hope to see many more like this.
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Hope to see many more like this.

Wow awesome event. So important.

Benefits yes- but a healthy system?
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Benefits yes- but a healthy system?

No doubt a site like this has numerous benefits, and the creator is well intentioned, however I think there is a bit of an unhealthy dynamic in terms of having a non-professional take so much control and responsibility over the lives of others (eg: having all sorts of vulnerable people reveal their identities in private correspondence etc)- it is worrying and unhealthy even if mostly well meaning. A service of this magnitude really needs a transparent system of thoroughly trained and experienced professionals, rather than being in the hands of one individual. Additionally, just wondering if all the women who… Read more »

@26
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@26

Such a good analogy! And I <3 my balaboostas friends too!

The site has been amazing for me. I live in a town without many Jews and even fewer frum ones. Balaboostas has given me people to talk to and friends that are amazing. Even if I dont see eye to eye with everyone always I am never mad or angry at differing opinions. This forum is moderated beautifully and if anyone says anything hurtful it is deleted immediately! It is a much needed site and I am truly thankful for it!

amazing site!
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amazing site!

There is always going to be those few people who speak negatively about something because they labeled themselves “frumer” than everyone else.
Balaboostas.com is such a beautiful way of woman connecting to each other . If someone has a question that is beyond our halachic grasp, of course we would tell them to speak to higher authority.. its not a random forum like yahoo.com. Women give their meaning, friendly and comforting input so please keep the Motzei Shem Rah to yourself.

#28 agree completely
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#28 agree completely

There is something very dangerous when people think they are going someplace for support and guidance and no one is trained to provide that. If you want to share recipes and discuss how to keep your toddler entertained, great! But when it comes to serious issues of depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues, these women are way too vulnerable and naive and should NOT be allowed to get their advice from this site. They should be immediately referred to a professional. Saying that it is stated does not help. They do not need opinions and advice from well intentioned… Read more »

Please stop bashing Balaboostas
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Please stop bashing Balaboostas

To all those who THINK they know how the site works unless you are on there you don’t know. Bracha verifies EACH WOMAN that applies to the website to make they are a real jewish woman which ales a lot of time and effort. She also provides as much knowledge that we can on a topic and will site sources as needed. No one on the site can give 100% medical or halachic advice in threads advice can be given based on personal experience but it is ALWAYS advised to ask a rav/ doctor Balaboostas is a great way to… Read more »

Negative posters have never been on Balaboostas
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Negative posters have never been on Balaboostas

…because if they have, they would know that Balaboostas has NOTHING to do with your religious affiliation! If you are a married Jewish woman then that is enough. So please stop with the ‘yichus’ talk. Bracha goes through every application and doesn’t accept someone until she knows for a fact that it’s a Jewish married woman. No one ever tells people what is ok and no ok to do. People will say whether they got a heter for certain things but will always mention that you have to ask your own rav. If it wasn’t clarified that the moderators will… Read more »

Mashpia & Mekabel
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Mashpia & Mekabel

All you need is some Mashpia & Mekabel

http://11213.org/tag/mashpia-mekabel/

Don’t settle. Beyond just acceptable – ideal intimacy

no different to straight Halacha refresher classes
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no different to straight Halacha refresher classes

I have attended many refresher classes by recognised established Lubavitcher kalla teachers WITH NO RAV SUPERVISING HER! Afterwards I have ALWAYS been left with some confusion and sheilas, gone to a rav and been told ‘she told you something wrong. ‘ Of course, I could have misunderstood her. But the bottom line is, after things like this, if you are in doubt, go to your own rav with your new piece of information that you want to use, no matter where it comes from, be it Rebbetzin….or anywhere else.

motzi shem ra
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motzi shem ra

i read all of the comments and i see that there are women who really like the website and feel that they are being helped by it and feel that they are part of the community. as much as those women are being helped, i don’t think that it’s appropriate to tell those who talk about some “red flags” that they should stop talking motzi shem ra, and to “get off their high horse”. it says: “klal yisroel areivin zeh lozeh”. all jews are responsible for one another, and if one sees another in danger, they should try to help… Read more »

support team and innumerable mitzvos
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support team and innumerable mitzvos

Balaboostas is a support team. We have people on there who we daven for. The is a tehillim list. Do you even know how many kapitals of tehillim were said and how many loves have been helped. There was a mother who asked us to please say tehillim for her newborn who was in nicu and two days later he was home. Another woman needed help finding a mohel for a cousins baby who would otherwise have been circumcised by a regular Dr instead of a mohel, and guess what? The baby got a proper bris. This website is full… Read more »

Balaboostas is Awesome!
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Balaboostas is Awesome!

A lot of the comment on here about Balaboostas are making me sick. Let me clarify a few things for you: 1) When you comment anonymously, the moderator has NO way to see who you are, it is completely private. 2) When you sign up, you have to give a lot of personal info to ensure that there are no fakers or men on the website, which makes it more PRIVATE, not less. 3) The ONLY people that get kicked off the forum are the ones that are being outright disrespectful or aren’t following the rules. There is more, but… Read more »

I LOVE BALABOOSTAS!
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I LOVE BALABOOSTAS!

