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Shadchanim Review 150 Singles

Can we expect a shidduch boom? 20 Chabad shadchanim were presented with 150 profiles of singles ready for marriage. Full Story

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send me your resume
July 9, 2017 11:01 am

I’m a shadchan and looking for 2 chabad boys ages 32 and 33. Florida and Vancovuer BC. Please send suggestions to [email protected]. Thanks! Especially looking for florida and california girls

top top
July 5, 2017 7:16 am

I’ve dealt with chani raksin.she’s one shadchan that made this parsha more pleasant for me & easier to navigate
she’s caring efficient & very on top of the game.she gets it & suggests people that are shayach.she won’t forget about you after you contact her.
May everyone find their bashert

Sarah Yarmush, Leah Lypszyc, Chanie Raksin and many more...
July 3, 2017 11:50 pm

Caring shadchanim

Nice to see some positive action in the shiduchim world
July 3, 2017 4:51 pm

Iyj may it bring many good results soon

iyh
July 3, 2017 4:41 pm

soon by everyone

single girl
July 3, 2017 4:28 pm

I see alot of negativity being thrown at shadchanim. yes it is true, some don’t do it completely “lishma” so to speak. I myself have had some shadchanim experience which was not the best, but when you see that’s not the way you want to work or feel disrespected or whatever the issue might be, you just move on and work with someone else. we must admit that some happy couples found each other through all of these shadchanim which is a beautiful thing regardless of the thought they had, money and so on. the couple is happy and that… Read more »

Single Bochur
July 3, 2017 8:15 am

I once had a shadchan want me to pay them for every date I went on. That is to say, for every girl the shadchan brought up, in order for the date to be set up, I would have to pay a fee. (I don’t recall the amount, however, it was something like $50). I was flabbergasted, “Where is the incentive to help me find a girl I want to marry?” Needless to say, I never work with said Shadchan, though I did appreciate the fact the fees were mentioned upfront. Point of the story? There is none, just thought… Read more »

to 28
July 3, 2017 3:18 am

what is the shadchans name u talk about/

#43
July 3, 2017 12:48 am

you made me laugh

Thank you
July 2, 2017 11:27 am

Thank you Chabad Match for putting together this wonderful event. It was a great idea. We need more of these event. I think it would be good for this kind of event to take place every few months.

Recall
July 2, 2017 10:30 am

Where is master shadchan Zuni Greenbaum?!?!

Insurance
July 2, 2017 9:28 am

Just wondering.
Is there an option where one can pay a fee and receive insurance from the shadchon if the marriage chas vsholom goes sour?

Sanzer rov
July 2, 2017 6:47 am

The sanzer rov had a minhag to give a shadchan some amount of money, even if nothing came out, he would say that every suggestion is a step closer to the real one.

shadchonim review
July 2, 2017 1:02 am

to 20
very well said
make more of does comments
Thank you very much

Please let's get things straight
July 1, 2017 9:26 pm

Just because you may have had a bad experience with a shadchan doesn’t make us all evil. If you have a bad experience with a taxi driver/teacher/doctor/window cleaner are they all evil? Same with shadchanim. NOT every shadchan charges to meet singles. NOT every shadchan charges per date. To the best of my knowledge NO Lubavitcher shadchan charges $7000 for a shidduch. An individual may have OFFERED $5000 for a difficult shidduch. IF the shadchan charges $2000 per side and said that, it’s a different story. There are shadchanim who will give you a LOT of personal attention. Do a… Read more »

17 response to why not post pics of singles instead of shadchanim
July 1, 2017 8:59 pm

Some people want their privacy respected. If you sign up for ChabadMatch and contact shadchanim you’ll see plenty of singles.

exposure exposure exposure
June 30, 2017 2:53 pm

Agree 100%

shadchan
June 30, 2017 11:04 am

nice initiative, but I most confess that I saw the picture of one shadchan there that is a money catcher, I once had an interview with one of them, she charged me $100 , which for a single girl living by her own is a lot of money, specally without parents support, and after that I never heard of her again, even though i tried to reach her numerous times. I guess once she had her money she couldn’t care less about my situation

exposure exposure exposure
June 30, 2017 9:42 am

The solution is for guys and girls who are older than 25 to become real humans to each other rather than paper concepts: Singles events, Shabbos tables, etc. will make Shiduchim.

