By anonymous
(Unless op-ed writers begin stating their real names, I ask COLlive to keep my identity private. I will say that I am a teacher in a large Chabad girls school and both of my parents are long-time educators.)
I have been unsettled since reading the op-ed titled “Who Is Worrying For OUR Children?” questioning the sustainability of a frum lifestyle. Unsettled is really an understatement. I am troubled that my children will be raised in a world where someone can publicly contradict the Rebbe’s directives, on a Chabad website, and not be challenged. And so I write.
I would like to start by pointing out that not once in your entire article is there any mention of Hashem, the One whose commandments define what you call “a frum lifestyle” and upon whom we rely on to help us sustain our families.
You write: “As Chasidim we all do our best, we sacrifice a lot just to be mekusher to the Rebbe. But I feel it’s a 2 way street, if we keep our end of the deal and have a large family, we keep our kids from going to anything but a yeshiva “al taharas hakodesh”, there should be a central organization that supports our lifestyle…”
The two way deal is with Hashem, who gave you the children. The Rebbe has said that we can trust Hashem to sustain our growing families, just like He sustains all of His creatures.
You bring up an excellent point of the ever increasing unaffordability of tuition. Your analysis however is less than accurate. For starters, private school tuition is expensive; it has nothing to do with “a Chabad lifestyle.” In fact, the tuition at Chabad schools is less than most in the frum world, which are easily over ten thousand dollars a year at the elementary level.
Secondly, I would like to address the underlying attitude of your arguments. You simply do not value the beauty and the privilege of raising children to follow the ways of the Nasi Hador. You do not have to send your children to a Chabad school; it is your privilege to send your child to the Rebbe’s mosdos.
Your insinuation that an imaginary “Central Corporate Chabad” holds the responsibility of “perpetuating” Chabad to the next generation explains why you expect Mesivtas and seminaries to be free. Children will only carry on the values that their parents valued. When we expect things to be free, it is a reflection of the value we associate with that item or service. Thankfully we do not have to risk our lives to give our children a proper Chinuch. Mesiras Nefesh that parents have for Chinuch will surely be rewarded by Hashem.
What you value makes you rich. If you value money, lots of money will make you rich. If you value healthy, happy, frum children, then as many children as Hashem gives you will make you rich. Look around this crazy world and see how lucky you are to be raising kids according to the Rebbe’s vision, and then look at your beautiful healthy children, and you will recognize the millionaire status that Hashem has bestowed upon you.
Now, I would like to address certain points you bring up:
Firstly, your suggestion of limiting a family’s number of children as a solution to anything is very disturbing. Anything that directly contrasts the Rebbe’s words is obviously not a solution. What would you tell a person who wanted to work on Shabbos in order to pay his bills? There is BH “an Aibershter af der velt,” and if He gives us children, He will find a way for us to sustain them. We don’t have children because of what you write, that people will say “oysh, nebach, I bet they have some health problems, we should daven for them,” or “they are so modern, we should talk to their mashpiah.”
Children are the greatest blessing that Hashem can bestow upon a couple. It is true that raising children uses all our physical, emotional, intellectual and monetary reserves. Can you tell me a better way to use our strengths and money?
Secondly, Shluchim and Baalei Tshuva have nothing to do with the tuition crisis. If anything, Shluchim struggle more with tuition, as many have to send their children away from home at a young age, and have the extra costs of airfare and room and board to pay for (to Crown Heights families!)
In addition, many schools do not have a Shluchim discount. If they do, the Shluchim are paying the full discounted price, unlike “regular” Lubavitchers that can easily drag out payment for years.
Your allegation that Shluchim are draining the coffers of Chabad is erroneous and inflammatory. The majority of Chabad House funds come from the very communities they serve. Obviously there are families who choose to give their ma’aser to their relatives on Shlichus. There are HUNDREDS of other organizations that raise thousands of dollars every year from WITHIN the community, including schools, camp scholarship funds, hatzalah, special needs organizations (other than Friendship Circle), organizations that help the poor, infertile couples, and the list goes on.
People have a right to donate their money where they want to. Some people chose not to give a dime to Shluchim. I am sure that if a credible tuition organization was started, they would also be able to raise thousands of dollars every year, without forbidding families to donate to their relatives on Shlichus.
In regard to your complaint of “little or no programming funds, resources, or attention paid to ‘regular’ Lubavitchers,” I would also like to bring to your attention the amazing work of organizations like JEM and Chayolei Tzivos Hashem that raise thousands of dollars a year for the sake of our communities.