Great website, nice and tznius. Bracha always makes sure to modify the comments to make sure they are not inappropriate.

Warning
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Warning

“Some of the material in this section may not be suitable for all viewers. Please continue only if you are comfortable viewing such material. This internet service does not preclude, override or replace the P’sak of any Rabbinical authority. It also does not give Heterim or P’sak Torah of any kind. Always consult your local Halachic authority.” This is clearly stated every time someone writes/posts or to even look at the thread. For all you misinformed people, don’t bash something if you don’t have your facts straight. Balsboostas is an amazing, safe, supportive, and loving community for women of all… Read more »

GO, Rivka!!
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GO, Rivka!!

Rivka, We are so proud of you!
Missing you at Mayanot, Dina H.

to # 28
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to # 28

I am not here to point out if the website is good or not that is for each one to decide on their own but i will point out some facts 1) When you comment anonymously, the moderator has A way to see who you are, it is completely NOT private. this is the case with any website, it WAS private when it was on Facebbok 2) When you sign up, you have to give a lot of personal info to ensure that there are no fakers or men on the website, – you can do this with half the… Read more »

Do you really think we are that dumb?
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Do you really think we are that dumb?

Do you really think that a woman is so susceptible to being influenced by advice? Do you really believe that we are so dumb that we can’t tell bad advice from good? Come on people, if you can’t handle it stay away, but the rest of us can deal with talking with no danger. For those who think that discussing intimacy is not allowed- you should realize how dangerous that approach is. Do you not want your children to tell you if they are abused in some way? Do you not want someone to trust you if they need sensitive… Read more »

Truth about the forum
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Truth about the forum

I’ve seen the forum and see what goes on and I just want to say that all these haters haven’t been on the forum because if you were on it you would see that no one gets kicks off because someone doesn’t like them. And if I don’t want to read something then I won’t read it!! I can’t stand how people are saying its a bad place and has horrible things on it. You don’t even know what there!!! And for all of you who think that the admin and moderators know who is writing under anonymous should ask… Read more »

JUST WONDERING
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JUST WONDERING

I am not a member of the site and was not at this session. I was a very happily married women until Hashem took my husband back. But I am extremely bothered by the total lack of tznius amongst our young married women whose husbands seem to enjoy walking down the street with their wives dressed so immodest. do we have to copy the goyim all the way? It scares me to think that this lack of tznius could be the cause of some of the tragic deaths we’ve recently suffered of wonderful young people. You don’t need a website… Read more »

!!!!
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!!!!

I CANNOT BELIEVE WHAT I AM HEARING!!! SINCE WHEN DO WE SHARE OUR INTIMATE LIVES WITH OTHER PEOPLE!!???? ANONYMOUS… NOT ANYNYMOUS… WHAT HAS THIS WORLD COME TO??!!
AND THAT PEOPLE HAVE NO SHAME AND ACT AS IF IT IS COMPLETELY NORMAN??!!
THIS REQUIRES MUCH EXPLANATION.

This is great
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This is great

Idiot. It is important to share intimate details. Too many of normal marital struggles become exacerbated by their being hidden. Women need a place to acquire information. It is also so lovely for others to know they aren’t alone. Congrats to all the collaborators and organizers. I am so happy.

Freedom of speech y'all
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Freedom of speech y'all

I’ve been reading the above comments with interest. I’ve noticed that all comments presenting sincere opinions which indicate that the website has its possible drawbacks are immediately responded to from a supporter of the website in a manner which is decidedly aggressive and sounds more like a personal tirade. Citing an opinion that differs from yours does not make someone a ‘motzei shem rah’. When you attack people who present what they consider to be ‘red flags’ to the website, instead of responding in a calm and polite manner, you are behaving in an overly defensive way which implies that… Read more »

To those of you who are putting down Balaboostas
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To those of you who are putting down Balaboostas

You’ve obviously never been on the site. Bracha moderates the site beautifully and professionally. She doesn’t claim to be a halachic or medical authority. Its a place for frum women to get together and chat and share ideas and discussions. There may be some women who say negative things and put down others but those things can just as well happen in real life when women get together and talk, and Bracha does a great job of moderating the discussions. It is one of the most positive, uplifting, refreshing forums out there for frum women. She also verifies that every… Read more »

to 47
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to 47

with all due respect… not much unfortunately.. but all that i do have. you are the idiot here. do u REALIZE what you are saying?”it is important to SHARE INTIMATE details” First of all, if you are sharing it, it means that it never was intimate. and definately once you share your private life with others, it is stil intimate. i dont think that people realize that sharing things that are meant to be private, sacred, beutuiful, takes the sacredness, beauty, and privacy out of intimacy… and if you feel that you honestly need help, i dont fel that this… Read more »

Seriously?!?!?
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Seriously?!?!?

If you don’t like it, don’t go on!

And by the way, abuse, depression – you name it – are REAL issues that are affecting REAL marriages. You can ignore them and say they are figments of the imagination or whatever but it doesn’t change the facts. I think it is great that Jewish women can come together and discuss these very important issues. If you do not approve, do not join!

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