Points for effort. But...
June 30, 2017 9:40 am

In the 90’s this would have been a big deal. The days of agents are over, it’s about platforms hat connect people. These are all people that mean well but by default have big generation gap and are working like we were still in the shtetel. Shuffle and discuss resumes. If you have employees you know resumes will only tell you that much. We need to first teach people how to connect rather then match. And then base our suggestions on emotional needs conpatiablity not the amount of rambam he learns or how many inches her skirt covers. Most of… Read more »

To number 13
June 30, 2017 9:27 am

Well you should have gotten a normal job with a consistent salary instead of mooching out of everyone’s life savings

Money Comes, Money Goes, Sincerity is what matters
June 30, 2017 9:25 am

I defied every ones opinion if the Boys & Girls are 60% Compatable the rest will work out

Better look for the right spouse then....
June 30, 2017 8:21 am

I have seen couples with great names with no sholom Bayis but
the shadchonim made lots of money. I have seen couples simple with great admiration for each other where the shadchonim made a bit less. Moral of the story choose your true Basherte not necessarily what the Shadchon offers. Remember that at least some shadchonim hav a vested interest to promote a certain spouse.

It's all about the money
June 30, 2017 6:13 am

Why are frum people always so mercenary?

mazal tov!!!
June 30, 2017 4:02 am

Some years back a shadchan told me a major problem is that the girls are on a higher level of yidishkeit than the boys.

Heres your problem-
June 30, 2017 3:20 am

No such thing as “yichus”. Enough with this “royalties” business!
Money should never ever be an issue.
Parents need to stop getting in the way, give your kids more credit to decide for themselves.

This should get you at least half way there.

Not all alike...
June 30, 2017 2:02 am

Not all shadachnim are alike sorry. We had a wonderful one who made about 7 shidduchim in a short period of time. She was kind and worked with both of us. A true gem. And no she wasn’t in it for the money. She mamish wanted to help us.

So much bitterness
June 29, 2017 11:26 pm

B”H all our children are married – every one was a shidduch and we didn’t use a professional shadchan once. Yes, we paid them. Does it really matter who is the keili as long as a shidduch is made? For one of my children I davened especially hard every day because their circumstances were slightly different and today they are happily married with a lovely home and are raising a beautiful frum family. If a shadchan can help go for it, but don’t give up on other conduits, especially Hashem!

wow!
June 29, 2017 10:46 pm

I’m a skeptic of the whole shiduch “system” but I must say I’m impressed by this event. To #1, that seems to be the point of this event to bring efficiency to the shiduch process. Your story points out the difficulties of the shiduch business. On the one hand a shadchan is expected to put in hours of work and sacrifice her own personal schedule (such as fixing her floors) with no guarantee of getting paid for the work. (Unlike other professionals such as a lawyer who is typically paid whether you win or loose the case) on the other… Read more »

Nice
June 29, 2017 10:33 pm

What a real Yente event…. hopefully the Shadchanim will all work together and then maybe we’ll see an influx of Sheduchim

Boy 27
June 29, 2017 10:23 pm

I’m not from Chabad but I go on col to see Chabad news I can tell u most of these shadchanim meeting ar waisted of time if u have Gelt then they look at u if not ur talking to a big wall and I’m from heimeshe family the system is terrible corrupted all over gibst do bizt do gib do nisht bizt do a garnisht the Bottem line is we should all be zoche to the right Zivug in the right time bekorov

Besuros tovos
June 29, 2017 10:17 pm

That is the main thing!

Shatchones is NO A BUSINESS
June 29, 2017 9:46 pm

People should show their A”HaTov as they wish/comfortable with.
BIG MISTAKE TURNING THIS INTO A BUSINESS
IT WILL BACK FIRE IN THE SHORT/LONG TERM
OPEN YOUR EYES/EARS
DON’T PLAY WITH KEDUSHA

older folks need help too
June 29, 2017 9:16 pm

older folks, divorced or never married need shadchanim too. is there help for them/me?

Blah, blah, blah
June 29, 2017 8:32 pm

Shidduchim will be made when people stop playing Shidduch Judge, Jury and Prosecutor. A name comes up for a bochur, or a name comes up for a girl. Its a good suggestion, but Yenta A thinks that he’s too quiet, or she’s not pretty enough or whatever, or Chochom B thinks that he doesnt deserve her or she doesnt deserve him, and the shidduch gets nixed. This goes on and on. Not just the Yentas and the Chochoms. Neighbors, and even family members, aunts, uncles and cousins who ‘keep score’ have been known to nix a date, because they wanted… Read more »

single shadchan?
June 29, 2017 8:20 pm

Why is an unmarried man meeting with women as a shadchan??