JEM’s tremendous Living Torah collection is a must for every Chabad home (Rabbonim have actually said you can use ma’aser to pay for these videos) and Chayalei Tzivos Hashem (which is specifically geared to Lubavitch children) has done wonders to create a first class program to encourage children to act like a Chassid should, including a full color glossy monthly newsletter, high tech miles system and fantastic prizes.
(As a side, JEM and Chayolei Tzivos Hashem are recipients of the generosity of the Rohr family whose tzedakah started out with a single Chabad House and has benefited all of Chabad, so frankly, your theory does not quite add up.)
Third, your comparison of Chabad to other Chassidic communities leaves much to be desired. I am not familiar with the tuition systems in other communities; however I would discourage you from comparing apples to oranges.
In other frum communities, parents incur the tremendous pressure and expense of setting up a young couple with a fully furnished home (including dining room set and bedroom set) and/or supporting a young couple for one or more years. The parent’s ability to afford these expenses often dictates the type of shidduch their children will have, something which is BH far from the norm in Chabad.
Fourth, your suggestion of creating institutions to help people, who will not be going out on Shlichus, to find a Parnassa is not a new one. In fact there are many frum institutions that offer accredited courses, to both men and women, for training in various careers. There is no need to begin career counseling “at the age of 14.”
As for controlling the tuition crisis, you are 100% right that something must be done. However, it as much as the schools should be making an effort to make tuition more affordable, parents must also be willing to set their priorities straight. Schools and donors are wary of parents who want a break in tuition, while splurging on other expensive items.
I remember hearing a story about Rabbi Shmuel Spalter who was interviewed by a TV reporter who questioned him about his ability to afford private school tuition for his nine children on a modest income. Rabbi Spalter answered “It’s tough, we have to make sacrifices and really prioritize, but a Jewish education is our number one priority!” The reporter was taken aback.
“Number one priority? What about bread and butter, would you sacrifice that for a Jewish education?” Rabbi Spalter calmly replied, “Not bread, but butter!”
When you appreciate a Chabad education as the bread of your children’s lives, you would be willing to sacrifice the butter.
That said, parents should choose representatives to approach Merkos L’Inyonei Chinuch to create a tuition branch that will work with both the schools and the parent representatives to create a viable tuition system and create a scholarship fund to help families offset the huge costs of tuition.
Finally, we must all be thankful to Hashem who gives us the opportunity to spend our money to educate our children al taharas hakodesh. It is parents, who are responsible for the Chinuch of their children, but we need not worry, Hashem is looking out for our children, “un der Rebbe bleibt nisht kein ba’al chov.”
i really dont think you understand..
I wholeheartedly agree with your comment and shocked that so many people believe that such a burden should be placed on families that choose idealistically to have so many children dont get help from the actual institutions that encourage large families.We all know it is a brocho to have many kids but having bitachon alone doesnt bring money in to your bank account.The way the school heads run the schools in CH its a an absolute shame on them for not saying “we should have bitachon in hashem that He will provide for us”people should stop being sheep,we live in… Read more »
great job. Thanks for taking the time to write it.
both letters have their merits.however the second commentry from a rebbi has some facts which need to be brought to his attention which had some facts which were slightly not correct,and i guess it could also be directed at the first letter.A little knoen fact is that although out of town pays shluchims rate they also have to pay over thei pellgrant to the yeshiva and in the case of caifornia alsi the cal grant..today these amounts add up to at least between $9000 and as much as $1200 which also means if the bocher wants to go to school… Read more »
“school run by Chabad so the kids can learn how to read and write”
There’s something called being sarcastic… its pretty sad u couldent tell.
I;m told there is an established community not far from Crown Heights, where housing is in the range of $125,000-$350,000 for a mansion. Nice people, the Chabad community is growing by a few families a year, they say it’s up and coming, and it’s commutable to NYC by train. I am looking into it, They have a school run by Chabad so the kids can learn how to read and write, and there is also a girls high school, and a mesivta and beis medrash with little or no politics.
does anyone know anything about it?
i didnt read the previous article, but this one struck a chord in me. i will NEVER forget the humiliating letter brought home by my child “your child can not come to school to morrow until the tuition has been paid”. i was a single parent working for a chabad institution. my daughter, was out of school for two weeks. her grandmother who wasn’t religious, was surprised that this was happening.,she gave us all the money. was this the solution? The school admin had heard i was traveling for the yom tovim, so they felt “if i had money to… Read more »
The way I remember it, he responded; “about the bread I cannot answer until I am tested with it, the jewish education surly goes before the butter”.
