Over 150 parents and singles boys and girls attended the Meet ChabadMatch Shadchanim event this past Sunday at Machon L’Yahadus.
Over 20 Shadchanim met with the singles and parents throughout the afternoon, and over 400 individual meetings took place.
Attendees traveled from as far as Brazil, Israel, Sweden, Canada, Miami, Chicago, Pittsburgh, and Boston to attend the event.
Mrs. Leah Namdar organized a networking session for mothers, and a photographer was available to take profile photos of singles.
“This was a unique opportunity for both singles/parents and Shadchanim to network, and we see the need to organize these events more frequently,” says Moshe Raichman from ChabadMatch.com.
Attending Shadchanim included Yonah Avtzon, Shandel Blassberg, Chaya Cohen, Raizy Edelman, Devory Fox, Zalman Goldberg, Sheindel Levertov, Leah Lipszyc, Yocheved Miller, Leah Namdar, Akiva Perl, Elka Pinson, Moishe Raitman, Chana Raksin, Cyna Reisman, Sara Shollar, Rivka Torrenheim, Chani Vogel, Sarah Yarmush and Eliezer Zalmanov.
I’m a shadchan and looking for 2 chabad boys ages 32 and 33. Florida and Vancovuer BC. Please send suggestions to [email protected]. Thanks! Especially looking for florida and california girls
I’ve dealt with chani raksin.she’s one shadchan that made this parsha more pleasant for me & easier to navigate
she’s caring efficient & very on top of the game.she gets it & suggests people that are shayach.she won’t forget about you after you contact her.
May everyone find their bashert
Caring shadchanim
Iyj may it bring many good results soon
soon by everyone
I see alot of negativity being thrown at shadchanim. yes it is true, some don’t do it completely “lishma” so to speak. I myself have had some shadchanim experience which was not the best, but when you see that’s not the way you want to work or feel disrespected or whatever the issue might be, you just move on and work with someone else. we must admit that some happy couples found each other through all of these shadchanim which is a beautiful thing regardless of the thought they had, money and so on. the couple is happy and that… Read more »
I once had a shadchan want me to pay them for every date I went on. That is to say, for every girl the shadchan brought up, in order for the date to be set up, I would have to pay a fee. (I don’t recall the amount, however, it was something like $50). I was flabbergasted, “Where is the incentive to help me find a girl I want to marry?” Needless to say, I never work with said Shadchan, though I did appreciate the fact the fees were mentioned upfront. Point of the story? There is none, just thought… Read more »
what is the shadchans name u talk about/
you made me laugh
Thank you Chabad Match for putting together this wonderful event. It was a great idea. We need more of these event. I think it would be good for this kind of event to take place every few months.
Where is master shadchan Zuni Greenbaum?!?!
Just wondering.
Is there an option where one can pay a fee and receive insurance from the shadchon if the marriage chas vsholom goes sour?
The sanzer rov had a minhag to give a shadchan some amount of money, even if nothing came out, he would say that every suggestion is a step closer to the real one.
to 20
very well said
make more of does comments
Thank you very much
Just because you may have had a bad experience with a shadchan doesn’t make us all evil. If you have a bad experience with a taxi driver/teacher/doctor/window cleaner are they all evil? Same with shadchanim. NOT every shadchan charges to meet singles. NOT every shadchan charges per date. To the best of my knowledge NO Lubavitcher shadchan charges $7000 for a shidduch. An individual may have OFFERED $5000 for a difficult shidduch. IF the shadchan charges $2000 per side and said that, it’s a different story. There are shadchanim who will give you a LOT of personal attention. Do a… Read more »
Some people want their privacy respected. If you sign up for ChabadMatch and contact shadchanim you’ll see plenty of singles.
Agree 100%
nice initiative, but I most confess that I saw the picture of one shadchan there that is a money catcher, I once had an interview with one of them, she charged me $100 , which for a single girl living by her own is a lot of money, specally without parents support, and after that I never heard of her again, even though i tried to reach her numerous times. I guess once she had her money she couldn’t care less about my situation
The solution is for guys and girls who are older than 25 to become real humans to each other rather than paper concepts: Singles events, Shabbos tables, etc. will make Shiduchim.
In the 90’s this would have been a big deal. The days of agents are over, it’s about platforms hat connect people. These are all people that mean well but by default have big generation gap and are working like we were still in the shtetel. Shuffle and discuss resumes. If you have employees you know resumes will only tell you that much. We need to first teach people how to connect rather then match. And then base our suggestions on emotional needs conpatiablity not the amount of rambam he learns or how many inches her skirt covers. Most of… Read more »
Well you should have gotten a normal job with a consistent salary instead of mooching out of everyone’s life savings
I defied every ones opinion if the Boys & Girls are 60% Compatable the rest will work out
I have seen couples with great names with no sholom Bayis but
the shadchonim made lots of money. I have seen couples simple with great admiration for each other where the shadchonim made a bit less. Moral of the story choose your true Basherte not necessarily what the Shadchon offers. Remember that at least some shadchonim hav a vested interest to promote a certain spouse.
Why are frum people always so mercenary?
Some years back a shadchan told me a major problem is that the girls are on a higher level of yidishkeit than the boys.
No such thing as “yichus”. Enough with this “royalties” business!
Money should never ever be an issue.
Parents need to stop getting in the way, give your kids more credit to decide for themselves.
This should get you at least half way there.
