On Monday this week, I sent my child to daycare as I do every morning as part of my daily routine as a Crown Heights mother. During the day I received a phone call from the Morah regarding my daughter. I had to come back to Crown Heights in order to pick her up.
My first thought obviously was that she was either hurt, in danger or chas v’cholom may have endangered another child, but it didn’t make sense because my daughter is boruch Hashem a very calm child and I know the women who run the program and they are very responsible with the kids.
Perhaps it was health? I knew she was feeling well recently but who knows.
Well, I was close.
The main Morah at the day care began to explain that she was calling all the parents in the play group because the Health Department came to visit and would not leave until all the children had been picked up from their location on Montgomery Street. I came within the hour and brought my child to a friend.
After the day’s end, I called the Morah to ask the details. She said she wasn’t sure exactly who called the Health Department but the Health Dept representative did say she’s surprised they were called because the play group is so neat, clean and organized that it would pass a health inspection in a heartbeat.
The Health Dept representative continued surprisingly, “It’s weird that we got this call because we know there are many play groups in the area because of how many kids you guys have – but it’s weird because Jews don’t usually tell on other Jews, the only reason we followed such a lead is because its location was so descriptive.”
My fellow readers, for me it’s not the biggest deal in the world for me to disrupt my day for my child. The reason why I’m writing into COLlive is because I care for the community. I’m sure I am not the only one who struggles to make sure I can depend on a play group that I know she (my child) is getting a positive atmosphere in a cute and clean environment. To hear that another Jew will put another 15 children struggling to find another similar establishment is somewhat overwhelming.
My request is simple. As Jews we are family. If we have an issue with one another that doesn’t affect our day to day lives so horribly perhaps sometimes it is in everyone’s best interest to confront the person and try to resolve it together before calling. We are unfortunate to have read where it is important to go straight to the authorities when the time is right, but something like this makes me sad that it couldn’t have been talked out first. I love this Morah’s play group and hope everything is resolved as soon as possible.
Thank you for listening.