Thank you for this articale. Many of the responses take on the fact that it did not answer totaly the question of tuition but the point of the articale was to bring the discussion back to “our” values, unzer shprach. You can discuss and look for solutions for the high tuitions but you cannot publish articales which go against our values.
To bring down less Yiddishe neshomos to the world (unless it’s a health problem) is helping Hitler, yimach shemo, continue what he started!!!!
We can look for possible solutions, but to prevent yiddishe neshomos to be born??!!!! What a shmeful solution!
I don’t want to be poor and never be able to go anywhere or buy my family nice clothes and new shoes and never invite shabbos guests because all o my money goes to tuition. What kind of life is that! Stuck in the city with no money to travel or take my kids to amusement parks or make them birthday parties! Unfortunately I do consider that when it comes to having more children. I have 4 kids thank gd and my tuition is 28,000$ a year! There’s not much left to live out all the other aspects of life!… Read more »
i agree with 55 completely, because its these chabad lite people who are behind the first op. ed., in which this is a response to, because they say “we cant afford to pay” and “have so many kids” etc. and “follow the rebbe because its too expensive” and saying “oh make funds”. so what were saying is you make these funds you raise the money etc. and also what he was saying is, be a chossid and realize that the only way to do so is try to bring moshiach which will solve all your problems. and i like what… Read more »
Yesterdays administrators were shluchim, and cared for each and every child; today’s administrators have jobs and careers. They care about the bottom line and having a 9-5 job. End of story.
Maybe if everyone would stop spending Maaser on things like JEM and such programs, there would be more Tzedaka for our schools?! Just a thought. Boy, people’s priorities are skewed. How in the world can JEM be bought with Maaser?? Either you can afford such a program or you can’t! If everyone gave 10% of their salary to their kids’ schools (after all everyone has to give Maaser no matter how much they make) – the tuitions would be covered. That should be the first Tzedaka priority.
What a patronizing article! It really ignores the pain of those that are struggling. The first article, expressed what is true for many of us. You may not like it, but that doesn’t change the facts for us. I’m sick and tired of being told that parents need to have Bitachon. I think the schools should have Bitachon! Take what I can afford for tuition and have Bitachon that Hashem will send the school the rest! By the way, that does not mean simply charging me more because of others that don’t pay their bill! Raise money for those that… Read more »
Is great in ideology, but let’s be real. That is not going to pay your bills. You have to make smart decisions concerning your monetary situation and your max for kids. Being in debt because G-d will help with your 12 children is quite ridiculous. Hashem does not want you to live in poverty. Most people cannot MENTALLY handle that many children. Hashem does not want you to be overwhelmed, emotionally drained to the breaking point…that is not what will aid you in your avodas Hashem. That is not the point of living a frum life. The people who can… Read more »
I just think it’s rather hilarious that everyone who disagrees with the “education before marriage” idea can’t spell and has terrible grammar.
That is my 10 cents to this article.
The last time I told Oholei Torah to have bitachon that hashem will send in the tuition money, I was told to jump in the lake.No one here is coming up with any real answers.How about all schools getting together and going to Albany asking for Tuition Help??
for posting the 1st article, and giving a platform for an important issue (among many others) to be discussed!
To number 65
There are risks to moving. Have the courage to do what’s best for your kids. I did and BH my kids are doing so well. Had i allowed myslef so be paralysed by the worries, i wouls be kicking myself for it today.
ur clueless! out of town living is far more expensive!! 2 cars, taxes, tuition, food to name afew… all for a back yard and no traffic? ( and probably no people too , making it a very lonely life) been there, done it…nyc has alot more to offer at a much lower cost!
der kind darf by unz zayn tayara vi dos gelt. the rashag or r, laibel kraimer or any the early shluchim of the prievious rebbe never turned away a child because they couldn ‘t pay tuition. They went out themselves and raised money. pruta uprutra metztaref lechshbon gadol..
Try it and see how much it works. There are shluchos putting in tons of time they don’t have and girls and bochurim who have no clue what they are doing. And you will have to pay a full time salary out of your own pocket. Girls and bochurim are people to, and when the schools hire them they have to pay. You will not get away with paying them like your teenaged babysitter. I personally know shluchos who did this because they valued their children’s chinuch, not because it was cost effective. And they spent much more than they… Read more »
Thank you for this reinforcing article. It helped me.
to #63 are you going to keep my job when i move out of ch/? are you going to help me pay the movers? I bet you anything a lot of nyers stay in ny because of the moving costs and I know a nice amount of people who were promised a job out of the state, and when they brought there family down NO JOB— THE BOSS told him i’m sorry it wasn’t for you!!! yes so the risk TO MOVE is QUITE LARGE!!!
