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Monday, 22 Iyyar, 5779
  |  May 27, 2019

    Shloshim for Esty (Rubin) Cohen

    Events in Albany, NY, Manchester, UK, and Melbourne, Australia will mark the Shloshim of the untimely passing of Esty Aidel (Rubin) Cohen, one month ago. Full Story

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    with all due respect
    Guest
    with all due respect

    it is only starting to really hit me.
    she has really passed on.

    as an orphan myself
    want to say
    the worst thing you can do for her kids
    is treat them as a rachmonis
    this has plagued me
    made me feel 2nd class

    remember
    ultimately Hashem will give them the strength to deal with this
    but if ppl get in the way with feeling bad for them with the sorry eyes etc, it is not going to give them them the koach they need to get through this.
    help them to believe they can get through this, believe in them.

    this is olom ha ze
    it happens, it happens unfortunately…
    moshiach now

    I miss her!
    Guest
    I miss her!

    Every passing day my heart breaks more and more cuz i just love esty so much and i miss her!!!!! But i know that her family will be able to get through this with hashem’s help…no one is given a challenge that they cannot overcome and her family will gain the strength to move forward!!

    moshiach now!!
    Guest
    moshiach now!!

    !!

    MOSHIACH NOW!!
    Guest
    MOSHIACH NOW!!

    HOW LONG CAN WE WAIT!

     to #1
    Guest
    to #1

    whos treating them like rachmonos cases? I reread the article to see what you mean and I dont see it. Yes you are right unfortunately these things do happen, and when it does, ppl will care and feel sorry for the family (out of love and compassion) Its just human nature. it would be cold and rude if ppl just acted like nothing happened. Really sorry for what you had to go through as a child, but just know that ppl were caring for you, there is nothing wrong with that.

    TO #5
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    TO #5

    ppl dont know how to be loving and compassionate, they feel uncomfortable with crisis and want to move on with their lives.
    they dont want to get involved bc they are afraid you will become dependent on them. it is a skill. therefore, comes the sorry eyes.
    i think the best way is to ask the family how you can constructively help.
    it is up to the family to know what they need exactly.
    if these 2 things can be done,
    the sorry eyes syndrome will be avoided.

    Give them strength
    Guest
    Give them strength

    As someone who has very little family and has been pretty much alone for a long time I agree with #1 and #5 as being the most constructive ways to think of and behave toward children in such a situation.

    the kinderlach
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    the kinderlach

    The family don’t need to be showered with loads and loads of brand new clothes. They need support and stability. Someone who can come in every evening to bathe them and put them to bed.
    It isn’t easy but Hashem gives us the strength.
    I agree with number1

    we must bring moshiach now!

    ad masaiiiiiii
    Guest
    ad masaiiiiiii

    WE NEED MOSHIACH
    THATS IT!!!!!!!! AD MOSAI?!! HOW LONG?!

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