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Rechnitz Takes on Shidduch Crisis

After bailing out institutions and releasing a prisoner from Bolivia, Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz aims to solve the "shidduch crisis." Full Story

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baloney
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baloney

Myself and another older single guy think the so-called shidduch crisis is a joke, in that we are both professional and Bt, and know by name quite a few seemingly nice single woman in their 30s whom we either cannot get a date with, or maybe did get a date, but the women quit.

And the bochurim?
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And the bochurim?

Why the whole focus on the unmarried girls? What about all the 30+ year old unmarried boys who can’t find shidduchim? Anybody have plans for helping them?

Two by two
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Two by two

Two girls for every boy.. Two father in laws to support the learning. In a couple years all the excess girls are soaked up
And the problem is solved.

Harry
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Harry

Rechnitz helps Chabad and loves all Jews, go go go

AAF
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AAF

I DONT KNOW IF THEY WILL LISTEN TO HIM BUT NICE THAT HE TRIES, I DONT KNOW IF CH HAS SOMEONE LIKE THIS, THAT CAN HELP SOME PROBLEMS IN THE KEHILLA WITH SUCH ACHRAYUS

shidduch system a victim of its own success
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shidduch system a victim of its own success

The point of the shidduch system is not to bring people together, it’s to keep them apart. Any wonder that there are dozens of girls who end up alone?

Gershy
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Gershy

This is so passionate. I wish he was a shliach.

the solution:
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the solution:

Maybe it’s time to take your own initiative?
Just like it says in the Mishna.

Maryland
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Maryland

He gave r cunin lots of money, a friend to all jews, also great speaker. Id like to hear him at kinus

CH'er
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CH'er

I have heard a lot about R’ Rechnitz and I am always amazed at his kind and sincere generosity. May Hashem repay him a thousandfold for all the millions he gives.

Dont be smarter than Halacha
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Dont be smarter than Halacha

Halacha is very clear see Even Ezer Simen alef par.3 One must listen to shidduchim & get married at age 18 to 20. The only one that is allowed to delay is Someone with the following 3 catagories; A-)immersed in learning, B-)would not have food, C-)his yaitzer is not misgeber on him. If there is such a bochur today he should see a psychiatrist not a Rosh Yeshiva. All the boys that say they are not listening to shidduchim until 23 (to have a good time) are guilty of causing 10% of bnos yisroel staying single. Its time to tell… Read more »

Just Saying
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Just Saying

Superb, but as long as people focused on looks and superficial things this wont help

Response to 1 &2
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Response to 1 &2

Contact me at [email protected]. I’ll find you young ladies as prospects between 27-30 or older in a flash

Grateful parent
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Grateful parent

We were BH successful in marrying off our daughter late 20s
Which special shadchan can I approach to do the same for children of my friends in the same way Rechnitz is trying?
Is it likely his team can help our Chabad late singles too?
I too am in business and wish to follow his example

Speak up
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Speak up

It’s often just perpetrating misery, all these arranged and artificial ‘shidduch’ dates, and subsequent marriages, which more often than is desirable, after the ‘honeymoon period’ prove contentious at best, and end in problematic divorces at worst. It is so shallow, to promote a choice of marriage partner predominantly on the basis of eg. good looks/dress size, wealth, learning, or yichus, rather than good and interesting personality, humour, kindness and sympathy. Why can’t youngsters, and oldsters for that matter, just ‘meet up’ anyway they so choose, at suitable venues, eg via parties, at work, internet dating, etc, and make their own… Read more »

Thinker
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Thinker

There are plenty of boys older then 25 as well. If shadchanim would focus on the older boys, much of the older girls would be married. But as always, the younger is easier and more naive, so easier, faster = more $

To 'speak up'
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To 'speak up'

Oy your facts are mixed up. Divorce rate is way, way, way higher in the ‘better’ venue that is totally influenced by the artificial world of movies and tv. Yes, they may b in lala land for a couple of yrs but walk into any non frum or public schools and see the average child is from a broken home Then contrast that by walking into a yeshiva BH where most are from intact families. Your second gross modconception is that couples who date thru the shidduch process have no choice in the matter and personality doesnt come into the… Read more »

A suggestion
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A suggestion

If people would accept the idea that it’s okay for a wife to be older than her husband, that would help a lot.

I am not frum
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I am not frum

But I think that this is a fine system, and I agree that if having lotsa kids is a priority, even a prerogative of sorts, then starting at the age of 20-21 for both spouses is the way to go.

#18 is right.
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#18 is right.

What better example than the Rebbe ZY”A and Rebbetzin.

Al Pi Torah:
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Al Pi Torah:

Sholom uVrochoh. In Shulchan Aruch (Even haEzer) the term ‘Shidduchim’ refers to the discussion between the two parties of an intent to marry and related subjects (that people should discuss marrying eachother, and the relevant technicalities before pursuing an actual mariage). Harei ‘At’ Mikudeshes ‘Li’ The Man is sanctifying the woman. Even when done through a shliach (an agent), the man himself is sanctifying the woman. The man himself is discussing ‘shidduchim’ with the prospective wife. Where is the Halochic origin for this purported requirement of a “Shadchan” in the first place??? Are we not taught a man should not… Read more »

Wow.
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Wow.

I agree with everything Rechnitz’s article says, I hope everyone takes heed and listens bc it would really help so many singles get married! Rechnitz in amazing, his tzedaka is incredible, and when the article says ” his huge heart” they don’t exaggerate a bit. His kindness is outstanding. and u can see this, the way he is so committed to helping with this concern even though he himself has no daughters in shidduchim , as far as I know.
thank u!!

Weak generation
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Weak generation

I think it is all about our generation. This issue is within any community now, and crown heights is even more i guess. Nothing can be done unless to start teaching girls and boys about this topic at earlier. And then before they get married both should spend some time about shalom bait classes, not 2-3 but a few moths to lear how to live after honeymoon is over.

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