Yossi H, whoever you are, you have some great ideas… i hope someone puts them into practice. This op-ed article was patronising and annoying.
For many, difficult finances and impossible tuition area choice. Yes, a choice! Want a solution? Get out of Crown Heights! Actually, get out of the whole NYC area. There are frum Chassidher communities elsewhere where you will be able to afford a house for less than your cramped apartment, your kids will have backyards to play in and you’ll not need bars on all windows, your cost of living will go down, you’ll not fight with traffic, your income will go further, and you may actually be able to afford tuition.
spot on!
If all families in CH (maybe even if just the top 10) gave 10% of their income to education in their community, the schools would not have to charge tuition.
Your the one who should have written the op-Ed to begin with. You have managed to articulate & pinpoint precisely what is irking the parents here in CH. A Yosher Koach for your comment.
I am really fuming about what I have been hearing lately. Is it true that ch schools give the slots to the teacher’s children before others? how is this right? why is my child not as important than a teachers? something has to be done about this!!! no space ? register when I’m pregnant? what on earth???
You took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you!
Anyone who agrees with the author of this op-ed is insane.
Why the need for Machlokes and racism? I’m not sure how you tried to bring in the “chabad lite” label but it doesn’t fit and more so, It’s highly offensive. Perhaps if you stop this machlokes in your mind you’ll be doing what you’re talking about, bringing Moshiach.
Thank you very much for taking the time to write this article and put it up. You speak for many of us who were shocked when seeing the last article…totally inappropriate if catered for Lubavitchers. A number of people i know were also intending to wright something up in response to it, but it didn’t end up happening in the end. Thanks again. The Rebbe spoke very clearly against family planing, so much that its possible to say that a big factor in מבצע טהרת המשפחה, one of the Rebbe’s main מבצעים had to do with it…through the summer of… Read more »
this is why moshiach to the rebbe was so urgent and this is what we must realize were living in a very fake gashmiousdike world money means a lot every body has to make a living including teachers hence tuition is so high people talk “just go raise money” and “make funds” people (in lubavitch mainly chabad light) think things just happen you get off your couch and make these organizations for tuition you find donors and mainly you realize that we need moshiach now which will solve all yours and every body elses problems because ail these op. ed.… Read more »
Why dont people gather together hire girls or bochurim to teach round your dining room table, there are shluchos doing it all over the world..and the chinuch is great.and you have the maalos that they can play with their regular friends after school.
Well written groing up as a child that was in that position I agree 100% . Fact is my parents don’t have a fancy car , we don’t have a country home, we struggle to make shabbos every week , to buy new clothes for yomtov, AND WE WERE SENT HOME FROM SCHOOL EVERY YEAR CRYING AND EMBARRASSED BEC. WE DIDN’T HAVE ADMISSION CARDS. The author makes good points in his article but you seem to have no clue what’s really going on! Lots of people have no clue what’s going on! Your article may be written a little differently… Read more »
yes, private schools are expensive. but public schools are not an option for a frum yid. so what is a person meant to do to? how can the working class pay such high tuition?
If the ones running our schools would understand that just because they are in charge doesn’t give them the right to mismanage money at best and at worst, use the Moiseds money as their own personal bank account, they would be able to charge much less for tuition
lets be honest, we all know who are the ones running our schools just look how they live and how their children live. The whole system is corrupt and broken.
from the articals i read on col this one takes first place. to number six who writes ” places where Frum private schools cost that much (and way more …) are where there are much more modern orthodox families that only have 2 or 3 children, and have a lot less other costs ” your right that the parents there might be able to afford the high tuition and we may not but what are our schools suppose to do? just because we cant afford to pay high tuition so our schools should be charging less??? they got to pay… Read more »
This whole article was robotic, there was zero thought or insight put into it. Instead the writer simply took all the truisms that he learned and teaches and regurgitated them out for you to hear. People were reassured to hear everything that has been told to them as 100% valid and they can go back to sleep without having to require any thinking. The reality was the most important thing the first article did was raise questions which is what a person with a heartbeat needs to do. You can talk bitachon and how we’re suppose to survive on bread… Read more »
great article!
did it answer all the concerns? no. but it didn’t ignore the rebbe the way the other article did.
