By COLlive reporter
Marriage is a union between man and woman. The discussion of marriage seems to have a uniting effect as well.
Chabad rabbonim and mashpi’m from across the ideological spectrum and geographical boundaries joined for an unprecedented call to action titled “Order of the Day.”
Growing weary of the influence Western society has on the frum community and the growing number of singles, 33 rabbis signed two letters urging marriage at an “early” age.
“In recent decades, an opinion has taken root in the community that advocates marriage at a late age. Supposedly, a bochur should be 23-24 until he can marry and build a Jewish home,” the document reads.
Among the signers were Rabbi Shlomo Zarchi and Rabbi Michoel Golumb of 770 Yeshiva, Rabbi Manis Friedman and Rabbi Shlomo Majesky who both lead women’s institutes, Crown Heights dayan Rabbi Shlomo Segal, Kfar Chabad Mashpia Rabbi Zalman Gopin and Toronto Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Akiva Wagner.
Citing the Mishna, Gemara and Shulchan Aruch, they state that “early marriages are a guarantee for purity and holiness, and prevent a lot of unwelcome things.”
They also quote letters of the Rebbe, expressing his wish that Ashkenazim in this generation would adopt the custom of other streams to marry young.
“The justification for postponing marriage (as ruled in Shulchan Aruch) is when a bochur wants to sit and study Torah, without having “a millstone around his neck.” But if he is not sitting and studying Torah day and night – he has no excuse to avoid marriage,” they added.
A second letter was written by rabbis and poskim, among them Miami Rabbi Leibel Schapiro, Cleveland Rabbi Sholom Ber Chaikin, California Rabbi Yosef Shusterman, Toronto Rabbi Dovid Schochet, Crown Heights Rabbi Yaacov Schwei and Rabbi Yosef Braun, and London Dayan Levi Raskin.
Signers from Israel were Rabbi Yitzchok Yehuda Yeruslavsky of Beis Din Chabad in Israel, Kfar Chabad Rabbi Mordechai Shmuel Ashkenazi, Bnei Brak Rabbi Moshe Landa and Kiryat Gat Rabbi Moshe Havlin.
“Unfortunately, a situation has been created in recent years that Talmidei hatmimim, who are in the later phase of Yeshiva, don’t return to an appropriate structure in a Yeshiva.
“And this period before their engagement and before their marriage isn’t organized properly as a preparation for building their home in marriage.
“And for the sake of the home that they are destined to build with G-d’s help, advancing the time of their marriage and interest in shidduchim at an earlier age, will surely benefit that the building of their home will be with the blessing of the Rebbe.”
COLlive.com has learned that the initiator of this rare call was Rabbi Yochanan Gourarie, Chief Rabbi of the City of Holon who has a Chabad Yeshiva under his auspices.
“The generation has changed,” he said in an interview. “It’s not like it once was. Today, the less one ‘roams around’ – the better, especially those who have ended their kevutzah / yeshiva years.
“For a boy and a girl, the sooner they can get married – the better,” he says and plans to send the letters by post to Lubavitchers in Israel.