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Speaking To Teens About Alcohol

What should a parent do when their teenager goes to a party where alcohol and other substances may be present? Educator Dena Gorkin answers. Full Story, Video

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Grateful we left

Thiss article misses the point. Our boys are given alcohol at fabrengens and yomtovim by their own Rebbes. I have seen pictures of fabrengens with bottles of vodka on the table and boys barely bar mitzvah. A boy I know was accosted walking home from his Rebbe house so drunk he didn’t know what happened till he woke up. In Israel the rosh yeshivas get drunk right along with their students. Nothing will change until the social norm of bochurim drinking changes. Parents worry about parties? Worry about the yeshivas who break the law every time they serve alcohol to… Read more »

Operation Survival
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Operation Survival

We hope to address the issue of alcohol at Farbrengens on a future episode. This question was regarding parties.

Thank you for commenting.

I am so with you!
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I am so with you!

Any bochur under the age of 18 should NEVER be given alcohol, even in small quantities and the yeshivos are to blame

tips for parents
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tips for parents

I think that the point of this article is that a parent can help their child deal with the actual world around him even when it isn’t ideal. Of course we prefer that alcohol isn’t served at farbrengens but until this change actually happens help your child deal with actuality. Show him what one serving of alcohol looks like (it is very small- !.5 ounces), make sure he eats and is well hydrated before he leaves to a farbrengen, ask him to limit himself to one drink and take tiny sips. Make sure he knows that you are staying up… Read more »

LEIBEL GOLDMAN
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LEIBEL GOLDMAN

Thank you COL for posting this important article on alcohol. We also need to address the issue of underage drinking.

The head of Kings County Hospital said (at the Operation Survival event last year) that more people are hospitalized in Crown Heights as a result of alcohol than any other drug.

Lame
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Lame

This is the lamest advice.

If i child is going to party you already lost the battle. Why are they going to a party in the first place, to shmooze?

Love in the home, letting the child know they are cared for and protected, will prevent them from getting into the situation in the first place.

Faqrbrengens are the biggest trojan horse to alcohol.

To lame:
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To lame:

I disagree

Teens attends parties and bbqs all the time where there may be alcohol or drugs. Obviously it is best if they don’t go but once you forbid your teen from going they will stop telling you about these parties and you will have shut down communication.

disagree
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disagree

You are assuming that there is communication when most of the time there is none. Glad that this will work for you. Most of the teens attending these types of parties dont consult with their parents nor would they agree to a silly plot (their view).

To disagree
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To disagree

They may not agree to the plot but it allows the parents the opportunity to present a reasonable solution while giving the teens important information on the dangers of alcohol.

Communication is critical.

There were several studies that compared teens with parent who strongly disapprove of drinking and made it clear to their teens with teens that never had a discussion on the danger or their parents didn’t care.

Study found that teens that had parents who disapprove were far less likely to drink.

David Kay
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David Kay

It’s really remarkable how every time there’s mention of alcohol the keyboard warriors hit the schools and nothing else. All kids get into sticky situations with or without farbrengens! Though I don’t particularly think this code text will be very effective it is still a HUGE advantage to just have an open dialog with your kids! Our farbrengens are a major problem but drugs is a big(ger) problem which is just glossed over by so many, as seen by the content of all the previous comments.

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