By Dvora Schulman, Vice President, International Shidduch Group Network
The London Shidduch Group welcomed over ninety ladies Sunday night at the Lubavitch Main Hall in Stamford Hill for an exciting event entitled: “Connect 4 Shidduchim.”
Leaders of the London Chapter of the International Shidduch Group Network, Mrs. Sukie Rubin and Mrs. Miriam Moses, brought Mrs. Elana Bergovoy, President of the International Shidduch Group Network, from her home base in Chicago, IL, to help take the UK Shidduch Groups to the next level.
Mrs. Bergovoy inspired and motivated the community to network and organize to both encourage more English to English shidduchim, and enable bocherim outside the UK to meet the beautiful, intelligent, mature and capable young ladies “across the pond. ”
The whirlwind of events began Shabbos afternoon with thirty post-seminary girls farbrenging at the home of Mrs. Miriam Moses. Mrs. Bergovoy spoke about Chai Elul, the Baal Shem Tov, and the Alter Rebbe. She told stories that illustrated the point that no matter where a person is, when it’s time for her to meet her bashert, Hashem will bring them together. The girls introduced themselves by age, name and what they’re doing now. Most were beautiful, lively 20 to 25 year-olds working in a range of different fields, including teaching, accounting,and the helping professions. They sang niggunim and danced and made “Lchaims!” Then it was time to head to Mrs. Rivkah Raskin‘s house for the 6 pm Stamford Hill Shabbos Shidduch Group meeting where they said many kapitellach Tehillim, read from “Eternal Joy,” by Rabbi Shalom Ber Wineberg, on the Rebbe’s advice about the period of engagement, and discussed the material.
On Monday, Mrs. Bergovoy travelled to Manchester where she spoke at a special gathering for members of N’shei Chabad at the home of Mrs. Yael Klyne, organized by Sora Baila Klyne, through the London Shidduch Group. This was the launching of the Manchester Shidduch Group and events are already being planned for after Rosh Hashanah, including a joint London/Manchester shadchan evening. Once again the atmosphere was festive, with exquisite balloon centerpieces and creatively laid tables.
On Tuesday, back in London, shadchanim, shluchas and community leaders met with Mrs. Bergovoy at the home of Feige Sudak and discussed ways to connect with other communities and improve networking. One of the points raised was that the Rebbe strongly encouraged bocherim to go to meet the girls, wherever they may be. In addition, bocherim are often much more flexible than working girls, to travel for shidduchim purposes. Plans can easily be made through shadchanim for bocherim to meet girls where they live. Meetings can also successfully be arranged, to enable men and women to meet initially by Skype.
On Wednesday evening in Golders Green at the home of the Prus family, Mrs. Bergovoy farbrenged with many more post-seminary girls about developing their characters at this crucial stage of life to promote continued growth and not to stand still because they have finished their formal education.
The week culminated in the ultimate simcha with the Dubov / Moscowitz chassunah in Wimbledon, London on Thursday evening. Rabbi Nissan Dovid Dubov, author of Mazel Tov: A Chabad Wedding Guide is on the Board of Directors of the International Shidduch Group Network and was the keynote speaker at last November’s Annual Shidduch Group Network Conference. His address was entitled, “Getting to the Chuppah.”
The committee in London would like to express its thanks to all the people who contributed their time and talents to make this Shidduch Initiative so successfully productive. For further information on the London Shidduch Groups, contact [email protected]
The UK Shidduch Groups will be sending delegates to the 2nd Annual Shidduch Group Conference in Crown Heights on November 9th. Registration is open and space is limited. Visit the website for more information and to register: http://www.shidduchgroupnetwork.com/events.html