Summer’s over and here comes the rush. Soon we’ll be seeing excited children in shiny new shoes and highschoolers in perfect uniform (for once!). Maybe it’s only because I know to look for them, but I also see the girls– the ones who are just as I was— dragging themselves around, dreading the start of another school year. There is only frustration and fear.
I started elementary school like every other girl in the class, eager to enter the magic of school. But I came to realize that it had a dark side that turned into daily nightmares as I struggled to understand the lessons and keep up. I was not the “methodical” learner and could not digest much of the learning.
One can’t know what it’s like to sit in class day after day, year after year and only understand a little of what’s going on. One can’t know what it’s like to watch your friends and classmates receive compliments for their achievements, while knowing your own grades will never merit that praise.
As I moved on to high school, I earned a medal every morning that I showed up at school. I crossed a finish line every time I made it through a full day of classes before running home and dumping my briefcase on my bedroom floor.
Sad to say, but I hardly never encountered a teacher who offered to help me overcome my challenges by measuring my success differently or helping me learn in a personal way.
Until last year.
It was difficult, but after a lot of consideration and back and forth I decided to put my education first. I decided that my friends I could go back to, but not crucial years of learning. And so together with my parents, I took the leap and switched. Yes, I switched from my big school with all my friends to a smaller one. And it was here that I found my definition of a school.
Can you imagine the feeling of finally seeing the classroom as a happy place? To finally feel smart and able to compete. To finally understand, make progress and enjoy learning. To love school and look forward to the next day.
It was the staff at Ohr Chana that made that happen for me.
The class was small but that’s what was so great! I was a part of a group in which every girl was a whole world with open doors. Where every girl was a contributing member who could learn and develop on her level. It was here that I learned and grew in ways I’ve only watched my friends do until now.
Through their individualized classes I caught up. Not because they watered down the information, but because they raised me up and helped me understand my own style of learning. And I still walked back home from school with my friends and kept up with them, besides for making new ones.
I already see the girls who are dreading the beginning of another school year. I recognize them because I was one of them, just going through the motions. I wish they would make the decision I made so they too can love learning and life the way every highschooler is entitled to.
So please, if you see these girls walking the streets, please reach out to them and tell them for me. Tell them we have a place now to call our own. Tell them Ohr Chana exists. Tell them change has come to Crown Heights.
Ohr Chana Vocational Academy is located in the heart of Crown Heights and specializes in an individual, customized learning environment for 9th and 10th grade girls. Visit the Ohr Chana website at www.ohrchana.org or contact Mrs. Zeesy Piamenta at 718.735.4044, 347 200 0632 or [email protected].
its in all schools and i think that girls can be good accedemically but can fail in othere things- their social life . not all kids are intrested at looking in the good of others and can cauze someone complete frustiration and even sometimes depressoin. kids dont allways think b4 they act and dont relize how there words can effect someone else! so at the same time of looking at the accedemics look at the othere things that are involved in school and taht can chage someone completely and it can evetually lead to someone doing well accedemically becuase they… Read more »
well, no wonder, school doesn’t make it a pleasurable experience 4 us!
that painting is really cool
p.s go malkie !!!!!!!!
Mrs. Labkowski – Thank you for recognizing the need for a school like Ohr Chana and especially for making it a reality – May you and your dedicated faculty be blessed with much nachas from your students!
nice article. lucky girl. Im a 12th grader and just started school and a big dreader in it… but I’m just going along with the days and want to finish already… yup, that’s life for me…
WOW! I am so impressed with the dedication, commitment and care that the staff of Ohr Chana has for their school.
it’s truly tremendous. that’s definitely a helpful a key to success!!!
May your school have continued success and may you see the fruits of your labor.
Hatzlocha for the coming year!
stop it already!!
the answer is NOT to open fringe programs. this does not help anyone besides the elitist schools who now can easily refuse students, claiming that there is an alternative. it does not work, it never work, it cannot work.
what we need is invest the money wasted on these fring programs in the mainstream schools, and FORCE the schools to work with every single student, whoever he is.
Even girls who aren’t academically challenged feel depressed thinking about school.
The school days drag on forever and when you finally get home you have the other half of school waiting in your backpack-homework.
Even if you do understand the material, it annoying as he– to study all day.
Here’s another one for you (with apologies to Shakespeare): Methinks the teacher doth protest too much.
signed in amusement as well as despair,
#23
This article has made all the pain come back. My daughter has struggled all her school life with very little if any encouragement from any teacher. she has been humiliated, shouted at for not understanding and finally in high school suffered with migraine becouse of stress and eventually refused to go to school. We tried to send her to other schools, it didn’t work. We are not in the US. My daughter is now Boruch Hashem about to go to sem. We are hoping and praying she has a more positive experience. The point I would like to make is… Read more »
Parents mean well and want the best for their children, but unfortunately dont understand how critical the high school years are. So much of the chutzpah, lack of tznius and rebbelionwe see growing stem from children feeling not understood and neglected.
I once askeda group of teenagers why so many kids today go off . Their response- neglect.To my question: emotional, physical or psycological, the response was all three. They all went back to different instances in their school lives where they were humiliated by teachers and a mark was left forever.
