Feb 10, 2019
Males Teaching Single Girls Class

Chassidus Applied: Hypnosis to treat mental health, Talmidim Shluchim, boundaries for males teaching a class of single girls.

MyLife: Chassidus Applied Episode 248, with Rabbi Simon Jacobson
Sunday, February 10, 2019 / 5 Adar I 5779 – 8:00-9:00PM EST

* Chassidus Applied to Zayin Adar I and Tetzaveh
* Should I be concerned over an ominous chain letter I received?
* Are their guidelines for using hypnosis to treat mental health?
* Will we be able to have children in the world to come?
* When a yeshiva sends students as shluchim to other yeshivos, is it considered as if the Rebbe is sending them, or as a faculty decision (which could be mistaken)?
* What boundaries should be kept when single girls have male teachers?

* Mental health referrals (episodes 243-244)
* Nursing (episode 245)
* Can anyone publish the Rebbe’s talks? (episodes 246-247)
* Not listening to the Rebbe (episode 247)
* Abortion (episode 247)
* How does chassidus explain the prohibition of abortion?
* Shaming abusers (episodes 202-204)

Chassidus question: How do you explain the idea of mokom aron ayno min ha’midah – the “space of the ark is not (included) in the dimensions (of the Holy of Holies),” i.e. did not occupy space? – Part II

My Life 2018 essays:
* Understanding and Dealing with Events, Chana Shpiegel, 36, Jerusalem, Israel
* Chassidus Lessons from Physical Therapy, Yechezkal Shimon Gutfreund, 62, Brighton, MA
* Letting Go with Love: Resolving the Paradox of Ahavas Yisroel, Sasha Balofsky, 29, Philadelphia, PA

This hour-long dose of insights, broadcast live every Sunday night 8-9PM EST, is meant to inform, inspire and empower us by applying the teachings of Chassidus to help us face practical and emotional challenges and difficulties in our personal lives and relationships. To have your question addressed, please submit it at meaningfullife.com/mylife.


Most Read Most Comments

Opinions and Comments
Time for men to get out of girls school.....
The time is ripe for men to get jobs elsewhere. There is no need to have men reaching for Farbenging with girls, even more so in high school and seminary.
This is not okay. It never was okay. And it should not be tolerated. At all.

(2/10/2019 6:52:08 PM)
Very good topic!
This includes people that call them selves Rabbies and anoint themselves as therapist
(2/10/2019 8:09:46 PM)
@1 I agree 100%
I never understood this practice and I have always felt that this represents a true hypocrisy in our community, and I'm considered a "modern" guy.
This only reinforces the idea "the rabbis make the rules only to exclude themselves from it"
There are BH enough capable woman to teach and run the sems, high schools etc. Just try imagining a woman giving a lesson in a yeshiva.
(2/10/2019 10:34:27 PM)
Yes!! This!!
Rabbis shouldn't be farbrenging late into the night with women... especially single women. I worked in a sem as a dorm counselor and had many situations where I was extremely uncomfortable. One Rabbi, after some l'chaims, late at night with 30-40 girls surrounding him....doesnt sit right..and sometimes...if the Rabbi got too comfy... semi- inappropriate things happened. Unless your a Tzaddik vetov lo...A rabbi Should not put himself in a situation like this. A lecture for a designated amount of time, a class...thats ok..that cozy farbrengen style, late hours , young women...not ok...not ok
(2/11/2019 5:42:00 AM)
Rabbis have no business teaching girls
I went to a oot day school and looking back at my teen years there were two rabbis in particular who crossed many boundaries. Thankfully not talking physical boundaries, but emotional relationships were made. As a teen this never seemed inappropriate, quite the opposite I felt special to have this extra attention, getting extra talks after clases, gifts, phone calls etc. None of this ever seemed strange to me. As a married woman with kids now I am mortified. Being married I now realize how inappropriate these "friendships" I formed with married men were.

There are plenty of knowledgable women who can hold their own in a classroom, no need for men in this day in age.

My male secular teachers had more boundaries and decorum then the Rabbis in school. One example it took a secular teacher in my school to stop what he felt was inappropriate behavour coming from a rabbi. Again as kids we are taught tznius for ourselves but dont know what is expected of men which creates harmful situations.
(2/11/2019 9:26:01 AM)
It's very simple
Very simple , theres no women that could teach as well as a man , therefore you need rabbis teaching...
(2/11/2019 10:10:43 AM)
100%% Totally inappropriate. However, an older man (50 plus) teaching a class (not farbrenging etc...) is certainly fine
(2/11/2019 4:19:23 PM)
#1 and #4
U r 100% right. And so is everyone else commenting about the negatives of a male figure farbrenging with girls/women. Even as teachers, males should be relegated to teach males & women can very well teach women. We have some outstanding lamdaniyos today. This of course doesn’t apply to a one time talk/lecture. Am referring to teaching subject matter on a regular basis: day to day or week to week. If and where possible, best to keep the genders separate.
(2/11/2019 4:52:39 PM)
What's Your Opinion? Post a Comment

Your Comment:

Comments must be approved before being published. Thank You!

Make COLive® your homepage | Contact Us
© 2019 COLLIVE.com