Not all shadachnim are alike sorry. We had a wonderful one who made about 7 shidduchim in a short period of time. She was kind and worked with both of us. A true gem. And no she wasn’t in it for the money. She mamish wanted to help us.
B”H all our children are married – every one was a shidduch and we didn’t use a professional shadchan once. Yes, we paid them. Does it really matter who is the keili as long as a shidduch is made? For one of my children I davened especially hard every day because their circumstances were slightly different and today they are happily married with a lovely home and are raising a beautiful frum family. If a shadchan can help go for it, but don’t give up on other conduits, especially Hashem!
I’m a skeptic of the whole shiduch “system” but I must say I’m impressed by this event. To #1, that seems to be the point of this event to bring efficiency to the shiduch process. Your story points out the difficulties of the shiduch business. On the one hand a shadchan is expected to put in hours of work and sacrifice her own personal schedule (such as fixing her floors) with no guarantee of getting paid for the work. (Unlike other professionals such as a lawyer who is typically paid whether you win or loose the case) on the other… Read more »
What a real Yente event…. hopefully the Shadchanim will all work together and then maybe we’ll see an influx of Sheduchim
I’m not from Chabad but I go on col to see Chabad news I can tell u most of these shadchanim meeting ar waisted of time if u have Gelt then they look at u if not ur talking to a big wall and I’m from heimeshe family the system is terrible corrupted all over gibst do bizt do gib do nisht bizt do a garnisht the Bottem line is we should all be zoche to the right Zivug in the right time bekorov
That is the main thing!
People should show their A”HaTov as they wish/comfortable with.
BIG MISTAKE TURNING THIS INTO A BUSINESS
IT WILL BACK FIRE IN THE SHORT/LONG TERM
OPEN YOUR EYES/EARS
DON’T PLAY WITH KEDUSHA
older folks, divorced or never married need shadchanim too. is there help for them/me?
Shidduchim will be made when people stop playing Shidduch Judge, Jury and Prosecutor. A name comes up for a bochur, or a name comes up for a girl. Its a good suggestion, but Yenta A thinks that he’s too quiet, or she’s not pretty enough or whatever, or Chochom B thinks that he doesnt deserve her or she doesnt deserve him, and the shidduch gets nixed. This goes on and on. Not just the Yentas and the Chochoms. Neighbors, and even family members, aunts, uncles and cousins who ‘keep score’ have been known to nix a date, because they wanted… Read more »
Why is an unmarried man meeting with women as a shadchan??
The reason we have so many unmarrieds, is not because there are not Shadchanim; its because we have too many.
You read write.
Shadchanim serve as the GateKeepers. You call about a girl or boy, and if its a good idea, they decide YOU dont deserve it, but they have someone else to suggest it to. Biggest names stealers out there, by far.
The Shadchanim are the gatekeepers, and they have way too much power.
Time to democratize the process and allow a evolved flow that will net more shidduchim.
My two cents.
Post photos of prospective people in shidduchim, and not shadchanim. You’ll make a lot more shidduchim that way, trust me.
Said a ‘Sugulah’ for a Shidach is a date
not this…
Sorry to hear you horror story.
Call Akivah Perl, he’s a real mentch who cares about the shidduch crisis in CH.
Hatzlacha
I am a shadchanit and would make more money if I cleaned houses! If we made a shidduch every day, it might be a money making business, but unfortunately, one doesn’t make too many shidduchim often. Many times months can go by where we work hard and make no shidduchim. You want us to give up our days and nights to work for free?
Please take that into consideration next time a shadchan charges you…and if you get set up and nothing comes from it, give your shadchan a tip for her/his efforts!!
Even if it doesnt work out the discomfort involved burns off averos
For all of those who are skeptical of shadcahnim and feel that it has become commercialized. Please realize that there are many shadchanim who really do care and don’t do it just for the financial reward. I highly recommend reaching out to the Shadchan who made my shidduch, Cyna Reisman she’s great.
Wondering? If so how much?
Can one give the shadchan what one can afford or is there a set price?
To. The for real . i would love to send you more contacts only if ya ask . omain
baha
the more you pay the richer the families you get matched up with. #forreal
it seems if anything is not exactly in the role model then you can forget anyone bothering to make a shidduch, my son is k’ah very well put together, l am gratefull but people cannot really see who you are, they are not interested, he has semicha along with almost 2 degrees, he’s just right in the middle-but people can’t see that
The only economy boost will be for the shadchanim that are in business to make money.
To #1. The band, photographer and others get alot of $ for their time and expertise. The shadchan should be the same. Don’t expect anyone to do you a favor and say it’s a Mitzva. If they want to help they can. Otherwise u gotta pay. Sorry
much hatzlacha very needed may we hear much good news soon
Mazal Tov!
does these mean there will be an influx of cash in crown heights.
mamesh doing good, making shiduchim and “bederech mimeila” boosting the chasidishe economy
just curious, is there a flat rate? or bigger success rates come with bigger price tags?
Thank you so much for organizing this event and thank you all for your efforts!
My daughter once made an appointment to be interviewed by a “shadchan” and when she got to the woman’s house at the appointed time the “shadchan” wasn’t there. she later called to apologize and set up a new appointment, when my daughter came again she was told by the shadchan that she’s alwfully sorry but she’s in middle of having her floors done and will have to cancel. THAT was the end for my daughter as far as so called shadchanim goes. fast forward a few years, my daughter is still single and disillusioned with frum people in general and… Read more »