To #28. There is a letter the Rebbe wrote to someone who was afraid to said to a school because of the tuition costs. The Rebbe writes that parents in Russia had more mesiras nefesh for the chinuch of their kids then merely money…
What dont parents do to raise a childs self esteem and give them the tools they need and in the long run
der aibershter comes thru
I completely agree wiht you!!! I had tyhe same experience
ur so rude!
his tryin to bring out a point and by u stressing that he had a bad experience aint helping!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u probably have bad experience socially! watch ur mouth.
i am sure that number 21 is a very good by don’t continue to give him misery over the computer too.
Did anyone say we all do? and only one exclamation mark is neccessary.
There are so many of us who would love to end our misery and know we would be happy, but our mothers are afraid of future shidduchim if we dont go to Bais Rivkah.
Myy daughter would love this and definitely needs this type of sviva, but how do we pay for something that is way beyond our means while I am still paying off a wedding and trying to figure out how to pay for the bar mitzva?
Already two full time working parents…..
#14, I second all that you say.
#21, you make some very good points…
#23: As a teacher, I am very disappointed that you would quote such an untrue, unfair statement. Of course, there are good and skilled teachers and there are some who are not—but to paint the whole profession in such a way is simply wrong. Those who can, teach–giving up other lucrative, more rewarding positions for the sake of chinuch. I think your quoting such a ludricious statement is an offense to teachers everywhere.
I read this and I have tears in my eyes. Before Ohr Chana came along my sister never had a place in school. We her family could only stand by and watch her frustration every day as she struggled to keep up with her friendsM. Thank you, thank you Mrs. Piamenta and the staff at Ohr Chana for giving our sister a place to finaly call her own. Parents, I beg you, if you have a child or even know a child who can benefit from this amazibg school please call Mrs. Piamenta and give this child a shot at… Read more »
A school like Ohr Chana is way overdue! Not every girl is academic and this school is a great option for those who are not Regent diploma inclined etc. I would like to see this school be licensed and certified in the vocations they offer so the girls would actually come out with something. That would be amazing! It’s so nice to see this alternative school for girls in our Lubavitch system. WAY TO GO!!!!
orh chana is a superb school! my sister went there for
two years and gained so much confidence and loved it!
mrs. piementa is a very devoted person and puts a lot in to
the girls! keep it up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are 1000% right about some teachers taking jobs because they can’t do anything else. And you’re 1000% right about the importance of placing decent, caring teachers in mainstream schools. But you have to train them & support them.
There’s an old expression: those who can, do. Those who can’t…teach. It’s very true. I should know: I’m a veteran, award-winning teacher who shakes my head in despair at many of my colleagues. The ones who suffer are their students. I can name you many students, boys & girls, who were destroyed by the system and the people in it.
wow u mustve had a bad expierience….. DOESNT MEAN WE ALL DO!!!!!!
wow very touching, im very happy for you! i kind of feel the same way in a zal yeshiva and so do many other bochrim, you know sometimes i feel like i just want to drop evrything or just scream, other times i just want to jump off a cliff, the amount of time that is being wasted thees days by MANY buchrim is not even funny any more, the frustration is indescribable! i would hav loved if som1 would of opened up a good, normal yeshiva a with caring staff, but together with bochrim who didnt go off yet… Read more »
i went to a primary school which loved; i loved going to school that was until high school. the head teacher hated me for some reason and warned every single teacher to be wary of me. One teacher out of all my years in high school had faith in me just one teacher said to the head i dont know what you are going on about. why do people insist on ruining peoples lives? why? i look back to my high school with hatred towards my head. i wish there was a school here like ohr chana. What i have… Read more »
and every time i thing of school i just go into a depression,
“hell years” this is all i can say,
impossible, and will never forgive it.
go malky rappoprt and perly engal
YOU ARE THE BEST!
…this is a great piece of free PR for the school. Now how about equal time for the other schools to push THEIR maalehs? I definitely agree, there is a problem for Ms Average. My daughter was one & not only wasn’t she recognized in BR elementary for anything, she was treated like garbage. Having said that, she flourished in high school & is now a very successful & accomplished Shlucha who is raising a beautiful family. There is definitely a need for an Ohr Chana type school, but Bais Rivka (& I’m sure B’nos Menachem and B’nos Chaya also)… Read more »
glad that ohr chana is such a wonderful school, and able to help so many.
great idea for free advertising…
btw, maybe you should tell the girls in your school about an incredible summer program – bais chana jewish uncamp for teens. guaranteed to be a summer of a lifetime
i have seen first hand the amazing changes that Ohr Chana helped accomplish. i hope that people will become more aware of this great school and all the wonderful things it does for these girls
this article is intended for a different purpose. what’s the connection to BCM? i’m really happy to har that your daughter is happy there what’s the connection?
that painting is AWESOME!!! u really have talent!!
It was wonderful to witness our daughter’s school year last year and the positivity and self-confidence that Ohr Chana instilled in our child. We can’t wait for this school year to start! May Ohr Chana go may chayil el choyil!
Mrs. Piamenta you rock!!
ur the best
i miss you!!!
<3 tickle monster
My daughter gos to Beis Chaya Mushka and loves it,
She is so happy every day to go to school!!
go b’nos menachem!!!
go musy and devorah!!!! u rock