great great article
tuition in other frum schools are the same as ch, but parents who can and cannot afford come to school with the attitude that they dont want to pay, i dont agree with #6 , people need to set there priorities right, Yes there are many families that cannot afford tuition, but there are families that can afford but dont want to pay,
I read your Op Ed and would like to comment as follows. I agree with you that the writer of the original piece was off base when he got down on Shluchim and Baali Teshuvah. These two groups are in the same boat as old line Annash families and he frankly did a disservice to his greater message by bringing the issue up. In addition the fact that he did not sign his name to the piece detracted from it as well. That said you do not address the underlining issue of how should a family be expected to pay… Read more »
You do not answer the question of what to do when you are asked to pay $40,000 a year for tuition for 8 children. Our salary is only $70,000 a year. And many people earn even less.We are not eligible for FS or medicaid becasue of the high income. We pay $18,000 a yer for health insurance. Do the math. Mortgage, food clothing etc. I do not have an answer but something has to give.
And Hashem decides if your parents are going to have the brains to do the right thing and teach you how to make a parnassa Just by the way learning torah and getting financial education is not a contradiction. The reason being the 80–20 rule, It states that 80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts. If you dont believe it, go look at what ULY learns (english) in 2 hours 4 days a week, and what public schools learn in 8 hours 6 days a week Whether you agree with 80-20 rule (applied to learning) or not,… Read more »
We should make an organized effort where EVERY family in CH registers their children in public school. Obviously, you won’t be sending them to public school rather the schools and government who are obligated to accept all children will be overwhelmed. They will then have to find a solution and will have pressure to subsidize education for ALL ch residents.
You brought up all the rebuttals I thought of plus many more!
Is the tuition crisis a new problem? 20 years ago were tuitions the same costly? I am a young mother and most of my chassidish friends have 3 children and are struggling to the point that they are not sure how to survive with more. Tuition is the best discouragement to birth, the administration of OUR CH SCHOOLS have said this to many parents who can’t pay. This is a nice article but money is money and he does not address the issue of a school system that does not prepare or encourage people to get degrees or pursue higher… Read more »
Many schools use http://www.timebanx.com to track $50-$150/hr in virtual dollars that parents can earn to offset earned tuition costs. There are 100’s of jobs that help the school. The online program automatically keeps the projects, the earnings, and the balances organized. EX: Family with 4 children => $28,000 We pay $20,000 cash and owe $8,000. We pay the remaining $8,000 in virtual dollars with the online system. About 80-160 hours over 10 months avg. => 12 hours per month/4 hours per week. My kids love when we help out and it really brings the school a great source of $$$.… Read more »
people should wait until they finish semicha/seminary and then they can go to a machon parnassa, hashem decides how much parnassa you will have, waiting till after semicha/seminary is not too late!
So true, eloquently written
Exactly brought the whole idea of trusting in Hashem and having betachon that Hashems in charge back to me! you know, sometimes we forget and think how can I have such a large family with an average income?! yet this article reminds us all who really is incharge, and who gives us our parnnassh and sustanace. Yet also the article was not trying to put down the original article…only trying to say how we can look at the situation with a different pair of glasses. WE HAVE TO REMEMBER WHO IS IN CHARGE= hashem! although it is true once we… Read more »
thank you!!
” In fact, the tuition at Chabad schools is less than most in the frum world, which are easily over ten thousand dollars a year at the elementary level.”
The author clearly wrote that we have lower tuition (an out right lie) YOU and the author, clearly, dont get the point of the previous article, ‘that our tuition is to high’.
Chinuch always was OUR #1 priority & yes, it was a challenge. But we somehow managed it, although now, as we near retirement, we do not have ONE CENT in savings. We have nothing. Having said that, would we have done the same thing & paid the tuition we were requested to pay? ABSOLUTELY. It was money that cannot be counted in terms of the Chassidishe & Yiddishe nachas that we have from every single child. Baruch Hashem, we did it! Everyone got smicha or graduated seminary, they are on Shlichus, working, teaching…it doesn’t matter, we really did “get what… Read more »
Its just plain dumb, to say that we should wait until people have a problem, to start teaching them.
“There is no need to begin career counseling “at the age of 14.” ”
While there is no need for career counseling, there is definitely a need for a financial education, before kids plunge into the real world.
It doesnt seem that the issue brought up in the previous op-ed was addressed. Tuition is rocket high and many many families are struggling despite unwavering bitachon. So what is the solution?
So we shouldn’t be concerned that we don’t have money for tuition because at least we don’t have to set our kids up 15 plus years down the road when they get married. Seriously?