Too Many Gatekeepers
June 29, 2017 8:15 pm

The reason we have so many unmarrieds, is not because there are not Shadchanim; its because we have too many.

You read write.

Shadchanim serve as the GateKeepers. You call about a girl or boy, and if its a good idea, they decide YOU dont deserve it, but they have someone else to suggest it to. Biggest names stealers out there, by far.

The Shadchanim are the gatekeepers, and they have way too much power.

Time to democratize the process and allow a evolved flow that will net more shidduchim.

My two cents.

Why not post photos of the boys and girls instead of the shadchanim?
June 29, 2017 8:12 pm

Post photos of prospective people in shidduchim, and not shadchanim. You’ll make a lot more shidduchim that way, trust me.

Gerer Rebbe
June 29, 2017 7:08 pm

Said a ‘Sugulah’ for a Shidach is a date
not this…

To # 1
June 29, 2017 7:04 pm

Sorry to hear you horror story.
Call Akivah Perl, he’s a real mentch who cares about the shidduch crisis in CH.
Hatzlacha

FYI #3
June 29, 2017 6:33 pm

I am a shadchanit and would make more money if I cleaned houses! If we made a shidduch every day, it might be a money making business, but unfortunately, one doesn’t make too many shidduchim often. Many times months can go by where we work hard and make no shidduchim. You want us to give up our days and nights to work for free?
Please take that into consideration next time a shadchan charges you…and if you get set up and nothing comes from it, give your shadchan a tip for her/his efforts!!

At least
June 29, 2017 6:19 pm

Even if it doesnt work out the discomfort involved burns off averos

Yossy H
June 29, 2017 6:17 pm

For all of those who are skeptical of shadcahnim and feel that it has become commercialized. Please realize that there are many shadchanim who really do care and don’t do it just for the financial reward. I highly recommend reaching out to the Shadchan who made my shidduch, Cyna Reisman she’s great.

Is there a fee
June 29, 2017 6:12 pm

Wondering? If so how much?
Can one give the shadchan what one can afford or is there a set price?

Ylg
June 29, 2017 6:10 pm

To. The for real . i would love to send you more contacts only if ya ask . omain

to #3
June 29, 2017 6:01 pm

baha
the more you pay the richer the families you get matched up with. #forreal

l'll be very honest with you
June 29, 2017 5:59 pm

it seems if anything is not exactly in the role model then you can forget anyone bothering to make a shidduch, my son is k’ah very well put together, l am gratefull but people cannot really see who you are, they are not interested, he has semicha along with almost 2 degrees, he’s just right in the middle-but people can’t see that

To #3
June 29, 2017 5:49 pm

The only economy boost will be for the shadchanim that are in business to make money.

Ch'er
June 29, 2017 5:42 pm

To #1. The band, photographer and others get alot of $ for their time and expertise. The shadchan should be the same. Don’t expect anyone to do you a favor and say it’s a Mitzva. If they want to help they can. Otherwise u gotta pay. Sorry

amazing
June 29, 2017 5:13 pm

much hatzlacha very needed may we hear much good news soon

Who is engaged?
June 29, 2017 4:56 pm

Mazal Tov!

boruch hashem.
June 29, 2017 4:52 pm

does these mean there will be an influx of cash in crown heights.
mamesh doing good, making shiduchim and “bederech mimeila” boosting the chasidishe economy
just curious, is there a flat rate? or bigger success rates come with bigger price tags?

An Attendee
June 29, 2017 4:48 pm

Thank you so much for organizing this event and thank you all for your efforts!

FOR REAL?
June 29, 2017 4:33 pm

My daughter once made an appointment to be interviewed by a “shadchan” and when she got to the woman’s house at the appointed time the “shadchan” wasn’t there. she later called to apologize and set up a new appointment, when my daughter came again she was told by the shadchan that she’s alwfully sorry but she’s in middle of having her floors done and will have to cancel. THAT was the end for my daughter as far as so called shadchanim goes. fast forward a few years, my daughter is still single and disillusioned with frum people in general and… Read more »

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