Let me cut to the chase – dating is stressful and sometimes overwhelming. I like to give it my whole, but sometimes there is too much fluff in the dating scene. My intentions are to eliminate the cloudy part and bring back the simple and efficient way to go about dating.
I do acknowledge the benefits to the traditional date – which entails a night out, get a drink, dress all fancy and schmooze like you’ve never met a girl before – like: everyone gives their best first impression, we all dress our best, and it is so much more “serious”.
We have to realize that there are a few major set-backs with this new standard to dating. Sometimes, I am not able to do the research required to consider going on a [insert English accent] proper shidduch date, or I don’t have the mental and/or emotional energy for the classic date which requires a minimum 4 hours, likely because I had a long day at work, thus can delay and possibly eliminate potential matches.
Yes, yes. I know, If you don’t give it a whole 4-hour first date, (and courtesy date which is almost a standard if you’re a nice guy), then how can you expect to get married?
My answer: A coffee date. That IS me giving it my all. I respect your time as a girl, (along with how long It takes to get dressed up for a classic date) and I don’t want this to be an emotional or physical drag on either of us, so why go that route when we can take some stress away while keeping it efficient and respectable.
Now, if we have a pleasant coffee date (which BTW Is no more than 2 hours), I would be happy to take this further onto a traditional date.
Let me know your thoughts.