I guess you consider the rebbe’s words preaching,
everything in this article is factual or based on rebbe’s words
Well said
Both articles have truth’s in them. However people need to remember that money doesn’t come out of thin air sure Hashem preforms miracles but generally runs the world al pi tevah. A small advice would be if the Yeshiva’s would network with each other and buy in bulk run joint fundraising events coordinate lobbying and maybe even create a standard testing system before anyone becomes a Teacher in a local Yeshiva. This all would save some money and create better professional’s.
i would say that its a fact that some seminarys charge so much that they can support there whole school from kids all the way up to high school. Its a business. So for that i say its y your choice. However when it comes to yeshiva u can’t have a 28 year old on the street. And that’s where the challenge come in. I totally agree that when u look around and see a parent complaining about tuition cost while they are driving a brand new car or a yente talk in the country that cost them 10k not… Read more »
Someone is talking sense. Very well written.
Wow must be on some high horse my bill this year is 30k and the administrater and head of the moisdos of the only Chabad school in town tells me to go Steal it!!!!!! I think you might have a few good points but the system is broken and thre is a huge fire ur preaching is not any less than what the schools are doing —–nothing
I have been waiting for this response. I was very disturbed by the first article written.
And to #6 please refer to THIS article for the answer to your question. You obviously didn’t read it.
I love the story of Rabbi Spalter. the best part of it is that he meant it. What is the bread and butter of nowadays?
1. I agree with #6 in frum areas tuition is much lower than in CHABAD 2. U state people have a choice as to we’re their tzdakah goes. I have some news for u there are clear halachic priorities stated in shulchan oruch hilchois tzdakah so a frum yid doesn’t really have a choice and one of the top proiorities is Talmud Torah Practical suggestion make shiurim in hilchois tzdakah maybe people wil change their priorities and give more to our yeshivas altough after feeling so abused by high tuition it’s difficult to give money to such moisdois I once… Read more »
my feelings are whoever wrote this is not struggling by any means.
Finally, a voice of reason. Great article, well presented, inspiring and non-judgmental.
Thank you for being the voice for a silent majority.
This article is very well written. One thing he did not stress enough of….THEY ARE YOUR CHILDREN… i often hear countless complaints about all the local schools… How can schools function properly on such minimal tuitions. I personally send my children to the more “expensive small schools” because I dont believe in paying less for tuition and I want my chidlren educated in a place where there are the financial means to give them a proper education…. many ppl get tuition breaks (almost no one pays full) have nice cars, homes, vacations, bungalows etc etc,,,,, education should always come first……
same people who complain about tuition are buying 150$ outfits for their 5 year olds, so please don’t blame the rabbeinu tam tefillin
you did not get the author’s point about other communities
it may be true they have less tuition, but go find out how much they have to lay out when they marry off children, in chabad we have no pressure to fully furnish our children’s homes, buy jewlerry for all the kalla’s sisters etc., as the author says, don’t compare apples to oranges
You are right about everything, besides the fact that there is a need for a ‘parnasah’ education BEFURE kids grow up and desperately need it.
That first article had me deeply disturbed, it’s good to see that there are still people with their heads on their shoulders!
Very well written and well balanced article. I agree with you 100%,
Every word written is correct thank you for voicing your opinion
i totally agree with everything you said!
Couldn’t agree more with every word you said!
There is one small problem with your clam that schools outside Chabad cost min of $10,00 a child. First of all, places where Frum private schools cost that much (and way more …) are where there are much more modern orthodox families that only have 2 or 3 children, and have a lot less other costs ($150 taleism, rebeinu taam and RT for their sons, Kapatos … cholov yisroel, highest schechita etc …) AND … in Boro Park/Williamsburg/Lakewood/Monsey “Cheders” for their children are actually much less. IN Boro Park a cheder yeshiva is 2 or 3 tops … SO –… Read more »
I don’t like a very patronizing tone of this article. Yes we do have a problem qith tuition costs, but it isn’t the school’s fault. if affordable education is such a priority we need to lobbyfull force for school vouchers.
Thank you for writing this response. I was VERY disturbed that the original article was posted, and commend you for so clearly explaining a proper approach to these issues.
COL – PLEASE do not publish articles like the original article in the future. They’re damaging to our children, and our community.
Thank you!! Well written and so true! The premise about the shluchim is especially unsettling. I know! We’re on shlichus and we sent away 3 sons already and we always had to pay full price!
well said
Love it!!! Thank you for a great article